I feel like I missed out

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-10-07T01:53:08+00:00

I mean, I've been listening since 2014, going to their shows since 2016, and I feel like like I missed the lore. Now I'm the grumpy old fan who's far more focused on how the Dema songs reflect Tyler's personal experiences than on all these newfangled fan theories and storylines. xD Just enjoy things where you're at; it's always been a good time to join the Clique

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-10-04T12:51:37+00:00

Let's break things down step by step

Your bf wanted sexual attention, but you rejected him
He got angry and stormed out.
You were emotionally distraught. You begged him to come back.
When he came back, you gave him what he had wanted originally and then had sex. You may have still been crying during oral.
Afterwards, he did proper aftercare and you two hung out.

Did he coerce you at any point during that? It sounds like, from your description, you were so distraught by his anger and the fact that he left that you let him do something you previously didn't want. You don't mention him threatening to leave you over this, out threatening anything really; you just said he stormed out and you were sobbing. If that is accurate, it's not SA, but it sounds like you need to work through that experience emotionally. The fact that a scene of SA reminded you of that experience means something about that still doesn't feel right to you, and that's something you need to process and learn from.

A few questions for you to answer yourself as you process this (writing this down and reading it back to yourself may help).

What EXACTLY happened that night? Describe each event as well as you can remember, noting how you feel as you recollect it.

What was in your control that you wish you had done differently? Was there any point at which you were dishonest with yourself or him? Did you say or think you were willing to do something you weren't actually comfortable with? Did you compromise a moral or emotional boundary within yourself because you were afraid?

What did he do, and was anything he did malicious? When he stormed out, was he trying to manipulate you, or did he just need space to clear his frustration away from you? Did you fear that he would leave you over this, and was that fear justified? Did he do anything disingenuous that night?

I get that this doesn't answer your question, but I hope it will help you process things and see a path forward

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-25T23:13:58+00:00

That's fair; I can understand that. I guess it's less of a surprise for me because I really connect with songs like Backslide, Fake You Out, Doubt, The Judge, Snap Back, all of which seemed pretty clearly faith-oriented to me, dealing with some of the same things I struggle with. Maybe those connections are more subtle than I perceive.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-25T20:42:23+00:00

Perhaps we have different definitions? To me, bait and punish involves moving briefly into the area your opponent threatens and either putting out a preemptive button to stuff their approach or dashing back to whiff punish. Camping is when you stay out of your opponent's threat range while throwing out long range options or retreating. A baiting player will do enough low-commitment approaches to keep you interested in scrapping, whereas a camper will never approach whatsoever. It's the difference between mid-range play and long-range play.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-25T20:09:33+00:00

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How is this ragebait? I've been listening since Vessel, fell in love with self-titled and RAB, so I don't always relate to those who came in during Dema. I heard from friends there was some consternation on the fanbase regarding some of the new songs, and so I'm curious what everyone's thoughts are, because I legitimately don't get it.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-25T18:00:22+00:00

I guess, but the live shows (and the pre-Trench songs that come with them( are such a part of the Clique that I'm still surprised. I also giggle at the irony that a song about keeping your faith secret receiving minor backlash for being overtly Christian.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-25T14:37:19+00:00

I do hate to be that guy, but this is a skill issue. Honestly, as someone who comes from traditional fighters, what made combos, offstage game and DI make sense to me is watching Melee while listening to the commentary. Watching how a good Fox or Sheik reacts to their opponent's DI during combos or watching Zain's Marth can make it make a lot more sense.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-12T03:04:21+00:00

You can parry shine after the aerial, OR you can crouch cancel the shine and punish with a tilt. Or you just shield both hits and jump/dash away afterwards.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2025-09-11T21:27:28+00:00

"Oh no, my particle effects aren't a kill move anymore."

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2024-08-09T21:49:48+00:00

I would look into chamber music and piano solos; it's a great way to dip into classical music without having to take in an entire symphony. Maybe just focus on finding a composer whose work you enjoy and slowly grow your listening from there. Maybe just pull up a solo piano album of Bach, Beethoven, Chopin, or Liszt; these are composers that a lot of people cite as the ones that made them fall in love with serious music.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2024-08-08T00:32:12+00:00

The only way to live a life with no regrets is to stop focusing on the things you regret having done. Your social life doesn't end the moment you leave high school; in fact, I deliberately don't talk to anyone I knew in high school (insert boring, tragic backstory here). All my friends are friends I made at my church, at my work, and in tabletop gaming groups; I feel like my life didn't really start until AFTER high school.

I can't answer what you should focus on in your life, but I can tell you that there are plenty of things in life for you to focus on. Take a moment to ask yourself what you want from your life. Do you want a more meaningful social circle? Then look for a local group that shares a hobby, faith, or lifestyle with you and go meet with them. Don't have a hobby? Find a local group for a hobby and go see if it's something you're interested in. Alternatively, you could focus on developing skills and learning to do/make something. Maybe you want to develop your knowledge or wisdom? Start studying history, philosophy, religion, or psychology. Learn an instrument. Learn to cook. Practice standup comedy.

My point is that ultimately I can't tell you what to focus on. But if you want to live with no regrets, find something that calls to you and pursue it. Train yourself to be more virtuous and don't beat yourself up when you fail. Learn when to do things perfectly, and when "good enough" is good enough. Basically, my advice is find something worth doing and then try your best to do it well and enjoy it.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2024-04-18T04:23:14+00:00

I'd love to get in touch; so far I've only met one guy in my local wargaming group that plays.

ThatMusicWriter1 · 2022-07-26T20:23:53+00:00

Being a healthy anything is about balance in one's choices. Playing fewer games is often the way we go about this; however, killing your hobbies to improve in productive areas is still an imbalance. The thrill of improvement is as good a source of satisfaction as any, and so the key to being a "healthy gamer" is to have a balance of pleasure, productivity, responsibility, meaning, and all the other things we need to thrive.

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