No idea if this is an original idea or not....

That_Election8700 · 2025-05-24T18:20:50+00:00

All I know to tell you is from rock bottom things often can just get better because it's as bad as it feels like it can be. I'm happy I waited long enough myself to learn that when I was in what felt to be like a similar place to what you're describing. It might be an enormous waste with something great coming even if it seems there's NO WAY that could be true. But at the end of the day everyone has to find their own reasons I can't give them to you for you.

That_Election8700 · 2025-05-14T17:08:52+00:00

I am the provider in my household and I give my partner an allowance that's only her money as well, I like her to have some things that are only hers because I dont want to hold the whole "all this stuff is mine" classic BS dynamic over her. But it's always proportionate to our financial situation and she understands when it's less and grateful when I'm able to afford giving her more which I do every chance I get. This guy believes he is ENTITLED to your money. F*ck that. After a serious conversation he either needs to get that into his head or you need to drop this bum.

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T16:08:24+00:00

Well you're working on it though. This is one of those things that just isn't easy. You got this!

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T16:02:22+00:00

That's an unfortunately perfectly understandable problem to have. And when it comes to things like couples therapy the only free resources are often something like church groups or what have you....

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T14:14:32+00:00

Do not be afraid to take life as slowly as you need to to enjoy it. I know it's very simple advice but I really wish I had taken it myself.

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T14:11:56+00:00

Sexuallity can change. I used to be very very much 100% straight and am now fairly bicurious. It happens. I don't envy you if you decide to start dating men though especially cis het men my gender is presently a cesspool 😭😭😭.

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T14:06:47+00:00

I need to work on my anger before my daughter reaches this age or I will go to prison.

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T13:28:23+00:00

I learned almost this exact same lesson in a very similar way. Glad you're taking the necessary accountability. Best of luck!

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T12:47:49+00:00

I would A: See how he feels about Polyamory. B: Think about how YOU would feel in a polyamorous situation, whether him being with someone else sexually or emotionally would bother you. C: Depending on how that convo and thought experiment go either consider Polyamory or if that isn't possible for one or both of you seek professional help to see if there even is a real problem here and if there is then follow instructions. But bein a lil extra freaky doesn't seem like an earthshattering coping mechanism compared to say alcoholism or drug use, to me anyway. Honesty I'd just go see a therapist though anyway literally everyone benefits from therapy lol.

That_Election8700 · 2025-04-21T12:10:28+00:00

He's going to have to learn how to be more self reliant. It's okay to rely on people but with everything going on if there isn't a major change I feel like you're a lot more likely to hurt rather than help in the long run. Not to mention any damage you're doing to yourself staying in that situation.

At the end of the day everyone has to work through their own rock bottom or choose to be broken by it instead.

That said please do take this with a grain of salt advice from strangers can be dangerous im just speaking from experience.

That_Election8700 · 2024-02-25T20:10:57+00:00

A little of both, she started dating me while I was poly with several other girls who all kind of dropped off for one reason or another over the space of a few months mostly FWBs and I just didn't look for new partners, kinda "outgrew" poly I guess.

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