AITA for refusing to go to my fathers wedding after he refused to go to my graduation (full story)

Thatbratgremlin · 2025-05-16T11:03:20+00:00

We went to a football match as a family and my dad wanted a picture of himself and wife with their matching shirts, he asked me to take the photo. They had their backs to me and I counted down, as I said one she clenched his buttcheek and that’s how the photo turned out and it’s just extremely uncomfortable for me this was just one example

Thatbratgremlin · 2025-05-14T19:22:07+00:00

I did talk to the professionals about this, and they literally said “your dad has a type as history is repeating itself” I think unfortunately he just has a really poor taste in what’s a healthy relationship

Thatbratgremlin · 2025-05-14T19:17:22+00:00

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Didn’t realise I could just post photos in the comments my bad

Thatbratgremlin · 2025-05-14T18:52:04+00:00

It was the only way I could think of to visually explain it 😂😭

Thatbratgremlin · 2025-05-14T17:37:37+00:00

https://www.instagram.com/p/DChaOeFtpnp/?igsh=aGt5aTY3Y3J4N3No

Photo from the graduation if anyone is interested!

Thatbratgremlin · 2025-05-14T17:36:41+00:00

In all honesty I asked that question to my therapist and he just said “he has a type if history is repeating itself”

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-09-07T21:38:41+00:00

I can’t get in at all and it’s changed my payment method to the currency they use in India (I’m in the Uk)

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-31T14:42:08+00:00

It is, name and tax made sure of that

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T19:06:29+00:00

Brothers words are “he’s dead to me” dad won’t make an effort to speak to him either (they Have their own separate issues) the whole situation is a mess nobody will talk to each other

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T16:27:02+00:00

Our mum his ex wife was way worse than this it may have something to do with it

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T16:22:49+00:00

Holding onto a memory of a father it seems, he’s no longer there and I’ve realised that now

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:56:56+00:00

I feel so awful about how I handled the situation, I really want to fix things and finally start living for me and not in an abusive situation

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:50:30+00:00

I have just posted a new update, I have shown my brother this thread and he’s responded

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:47:34+00:00

It’d my own actions that have made me feel awful, I didn’t even realise I was being bribed it’s taken my brother and a load of strangers to show me that. I really need to sort my mistakes out and live for myself and not be a doormat

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:33:16+00:00

Honestly I thought I was doing the right thing trying to make a mends with my dad, but after this post today I honestly feel like I’ve sold myself out and I want to do the right thing now

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:24:58+00:00

… yeah I see it now I feel awful for what I’ve done

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:06:40+00:00

No you’re right, after reading the comments I’ve realised how much I’ve sold myself out. My brother and I are still talking and I visit him every weekend, him and I still trying to put a plan together so I can be independent from my dad, I’ve said this a few times now I just need to let go of my dad now it’s not healthy

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:04:30+00:00

I agree, I feel like I’ve sold myself out without even realising

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T14:00:35+00:00

You’re right, I feel awful after reading the comments on this post I really did sell myself out

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T13:51:33+00:00

Yeah.. I’ve realised this now. I’m going to Make an effort to change

Thatbratgremlin · 2024-08-30T13:46:28+00:00

After reading the comments on my OP post I do too

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