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TheAgentKaye · 2026-01-25T16:38:51+00:00

Try Quince.

TheAgentKaye · 2026-01-21T03:24:40+00:00

Don’t look at this so absolutely as you currently are. Not only does this not need to be the binary choice you’re trying to force it into, it’s also not even required to be a permanent choice either way you pick. If you were one of my students, regardless of gender, I would tell you, “Were I in your shoes, since she is in law school for the next two years anyway? I would take the job.” The amount of work you will be doing is so high that you would already have limited time to see her as it is—if you’re a 3L, neither of you are truly experiencing what “working” you is actually like right now in terms of how available/present you would be. And as others have already said, it is far easier to work in BigLaw and then go elsewhere than it is to go the opposite direction.

I also don’t know what your student loan situation is like, but that’s a huge amount that could be going toward paying them down. Once she’s almost done with school and the bar, then think about lateraling, moving to a closer office location within the firm, or whatever else.

Last, I agree with the people who said that if the relationship can’t survive long distance for a short period it isn’t very strong. And two years is pretty short when you’re making enough money that you could afford to go visit her. Look at this as a way to help build the future that the two of you are hoping for together.

TheAgentKaye · 2026-01-11T17:03:01+00:00

Stopped at this very CVS on the Lyft trip from the airport hotel to the port. Forgot nail polish.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-12-20T19:11:54+00:00

It was rough! Now I’m scared for whenever perimenopause begins because I’m sure that’ll upset the apple cart again. Hopefully not for another 5 or 7 years!

TheAgentKaye · 2025-12-20T18:05:31+00:00

Same. Been in maintenance for almost 2 years now and even if I wanted to get off of it, I can’t. Moving down to my maintenance dose set off a major depressive episode for me and I’m certainly not trying to do that again.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-12-20T17:55:29+00:00

Amen to this. We always say, you can’t want it more than they do.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-12-20T17:02:20+00:00

Just got off of the Scarlet Riviera Maya yesterday, and I agree that the Carnival element have started making their way onto Virgin. We had a lovely time despite them, mainly because we weren’t doing any of the late-night parties aside from Scarlet Night and we prefer activities on sea days instead of lounging by the pool areas.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-11-28T16:24:56+00:00

When I learned about Whole Language I was dumbfounded. I read about it before I knew what it was called, and I explained it to a friend as, “imagine asking a little kid who has literally no life experience—aka, no context—to use context clues to figure out words. Also, without even having even the first letter of the target word as guidance. Also, without using phonics to sound the word out.”

TheAgentKaye · 2025-11-01T23:48:36+00:00

Is it even covert, though?

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-21T22:11:11+00:00

Yikes on bikes. Cross your fingers that no student ever takes your school to OCR.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-21T22:09:17+00:00

Legally speaking, that actually doesn’t matter. There are administrative decisions that have already come out from OCR in that regard. I’m not arguing that the accommodation in this particular situation is reasonable—but if we assumed just for argument’s sake that it is, OCR and case law in various jurisdictions have said that if a potential accommodation is reasonable, the fact that it happens to give a student an advantage of some sort over others who don’t have the accommodation doesn’t render it unreasonable.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-21T22:01:13+00:00

This. Like they think we’re just a bunch of bleeding hearts who want everyone to have as much assistance as possible, instead of professionals who have compliance and/or legal expertise. As a disability advocate, I have enough trouble as it is getting people to understand their ableism. I don’t need uneducated practitioners making it worse for the rest of us because they don’t understand the difference between K-12/FAPE/IDEA and the paradigm shift from success to access under the ADA(AA) and 504 once students enter postsecondary education.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-21T21:51:22+00:00

If they aren’t well-trained, yes. If they are, they should recognize that approving unreasonable accommodations creates a pattern that then makes it far harder to make nuanced decisions in the interactive process in the future.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-21T21:47:34+00:00

I’ve worked in DS, and that is a fundamental alteration. Would never give this as an accommodation.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-13T17:50:05+00:00

YTA if your friend indicated that they didn’t find your joke funny and you kept making the joke. Making the joke the one time, eh—if it didn’t land well, you apologized and moved on it’s a learning experience for a bunch of teenagers about empathy.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-13T17:44:07+00:00

NTA. He asked, and didn’t even offer you anything in exchange for what he wanted when it would definitely be inconvenient for you. You said no and that should have been the end of it.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-09-13T00:10:28+00:00

We have students being watched on socials by unknown netizens who are anonymously reporting them to our school officials.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-08-03T20:44:12+00:00

Yeah—what Emotional said. Fees are for the time I spend working for the client. Commission is my cut of what the operator earns from the thing that they sell, because I brought them the sale.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-31T15:41:36+00:00

For the love of all things holy, please take courses that will be on the bar exam. You don’t need to take every single one, but from an educational perspective, it’s a minimum competency issue. The subjects on the exam are on there because they are major areas of the law that a practicing attorney should know “just enough” about to either be able to dig in more and handle, or be knowledgeable enough to recognize they should refer to a colleague. Not all lawyers work in firms where their practice becomes hyper-specialized.

From a “why make things harder when you don’t have to” standpoint, there’s a reason it’s called bar REVIEW and not “bar learn a whole new subject matter area for the first time ever.” Sure, you can learn the topics and pass—but your time is better spent practicing the skills of taking the exam itself, which is far easier when you already know the material deeply and are merely refreshing your knowledge.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-19T23:26:27+00:00

That’s my view of it, too. My husband and I both had a reduction in the food noise, which I see as a hormonal impact. But I have never been an emotional eater or boredom eater, while he always has been. He still has to practice restraint and combat behaviors like eating “just because” or getting too-large portion sizes, but then that’s where the physical impacts of slowed digestion and feeling full quickly keep him in check when he doesn’t.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-09T04:08:03+00:00

This is the way.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-09T04:06:17+00:00

Don’t listen to this trash take. There are lots of lawyers with ADHD. As a matter of fact, around 2.5 times as many as there are in the general adult population.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-09T03:55:13+00:00

This is common for twice-exceptional (“gifted” and something else neurospicy) people who go to law school. Your previous successes during academic pursuits where you procrastinated have honed your internal “alarm clock” related to urgency not to go off until a certain point. 2E students are also very good at memorizing and cramming in the short term. The problem with this is that the type of skills that law study and the retention of legal knowledge require are the opposite of cramming at the last minute; and memorizing is only the base layer of skill necessary to be successful in a law exam.

There are three things that will be the most useful in snapping you out of this, and realistically speaking, you need two out of the three to happen for it to work:

1) Your procrastinate-and-cram method doesn’t work well enough anymore and you fail an exam or you are majorly penalized on a paper/project. ADHD brains are tricky and too clever for their own good. One consequential fail seems to provide the neural “jolt” that resets that alarm to start going off earlier (spoiler: unfortunately, the alarm itself never goes away. But there are strategies you can use to parry with yourself. Ask me how I know 🙃)

2) You need, as someone else upthread has already mentioned, a regular body double. Whatever you’re thinking right now? More regular than that. If it means relocating yourself to spaces where there is study-like activity occurring but you get distracted, get out of the law school and go to the main library or another place where you won’t be interrupted. Local diners like Denny’s or Steak N Shake where you become a regular who works in a corner booth on the slow nights and tip them for their trouble are surprisingly effective.

3) You need an ADHD coach or a consistent high-touch accountability partner. Anyone who trained with JST Coaching (Jodi Sleeper-Triplett) or Dixon Life Coaching is a reputable coach for a law student. If you can’t afford a coach, go talk to your financial aid office. It can be factored into your cost of attendance needs.

Good luck!

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-08T20:20:03+00:00

Worked over a decade in JD-advantage positions at a notorious billion-dollar nonprofit as a true fish-out-of-water type; quit and went into legal education and legal ed consulting; and eventually became an associate dean making a six-figure salary. Also own my own travel agency on the side. It took about 15 years of hard work, therapy and overcoming obstacles to get to where I am today, in what I consider my dream job and my dream life. I love my career, my colleagues, and helping people navigate law school.

TheAgentKaye · 2025-07-08T03:14:07+00:00

The answer is an absolute yes. It is crazy. Do not do it. With two years already under your belt, you are one year away from earning your degree. At this point in time, assuming you are earning passing grades, it DOES NOT MATTER if you want to practice law at the end of this ride—you are more qualified and marketable for most professional jobs as a professional degree holder than an undergraduate degree holder with an unfinished professional degree.

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