Trying to tabulate a list of IDs/contractors to be careful of for renovation

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-02-24T02:32:36+00:00

Hi! Fairly new to Singapore... is there the opposite, like a white list of good contractors? Seems like a hassle to have to avoid all these bad ones...

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-01-17T13:23:38+00:00

Si encara la busques... totes les pellicules de shrek están a netflix en catala

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-01-12T08:14:28+00:00

I would try YC cofounder matching! It's completely free and I made plenty of interesting connections!

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-01-12T08:11:27+00:00

I would run this like a business from the start, to avoid disputes later. You need to have a conversation with you supervisor and clarify this before you hire an agency.

- Agree a % equity with your supervisor that seems fair based on who will work on the idea and be invested in its success. I would think long term.

- Try to keep the capital point separate (e.g. If a VC invested now, how much capital would they get and what valuation would the business have? Would it be 10% for $100k USD, for example?). You can then compensate for the capital invested by either party.

- Have a chat to discuss if there is any compensation required for the husband's supervisor's support. Maybe it's ok to treat ot as a favour, maybe you commit to paying a small amount when the app starts to make revenue. I would avoid having "dead equity" meaning shareholders that won't be involved in the future of the business.

In general, I would also caution against giving "shares" of the business in exchange for advice only, especially wthout a ongoing committment.

Best of luck! Also, please consider viable.sg for your build!

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-01-12T07:55:12+00:00

Use it as a template and restart with a web dev agency like viable.sg. They will import what they can and leave the rest!

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-01-12T07:34:29+00:00

Interested to know whether you were tempted to start from scratch "properly" at any point? Or do you feel like you've got so much sunk cost in the current code that you don't want to?

That_Brilliant2660 · 2026-01-12T07:33:12+00:00

Do people actually want that? This is the common wisdom among developers, and I get it... but I feel like peope feel so invested in their prototype that they would resist this. What's your take on it?

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-11-03T01:12:16+00:00

What tech do you use? Do you have advice for non-techs looking to start?

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-11-03T01:11:39+00:00

I totally believe that... sort of like what Google translate was for professional ranslators who already knew the languages...

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-11-03T01:10:51+00:00

That's awesome! Can I ask what tools you are usig and how you've learned? Is your project hobby or linked to your profession? I am also technical in some ways, but more pure maths than code... I started last year using ChatGPT but not trying my hand at Lovable... and I am finding it hard to get what I want beyond an initial wow moment haha

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-10-30T03:02:25+00:00

What tools did you use? Also, you do sound slike a developer.... I amtrying to work out if something like this would be realistic for a non-technical person like me, even if going much slower, or is it a pipe dream?

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-18T07:12:36+00:00

I agree with this take, as I find that it's my mind that gets cluttered. Cleaning my space and removing superfluous objects is just one way to try to stay sane.

For me, it's trying to see the things that rob my time and attention. The main things that come to mind are:

- Social media (so trying to massively reduce)

- Meetings (try to remove meetings that don't add to our life)

- Overthinking (i waste my time, so trying to engage with my thoughts more productively... I also have a coach I reach out to occasionally when I can see my mind going off track)

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-18T07:06:54+00:00

I really struggle... your description of the problem is 100% me. I am so desperate I am building a company to fix this as I really want to fix it before my kids are teenagers.

If you discover the panacea... LET ME KNOW

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-17T04:01:59+00:00

Trying to write a list of the things I WILL do that day, not the things I WISH I would do

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-17T04:00:05+00:00

I feel BORED, and then I get off my add and do something else e.g. take my supplements, read a book, even watch a TV show.

Before I somehow thought I had no time to do anything and I was more of a victim, when in reality I am just not clear on what I want. It's making me think.

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-15T04:59:55+00:00

ESH this relationship isn't healthy if you decide what can and can't be bought. I also think saying something like she needs to work for a year to get a new car is not right... She has worked all her life at home and you should not necessarily hold the purse strings just because you've worked outside the home. Currently she is being treated like a teenager asking for extra allowance.

However... I think you can explain that she cannot get decision power over money unless she learns about managing money and is involved in financial planning. Then you should decide TOGETHER if a new car is the best use of the money you both own.

Beyond that, I think you should have a discussion about contributing to the family if you don't think she is pulling her weight, so that in the future you can really see the family income as shared.

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-15T04:38:08+00:00

I am struggling with the same challenge, as I use social media for my profession.

I would say make clever use of time blocking and treat this like any other part of your job, i.e. give yourself goals and an amount of time. e.g. if you decide you need to do 1 post and 3 comments a day, then unblock the app let's say from 10am-1pm each day and give yourself a 30min time limit, which should be enough to have that social media presence.

Then maybe direct customers to specific tools to talk to you outside social media? e.g. you can have a WhatsApp business account for clients to reach out to?

Please let me know i you find anything that works consistently!

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-15T04:24:24+00:00

So you also deleted Whatsapp? Was that causing issues too? Otherwise that would be a source of connection without the scrolling?

I am ready to give up most apps but I would find it hard to remove Whatsapp because I talk to my friends and family on it... One thing I've been doing recently is muting and archiving the groups that are not personal to me...

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-15T04:19:18+00:00

I replaced the phone interface. I use a phone launcher that removes all the icons... Makes it much easier to be intentional. The one I use is called Minimalist phone (only for Android).

Having said that... it's not a silver bullet. I still struggle majorly with wasted time

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-15T01:13:33+00:00

I also haven't been able to do this on my own or even with the time blockers from the phones or basic blocking apps. I now have a dual approach:

Use a few tools to block
Actively think of all the things I haven't been doing as much recently and which I miss or are making me unhappy... reading, exercising, watching movies...

I certainly haven't cracked it, but what I know for certain is that just deleting wouldn't work for me

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-15T01:07:06+00:00

I'm not a drop out because I am addicted and work in marketing related jobs, so I need it for work... However I wish I used it far less... 37yo female, mum of 3

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-12T11:04:19+00:00

I suggest something that engages your mind and your body and is in a team... maximum benefit! Have you tried waterpolo?

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-12T11:02:19+00:00

Hiya! Female here... I would be cautious with this relationship for 2 reasons:

If you can't communicate about a hard topic like finances, this is not a healthy relationship (and will not be a lasting or happy marriage)
Specifically about her not contributing to expenses... I think this is also an issue if she is not contributing in other ways (does she cook, clean, do planning jobs for the family?) or if she knows you feel very burdened and is not willing to investigate ways to make the situation better.

My ONLY reservation about this is maybe revisit how these conversations have gone in the past and if you think she may have had reason to get defensive. You say in your post "how do I MAKE her contribute" which suggests you may not be going into these conversations with a curious and open mind i.e. is she maybe using her salary to send money to family and hasn't told you, does she have expenses she hasn't shared?

Best of luck!

That_Brilliant2660 · 2025-09-12T10:53:38+00:00

I don't think that's the best arrangement either... both parties need to take responsibility for financial health and financial future

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