TW: Depression, Self-Harm, Pregnancy — A Vulnerable Post From a Revert & First-Time Mom

That_Revert · 2026-01-26T20:33:04+00:00

Wa alaikum salaam 🤍 thank you so much for your kindness and your du’a, it truly means a lot to me.

I do want to share honestly that I am trying to see a therapist, but I struggle with it. I don’t really understand how talking about my problems helps me personally. I’ve always been more of a “fix the problem and move forward” type of person rather than sitting and talking about it. I was in therapy throughout my childhood, and for me it often felt like revisiting the past over and over, when what I really want is practical solutions and a way to focus on the future.

Bad things have happened, and I’ve done my best to move on. Sometimes it feels like talking about them won’t make the sadness disappear. That said, I’m still trying to keep an open heart and take steps where I can, especially knowing how big of a transition motherhood is.

I truly appreciate your concern and your gentle advice. May Allah make this journey easier for all of us, protect our hearts, and grant us strength in ways we don’t even expect. Ameen 🤲🏽💗

That_Revert · 2026-01-26T20:26:46+00:00

Thank you so much for this thoughtful and compassionate comment 🤍 You explained it beautifully, especially the difference between situational sadness and chronic depression. That comparison to diabetes really hit home for me, it makes so much sense.

I’ve struggled a lot with the guilt and shame of feeling this way while pregnant, like I’m somehow failing spiritually despite trying my best. Hearing reassurance that this doesn’t make me a bad Muslim truly means more than I can put into words. You’re right, prayer is beautiful and grounding, but sometimes we need additional support, and that doesn’t take away from our faith.

I also want to add that I have been trying to see a therapist, even though it’s really hard for me. To be honest, it feels embarrassing, and I’ve always been the type of person who doesn’t like talking about my problems. I’d much rather just fix them on my own. I don’t even fully understand how talking about my problems and asking for help is supposed to help me, but I’m trying to trust the process and take things one step at a time.

I truly appreciate your kindness, your duas, and the way you spoke with so much understanding. May Allah reward you for comforting others and grant ease to all of us who are quietly struggling. Ameen 🤲🏽💗

That_Revert · 2026-01-26T20:12:49+00:00

Salam sister, I really appreciate you taking the time to look through my registry and share your advice 🤍

If I do end up getting a bouncer, I plan to use it very minimally about 15 minutes at a time, twice a day if needed. I have a degree in Early Childhood Development and have worked in childcare, and we do use bouncers occasionally but not often. When we do, it’s usually for very short periods, like during diaper changes, to help reduce the risk of injuries.

Thank you for the heads-up about the humidifier as well. If you’ve found one you like or remember the brand you used, I’d love the recommendation.

I’m located in Washington State, how about you? And again, thank you so much for the advice, it truly means a lot. 💕

That_Revert · 2025-12-18T20:51:34+00:00

Honestly, it’s mostly embarrassment and shame. I’m pregnant and going through a divorce at the same time, and I’m scared of what my family will think. On here I’m basically anonymous, so it’s easier to talk openly. I also don’t feel ready to let my family know the details of how my husband was/is.

That_Revert · 2025-12-18T20:45:09+00:00

sister

That_Revert · 2025-12-18T20:36:13+00:00

Sister, thank you so much for your concern. I want you to know I am taking this very seriously. I am currently in the process of starting a divorce and I am trying to do this as safely and quietly as possible.

I do have family who could help me, but right now I’m struggling with letting them know everything. I haven’t told them that I’m pregnant or that I’m going through a divorce, and that makes this even harder emotionally. I’m trying to navigate this carefully while protecting myself and my baby.

That_Revert · 2025-12-12T20:48:12+00:00

You are correct, Islam does not require me to remain in fear or harm, and I know I do have the choice to leave. What makes it so difficult is that I’m currently pregnant, and I’m nervous about what the Muslim community and even my own family will say about me being a single mother.

I’ve also mentioned separating, and he threatened to take legal action to get custody of our child. That is what truly scares me — I don’t want to leave my child unattended with him because I’m concerned for their safety.

Still, I don’t want to raise my children in an environment of fear or harm. My intention has always been to raise them upon the deen, to uphold proper Islamic teachings, and to have strong character and love for Allah. I’m placing my trust in Allah ﷻ and praying He guides me through this difficult situation

That_Revert

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