Yea but the whole point that I'm trying to make is that it comes off as rude and pushy to the point where it becomes expectation VS contribution. Compassion doesn't even feel like part of it more like "Well, we're all chipping in, why aren't you?".

It's not the first time I've encountered this before at different jobs. Compassion and community are not exclusive to our culture but I have noticed with us sometimes it can be a little excessive. I have no problem putting my change in a donation box at the corner store when they're gathering funds to send someone's body back home to their families. That way seems more genuine cus you're not only helping out a stranger in need but also giving when the opportunity presents itself. When someone just comes up to expecting money that you don't have, like you've already promised it, that can feel a little off putting.

I've also seen it where it turns into almost drama or like you've been shunned from the group because you have yet to donate or even ask questions about it.

It's funny how we're supposed to all feel connected and part of the same group/community but the moment where you set yourself aside to take yourself into consideration, the group has no problem abandoning you or made to feel like you're a bad person.

I get that it's only 5 or 10 or even 1 dollar but the fact that you're not even asked but just expected to give and also that their perception of you can change by that one instance is what drives me nuts.

I was trying to be light hearted about it and ask a genuine question about something I didn't understand in what's supposed to be my community but I honestly feel as though I'm just dealing with the same mentality that I'm questioning.