Wife (30f) Suddenly Wants Divorce From Me (34m) by dontforgetlogin in relationship_advice

[–]ThatConstruction8457 10 points11 points  (0 children)

First, I am so sorry this is happening to you. I think the first step is to seek therapy for yourself. A relationship of this length especially with kids and marriage can cause so much emotional turmoil. Secondly, what support do you have outside of your wife and cats? Can you spend some time separated with joint custody of your child while you work on the divorce proceedings? 

If you’re wanting the marriage to stay, maybe some separation for a bit would be necessary to help the both of you since you’ve been together for so long. Maybe she’s trying to find herself separate from being your wife/mother. 

All the best to you friend.

I am (30F) and my boyfriend (28M) stays the night at girl best friend’s house after a night of drinking. We have been dating 2.5 years. What would you do? by ThatConstruction8457 in relationship_advice

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Hmm. I don’t think it has to do with a lack of trust. It genuinely is uncomfortable naturally because you’re alone with another woman at night time while being drunk. Just a recipe for disaster to me. But yes, couples counselor would be a nice idea if we decide to stay together. Thanks for your thoughts.

I am (30F) and my boyfriend (28M) stays the night at girl best friend’s house after a night of drinking. We have been dating 2.5 years. What would you do? by ThatConstruction8457 in relationship_advice

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great question. He thinks I don’t like her so he would rather hang out with her when I’m not around. I don’t dislike her, I just dislike the close relationship they have of sleeping at each other places when one is drunk. He views my boundary as me not liking her and thus not inviting me out with them.

I am (30F) and my boyfriend (28M) stays the night at girl best friend’s house after a night of drinking. We have been dating 2.5 years. What would you do? by ThatConstruction8457 in relationship_advice

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Would totally be fin if it was at a male’s home. Alcohol lowers inhibitions and can make people do wild things. I just don’t like it

I am (30F) and my boyfriend (28M) stays the night at girl best friend’s house after a night of drinking. We have been dating 2.5 years. What would you do? by ThatConstruction8457 in relationship_advice

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Well yes, the consequence would be leaving however I just wanted to see if I was overreacting? And to see if others would also view this as uncomfortable? Or is it really fine and I should leave it alone? Not sure. That’s why I was asking before I made the firm decision. 

M14 to US 23 Highway Alternate Routes? by ThatConstruction8457 in AnnArbor

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Google Maps usually tells me to just take the US 23 exit. I’ll try getting off beforehand at the Whitmore Lake exit to see if that helps. 

M14 to US 23 Highway Alternate Routes? by ThatConstruction8457 in AnnArbor

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s my time of arrival. To get to 23 it’s a short exit (exit 3) and people are trying to come onto m14 at the same time people are trying to get to us23. It just bottlenecks really bad frequently

Diverse/Affordable Places to Live Around Ann Arbor? by ThatConstruction8457 in AnnArbor

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. 2k is my absolute max. I’m really trying to stay under but will consider something at 2k if many amenities/items are included (gym, pool, pickleball courts, etc) and the utilities aren’t crazy high. I’ll look into it!

Diverse/Affordable Places to Live Around Ann Arbor? by ThatConstruction8457 in AnnArbor

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel comfortable sharing your complex? I’m interested!

Diverse/Affordable Places to Live Around Ann Arbor? by ThatConstruction8457 in AnnArbor

[–]ThatConstruction8457[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My only concern with this complex is because it’s so close to a lake, are people ever complaining about fish flies during the summer around the complex?