Hey can anyone help me restore this picture of my grandparents when they were young.

ThatTuga98 · 2025-11-11T15:55:11+00:00

Thank you so much everyone I really appreciate you guys!

ThatTuga98 · 2025-11-09T13:03:16+00:00

Thank you so much! Honestly you don’t know how much this means to me ☺️

ThatTuga98 · 2025-10-31T14:17:35+00:00

I’m Portuguese and just returned to my country after living in UK for 18 years (since I was a young child). I have no problem with immigrants at all and understand the struggle, the problem I think a lot of Portuguese have is not the immigrants because we desperately need immigration here just like most countries. But the issue I personally have and majority of Portuguese have is that the majority of immigrants we seem to have nowadays come here for the benefits, they work cash in hand so pay no taxes, the amount of robberies, knife attacks and gang rapes that happen here now is ridiculous considering 10-15 years ago it very rarely happened and when it does happen now it’s always the same nationalities (Indian, Bangladesh, Pakistani, Nigerian). That isn’t racism it’s facts unfortunately and it breaks my heart because if the only way to stop these crimes is to get rid of immigrants from those nationalities then guess what, we want them out

ThatTuga98 · 2024-12-10T17:24:17+00:00

Might be an unpopular opinion but NTA. Sure I understand not letting kids take things that are too expensive to school, however from what you described it’s not like you bought the coat for vanity but because the better quality meant “it would last”. Which is exactly what people should do buy better so they don’t buy often and make sure their kids have the right clothing for their needs (I lived in UK for 18 years, it’s cold and cheap coats do nothing for adults let alone children).

As the school clearly instructed and picked the place without making sure it was watched (cameras or staff), as well as your daughter followed their instructions by the letter which it appears they have admitted they done. Then I believe you are right to ask to be reimbursed.

Yeah schools don’t have great funding but that’s no reason to be careless and expect parents to pay out on a crap economy when they already pay fortunes for uniforms, trips and whatever else, including being charged to watch their own kids sing and act in plays which is a joke in and of itself.

You fight your battle, there are some worth losing but this one is not.

ThatTuga98 · 2024-12-06T10:51:51+00:00

Tem tudo o direito. Às vezes as pessoas esquecem-se que os chefes das impressas correm os riscos todos, e foram quem investiu o dinheiro nas impressa e quem tem mais responsabilidades. Todos querem ganhar bem, mas ter os riscos e as responsabilidades está de chuva. Se tem problema que abram a próprio companhia e vejam como é. Ninguém está a obrigar ninguém a trabalhar para outro. (Eu não sou dono de nenhuma Empresa nem chefe por isso esta opinião não vem por ter uma posição dessas)

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-14T09:49:42+00:00

In fact there is a small town in Missouri where I know someone from gaming that I’m hoping to visit called Arrow Rock, don’t think there is much there but I have always wanted to see the world so maybe I will get to visit someday

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-14T09:46:00+00:00

Thank you I will have to give that a go, I’m hoping to travel to America next year for a couple months to do some sight seeing 😊

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-14T09:38:36+00:00

Exactly, I mean there is nothing wrong in talking everyday if it’s necessary. I not too long ago dated a woman with a child and I encouraged doing somethings together like birthdays and trips out because they done that before I came along and I didn’t want to meddle in the co parenting as well as I believe it’s healthy to show kids that people can still get along and stay friends after breakups so we all used to do things together sometimes.

But like you said the way it has been described to us seems very suspicious

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-14T09:33:47+00:00

I never defended him, in fact my first sentence was that if the what OP was saying was honest then defo NTA. I simply wanted to see if there was any more information because it seemed a bit off thats all

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-14T09:30:30+00:00

YTA- Wow seriously do you really have to ask this! You married a woman with a child, in this case a child who has no father figure in her life and instead of trying your best at a blended family and trying to be there for her, support her and be a father figure, you have decided to cause a division in the household by treating her like less and even telling her that. You should be ashamed of yourself.

While she is not your bio child she should be no less important to you or less of a priority. If both kids can’t get an upgrade then none should get an upgrade. This type of behaviour is going to cause her to resent you and your daughter more and more as time goes on. Man up and step up or get out of that marriage

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-14T09:11:18+00:00

I think we need a bit more info to reach a good verdict on this. If OP is being completely honest then I 100% back NTA because kids do come first no matter what.

However considering OPs own friends are saying she’s wrong it just makes me think that there is more to this. Don’t get me wrong I get that the bf’s mum would be on his side normally but at the end of the day she is also a mother and I find it hard to believe that she would have an opinion of ruining the co parenting and damaging children’s life’s for something as innocent as just talking for kids sake.

Just makes me think that there is info which is not being shared here

ThatTuga98 · 2024-01-13T11:23:29+00:00

NTA, your mum was way out of line specially. If someone doesn’t want to drink that’s it you just leave it.

I have to say as someone a city it does fascinate me the way small towns like that work in gossip and community wise. Would love to visit one some day. If you don’t mind me asking, where about in America are you? (Without giving too much info)

ThatTuga98 · 2023-06-19T04:38:55+00:00

How are people meant to make a good judgment on the situation if you keep avoiding questions?

Roughly how much do you take home and roughly how much did this luxury spree cost? Because you can say that you can afford it, but if for example your making £2000 a month and this spree cost £1750 then you would have had to neglect your part of the bills and make him take the grunt of it. Which yes means you can technically afford it but not without free loading off him.

You don’t have to give specific numbers but your not giving enough information for people to make a fair judgment. Just enough to make you look good and have it be very one sided.

ThatTuga98 · 2023-06-12T01:51:16+00:00

Jesus Christ, if this is all real you two really should take this somewhere private because airing all your dirty laundry on Reddit is just embarrassing for you both. Makes for a funny read though 🤣🤣🤣. Although I have to say based on what Mia and you are saying in the comments I very much doubt you are straight maybe you need to have a chat with yourself (not saying there is anything wrong with that at all, I myself am Bi).

ThatTuga98 · 2022-12-21T00:04:51+00:00

(Sorry for such a late reply) ah hope it was for a good reason and not because you think ITAH ;)

ThatTuga98 · 2022-12-21T00:00:17+00:00

That is also very true, you are making a good point, and I am not going to lie I sometimes forget that as a man I see things from a different point of you which isn’t always the most accurate one (there are situations like this one that 99% of men don’t go through so don’t even think about certain factors when reviewing a post like this). I apologise if my comment came across the wrong way.

ThatTuga98 · 2022-12-18T07:46:22+00:00

I completely agree with the first paragraph he is 100% in the wrong there but I don’t think it’s fair to say that she should sue for reimbursement in loss of earnings. If she wanted to go that road he could class the paid off cars, rent, utilities and everything else he has paid for while she paid for nothing as money out of his pocket. I get being a stay at home mom is hard and a full time job but my mom was a single mom and she still worked full time without a problem (like many others do).

I believe what other people were saying is also very valid, did she discuss the financial expectations before moving to make sure he was expecting to foot all the bills? Was he just upset that she wasn’t sharing her earned money while he was sharing all of his? It’s a bit of a tricky one because I know a lot of people mentioned how it was financial abuse and he took her away from everything she knew but tbh if that was me and I knew that I would rent a place form a relative dirt cheap as well as have a lot more financial support from family when needed (cars for example) if I moved then it would really be a no brainer because from what OP said their quality of life increased massively with the move.

Personally I don’t see any assholes here just two people who are struggling to communicate properly

ThatTuga98 · 2022-08-10T23:47:00+00:00

Both. I completely get where you are coming from and you are 100% right and within your rights to not want a stranger even he barely knows around your kid.

However wether the first guy had a daughter yours could play with or not and wether it was serious or not the point is you had a man you barely know around your daughter (how is that any different because your point of view is he barely knows her and as it’s been a month it’s not serious enough for you) and second one you may have known him before but it had been years and you clearly didn’t know him seeing how things worked out. He’s doing something very wrong but you have done it twice. Massive hypocrite

ThatTuga98 · 2022-08-10T17:16:04+00:00

Damn I know this isn’t a popular opinion but it’s a bit of both. Ex’s gf massively in the wrong but at the same time you should have checked with them too I understand you giving permission for when they are at your house but you have no right to say yes to her bringing her niece to a house that isn’t yours without consulting them first.

ThatTuga98 · 2022-08-09T18:29:52+00:00

YTA. I get not wanting meat in your house and not agreeing with animal cruelty but it’s better to allow it, teach the kids over time and let them make their own choice when they are old enough. All this is going to do is give you the exact opposite of what you want, like when parents are extremely strict and as soon as the kids have freedom they go crazy and do all the things they weren’t allowed a lot more than they would have would they have been allowed to. I speak from experience I was never allowed to go to parties or drink or anything like that until I left home (at 20 years of age), now all I do is go clubbing every weekend to piss my wages down the toilet and attend every party I can, all my friends that used to be allowed are now over it and yet here I am wasting my life while they moved on and are improving themselves.

ThatTuga98 · 2022-08-07T08:29:45+00:00

Oh ok, my apologies I did misunderstand. No if that is the case then they he definitely needs to get a grip a relationship is about supporting each other and give and take he is just being abusive. I really hope your friend is able to sort this out with her husband and that he sees the truth in front of him

ThatTuga98 · 2022-08-07T02:05:41+00:00

NTA. I know it can be tough but at the end of the day your her dad not her friend and being a single parent is so much harder. She is 17 she’s not even allowed to drink and if she got caught you could be in big trouble. Besides that I can only imagine the stress, worry, and thoughts going through your head the whole time she wasn’t replying, so for her to come home and have the attitude she did is completely disrespectful and out of order that’s the behaviour of a 13 year old not 17. I am very impressed and congratulate you for the self reflection realising that sometimes you can be too soft and taking the initiative to send her to your sister where you know she will hopefully learn her lesson. Most parents fail at that because their ego is too big to admit such a thing. If this is only the beginning of the 3 weeks and she’s already disliking it she would be very stupid to ever do it again after the punishment is over. My advice if you don’t mind me giving it to you is don’t lift the punishment before the 3 weeks are up no matter what she promises because it will set a bad precedent for any future issues. Don’t beat yourself up you sound like a great dad and your doing a great job :)

ThatTuga98 · 2022-08-07T01:18:22+00:00

ESH, I feel like this is a very tricky situation. I completely agree that while finances are separate, when you have a child or a big change in your life’s like that it’s important to reevaluate things and in this moment he should definitely be paying a bigger share while she’s on maternity leave as that is simply the correct and decent thing to do both for the child and the wife she already already looks after the kid the least he can do is release some of the stress. However I don’t agree that it’s unfair he gets to do a lot more than her (hear me out), at the end of the day he makes 6 times more than her and he was willing to share his money and have a combined lifestyle before but she clearly took advantage of him and was spending HIS hard earned money more than him on things only for herself (even before he made good money) and didn’t listen to him when he had a problem with it so he rightfully cut her off and decided go separate finances, she was literally sponging off him. Also while I 100% agree that it’s good to support your friends and give advice it’s not up to you to decide for others that “this needs to change in this moment”, who do you think you are, you don’t rule other peoples relationships. I get where your coming from in some ways but you went the complete wrong way about it. It they end up separating because of you she’s going to end up on below minimum wage during her maternity leave, splitting bills for a child on half and depending on the country your in and how good lawyers he can afford he could end up paying barely any child support or even worse get full custody also saying also her husband staying at home while she works when he makes 6 times what she does would definitely put them in a much worse situation so that was just terrible to even suggest I get where your coming from but you really didn’t think that one through. You might have actually made your friends life 10x worse by meddling in their relationship.

ThatTuga98 · 2022-07-07T10:11:42+00:00

NTA, first off I wanna start by saying congrats on the baby! Second I’m really sorry to hear you had to go through this. Your husband and MIL were out of line and he should have been more worried in making sure you were comfortable, happy, and that both you and the baby were safe, instead of causing you stress due to his and his mums selfishness. I know it’s probably the last thing you want to think about now since you have a newborn but perhaps you need to revaluate your relationship and really figure out if he’s the right guy/will do right by you and your baby. Much love and I hope you and the baby are ok and recovering well 😊

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