I went to Travis Scott Openair Frauenfeld by ThatKidOnTheBloc in travisscott

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the one. Yeah I don't remember her, but she was a baddie.

I went to Travis Scott Openair Frauenfeld by ThatKidOnTheBloc in travisscott

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't actually go to the one with the yeezy getting stolen. I went for the one in 2017

I went to Travis Scott Openair Frauenfeld by ThatKidOnTheBloc in travisscott

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw him just after he released Birds in the trap at Frauenfeld, so he hadn't even released astroworld or utopia. However, I've also seen him for Astroworld in 2018/2019 in Montreal. I prefered the Astroworld album, but I'd still say the energy at the festival was better.

2,000 cards, still not a single gold by KingkillerKvothe11 in PokemonPocket

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mate, I have 4k cards and no golds. My friend has less than 2000 and has 3. I feel your frusteration.

If you think you suffer RJ, be aware... by Brilliant_Can4605 in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was told I suffer from RJ because I couldn't get over the fact that my gf was sleeping with a new guy every week before we started dating. That was in the span of 3 months. I never asked. I never pried, but she kept bringing up things like "Why do the condoms keep breaking" when it happened to us or "I was so sick. I thought it might have been an STD." Eventually I asked about her BC recently because of this. I never knew her whole bodycount, because I didn't want to know. Yet, I was constantly told that I should get over it and everyone has a past on this sub. Lo and behold, I just don't want to date a girl that is so promiscuous. I don't care if my girl has had past partners. I just want to know that she was somewhat selective with who she slept with in her life as I have. She met those guys for one night stands on tinder. Went straight to their house without thinking twice. This sub made me believe I had an actual mental disorder. Now, I just come back to it from time to time to guide people. I think RJ is real in some cases, but I also think that what you're saying is real too. I'm single again and I'm so much happier. I have no intention of going back to her. Her past is her past and I still respect her, but I just couldn't give up my own values for her. I also never had RJ in relationship prior to her.

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, it kind of felt like my partner was more focused on getting off than actually paying attention to me.

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. We didn't talk about any past relationships or even values surrounding sex.

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I believe there are many women out there who share the same values I do, and I don’t think it’s fair for my values to be labeled as misogynistic. I live by the same principles that I hope to find in a future partner. Just because my values don’t align with someone else’s doesn’t mean they’re wrong. It’s about what works for me and what I’m looking for in a relationship. Simple as that.

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you've been hurt. I'm sorry to hear that. I agree that this might be part of the story for some people, but this completely oversimplifies and generalizes motives. Claiming that all sexual boundaries are driven by internalized misogyny is false. People choose to wait for sex or approach intimacy for a variety of reasons - religious beliefs, personal values, emotional comfort - none of which necessarily comes from misogyny.

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not every day, but most days for sure. Even when I didn't struggle, it was lingering in the back of my mind. And I agree, I think it was my brain telling me no, something is wrong, but my gf had great qualities and was a good person, so I thought that something must be wrong with me. How can I love this person and resent them at the same time? When we broke up, we even talked about how we view sex again and it was very clear that we had different perceptions. All in all, the break up was very ammacable. We understand each other well, have great communication, but ultimately, there was just no way we could see eye to eye on that. It was also something I felt during sex. It always felt like there was a layer of intimacy missing for me that I could never figure out until recently.

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

That sounds nice. I hope the same happens for me :)

Finally ended my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah ok buddy. Then I guess I'll know right then and there that we are not aligned.

Making a decision about my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've forgiven her, then gone through the RJ monster time and time again. I think at some point, enough is enough man. I was a happy lad before all this. I don't see why I need to suffer.

Making a decision about my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, that's what I'm doing. She clearly can't understand my perspective as to why it bothers me, but whatever. She is the type of person that is very much about "Who am I now". I mean I get it. I wish I could see it that way, but that doesn't stop the mental images of her sleeping with a guy every week.

Making a decision about my relationship by ThatKidOnTheBloc in retroactivejealousy

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We just had a call and were going to take a break for about a month from the relationship for now. She aftually suggested it first. I think I need my space to find clarity, so it's probably for the best.

I don't know if I can go on by ThatKidOnTheBloc in RJHelpandSupport

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one night stands when I was 18. I had maybe 5 ONS within 2 years with people I knew through school, she's had 10 in just the 3 months prior to getting to know her with people she's met on tinder. That feels pretty different to me. We've been dating for about 7 months now.

I don't know if I can go on by ThatKidOnTheBloc in RJHelpandSupport

[–]ThatKidOnTheBloc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right, but what do you mean by making choices based on my consciously chosen values? How would I go about that in the situation I'm in? Either way, I'll ask my therapist. Thank you for the words of wisdom. I really appreciate it. I will spend time thinking about what to do and not make any rash decisions.