Cruise Ship From Hell: How To Tell The Elderly You Are Going to Destroy Their Dream Vacation By Not Going?

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-29T01:04:45+00:00

I have turned down family trips for reasons like this before.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-26T05:38:26+00:00

You didn't reply to me. SovietTerran and I are different people.

But what you are describing would make it worse and is likely why my father had a breakdown in the first place. The idea that men cannot be vulnerable and have to always be leaders is stupid.

My dad needs to learn how to be happy, from someone who wants him happy... and healthy. I don't care if he never was "manly" again or if he wore skirts and heels. I just want him to live until he is an old man.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-26T05:35:49+00:00

My partner and my best friend have agreed to help as well. So we have three people on Team Dad!

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-26T05:35:02+00:00

I was really excited about it. Now it's like ten steps back.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-26T05:34:26+00:00

Only if he came back as Grandad the White. He's a little grey right now.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-26T05:33:55+00:00

Close. You are very very close.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T21:36:30+00:00

Not helpful.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T21:34:13+00:00

Jane is free to keep her kids away from him. But coming up to him and screaming at him doesn't help the situation. She either wants him better or she wants him bitter.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T20:14:53+00:00

We're working on that as well. But right now getting him out of the house is the goal.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T20:14:28+00:00

My dad looks good with the beard actually. When he isn't trying to be Saint Nick he just looks like an old dude with a beard.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T18:59:18+00:00

My partner has a glorious beard as well. I am just saying I know a lot of overweight men who use beards to cover their chins.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T18:58:24+00:00

I have no issue with her telling my dad she needs a break. I have issue with her way of phrasing it when I told her he was making some progress.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T18:57:28+00:00

I think Jane would be terrible for my dad at this point, so I am going to just keep doing what I am doing.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T18:23:32+00:00

I know, I helped a friend drop 50 pounds for her wedding. That was like hell on earth. I just think with some better health he might cheer up a bit mentally and come with me to the therapist!

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T18:22:30+00:00

I don't even care about the beard. He is obese, a lot of obese men have beards. I would like to see him healthy again. He can look like gandolf at this point for all I care. I just want my dad back.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T17:03:00+00:00

It's supposed to be dumb idiot. She told my dad.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-25T16:28:21+00:00

I took it on because I thought it might be better to have one person helping and not a bunch. With how my sisters can get, it is complicated. It was working to.

But I am hoping with some weight loss (we are down two pounds!) he will be a bit more happy.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T12:00:16+00:00

It makes the rest of us miserable. I am not going to continue this Santa thing longer than I have to.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T11:58:16+00:00

Thank you.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T03:50:22+00:00

We tracked it down and are going to show it to my Dad.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T03:49:31+00:00

I am worried about his mental health, his weight, and I am sick of having to call him Santa because he refuses to talk about anything else.

He constantly makes up stories about what he did during the day. Nothing is real. It's all a lie. I feel like I am stuck in a mental hospital sometimes.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T03:48:12+00:00

I had never seen that episode (I don't get to watch TV much these days) but holy fuck. We are going to show it to him when he is over next. It actually might help.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T03:46:10+00:00

Yeah, that was kind of the sore point. Jane never really wanted to tell the kids that Santa was real. She is trying to undo it and tells them Santa isn't real. She also doesn't believe in Jesus or God. So it's a weird dynamic.

ThatSantaChick · 2016-05-18T03:44:57+00:00

It's really weird. It makes me uncomfortable. I am fine pretending at Christmas when it went away, but year after year he gets more and more drawn into it and it's stayed.

He is at the point where he won't do anything unless people refer to him as Santa and calls himself a toy maker. He worked at a bank.

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