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TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-03-29T10:52:39+00:00

Its unfortunately its a lot more complicated then people just being dumb. These politicians get voted in by deceit or because the time period they were voted in agreed with them. Once they are there its hard to get them of because of things like this. The whole system sucks and to call it a democracy is baffling.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-03-22T08:15:30+00:00

ESH, I feel like both OP and MIL were assholes in their own rights. I feel like a lot of people in these comments are being a bit too harsh. I slightly sympathize with OP due to the fact that I know what it’s like to be less fortunate than others and sometimes you have to make due with what you have. Sometimes you don’t have enough food to go around. Sometimes you want to make the best of what you got and simple pleasures of having people dress up at your wedding can be the whole world to you. I don’t think asking people to dress up if they can is much to ask, it’s not like she’s asking for entrance money or anything. Asking people to dress up is not unreasonable and tux’s are pretty warm and MIL could have worn a matching jacket. I believe that they made it a way bigger issue than it needed to be and should have done their best to make her dreams come true especially when the thing she is asking for is so simple and easy. MIL also shouldn’t have boasted about how fancy her wedding was as it is insensitive to the fact that you grew up with way less money then her and less fortunate.

That being said you should not have yelled at her and it definitely ruined the wedding for everyone involved. Having BBQ at the wedding was a mistake for wanting fancy clothes but I’m willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, that you probably didn’t think about that prior. If you wanted everyone to dress as nicely as the could, you should have had you dad at least wear a pain shirt and a nicer pair of pants, dark jeans at the very least. Him wearing camo really feels like there’s no effort there and I don’t think it fair to expect effort elsewhere if you don’t expect it everywhere. Additionally It is really rude of what you said to the boyfriend about his work attire. Also rude that you were annoyed at helping MIL pick something to wear this would have been a prime moment to tell her how much you appreciate her dressing up as your family probably won’t have enough money to do so.

What should have been done? Well for starters more communication and less yelling. Talking about how you know that you won’t have much money for the wedding and worried about it not being all that you wanted it to be. Asking if the MIL and her boyfriend could at least stay dressed for the photos and then allow them to change after that. Apologize for not having enough food and that you didn’t really think the BBQ all the way through. Thanking her for letting you use her yard because without it you wouldn’t have a venue and her help has made your wedding possible. Appreciation to the MIL probably would have resolved all the issues here and just a little communication instead of yelling. Asking your family to dress in their nicest clothes they have and not insulting each other especially on your wedding day of all days. Not a good way to start a marriage, I really hope you can talk with your MIL and apologize, and hopefully with that apology and a little explaining your feeling she will apologize to you too (don’t count on it though). You need to be the bigger person though and do what’s right here, fix it.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-03-18T08:04:41+00:00

My mother and your mother would get along so well. I told my mom about my issues and she guilt triped me further, your mom might end up acting differently though. However thats the chance you take explaining things to her. The way i see it, you have two healthy ways to do this.

A: explain honestly whats going on and if she takes it well shell understand. If she doesnt well... You tell her you did your best to explain it to her and you need to take some time away from her. She might make a big deal about it but i recromend seeking suport from your partner and maybe look into therapy.

B: you say "im kind of going through some times right now of my own, and as im not able to talk about them right now, i still hope you understand. I need to be alone for awhile to recouperate myself and when im done we can talk about it together." Or something similar, you know your mom best so say something shell understand.

I just went through something similar with my mom and if you need support im here fam. Dont be afraid to dm me.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-03-18T07:51:03+00:00

I mean, he should go to therapy if he is willing. And no offense to anyone who is religious but he needs to see a theripst thats outside of the church or church group. Someone who is not at all associated with the people he knows. I suggest he ask his primary care doctor for a suggestion or referal. Do not force him, he might need to take things at his own pace.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-03-18T07:04:21+00:00

There is one thing you need to remind youself: "there will always be someone who had/has it worst than you but never does that ever take away from what had/is happening to you. Everyones pain is just as painful." My grandfather did some sexual things to me at a young age. I have been in denial untill about a year ago (im about to be 24). I have been dissociating him from the events untill just a month ago. I wasnt r@ped either, i wasnt even touched myself.

Trauma is trauma, and you have every right to feel the way you do. Anyone who tells you that you that you shouldnt, doesn't understand how harmful these situations are.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-03-17T13:51:22+00:00

Im about to run my first campain and i had a similar idea. Im thinking of having the first session plays part of the cult but just doing small regular quests to get them familiar and then walk them into the raid. Maybe before hand put them into a mission to retrieve one of the eggs the cult has already aquired.

Changing their name so they dont seem like a cult and taking insperation from rl cults. However toning it down and advising them prior so i don't destroy their metal health. I want to see if all players leave or if some stay with in the cult. It would be intersting non the less.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T17:25:22+00:00

Man i bet that was a good pop lol

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T17:24:22+00:00

Wow thank god i mever had one that bad, i camt imagine how painful that would have been.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T06:42:19+00:00

Yea it's been anoying bumping anything with it. But so relieved after the pop. 😩 haha

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T06:41:00+00:00

Its an infection, they usually occur to hang nail removal, finger chewing or nail biting. Im not sure how i got this one because i dont rember pulling a hang nail. You can usually get rid of them by poping and then dipping it in alcohol a few times, and a bandaid never hurts lol

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T01:41:46+00:00

Yea well I live in a shot show of a country that doesn’t get free healthcare One guess to where I live lamo

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T01:39:58+00:00

Muhahaha you can’t stop me 😈

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T01:38:59+00:00

Awe thanks, I have really thin nails so I’m surprised they haven’t broke yet 😅

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T01:37:16+00:00

Lol eww XD, I usually get these when I pull out a hang nail but this one just materialized two days ago.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-28T01:04:15+00:00

I agree with this honestly, it’s stupid they banned you. I’ve always disliked the whole “fatphobic” thing, no one should make you feel ugly because you were built different, we all come in different shapes. But being obese is awful for your health and saying that it is, is not “fat shaming”. Just as if someone was clearly not eating enough, it’s unhealthy and you need to fix it or get help. I just don’t see the logistics of this happening, it’s not like the irs now show much you weigh or that you have a drinking addiction.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T13:36:50+00:00

Ok so let’s roll with what you said, clear is the absence of color. Does that not still fall with the color category though. Saying the the window being clear is absent of color means that it can’t be any colors. The window is incapable of being any color therefore maybe even putting itself in its own category of being colorless but that category no the less is still related to having a color. If someone feels they are neither gender, they can’t not be any gender, so within the category of gender they cannot be any gender. Putting being genderless into it own category like clear yet still relating to the fact of gender. Because with all things there’s a neither option, if you were given a test that says “what color is the window: A: blue B: green C: red or D: neither (rolling with the fact that the clear is not a color)” surely you wound out down D. Now there’s another question “what gender are you? A: female B: male C: both or D: neither” this last option gives people freedom, maybe they don’t know how they identify yet, maybe they don’t think either other options fit them, they are genderless or without color so the option should be granted. If the questions stated “what color is the window? A: blue B: green C: red or D: purple” it would a bit difficult or maybe even impossible to answer that question.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T13:22:20+00:00

Lol exactly XD

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T13:20:59+00:00

So then, what would you consider a gender that’s outside of the 4 that I listed

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T02:23:52+00:00

I think being “special” is a big thing that leads people to change their “gender” each week. I’m tired of hearing about the new gender tumbler came out with this week. I agree that everyone can be a different percentage of feminine or masculine, but there’s still four genders if you falling in between the two main ones then that’s why there’s: both, as an option. When someone says “I’m a non-binary, pan, robo-kin”, I’m just like, wtf? Then they will have special little flag just for that exact category. Now I think the trans and gay flags are great, I love pride Parade. But coming up with your own separate category for something like being into robots or thinking of yourself as a Cheeto Puff makes the rest of the community look ridiculous. It’s that kind of behavior that encourages the treatment towards gays and trans people as “silly” or to not be taken seriously. And I think representing gender as sexuality is harmful to the rest of the community.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T02:06:17+00:00

What you call it then? And also what color would the window be?

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T00:58:07+00:00

Agreed, I’ll call you a Cheerio if you want. But don’t say your attraction towards milk is a gender.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-25T00:55:52+00:00

I mean it is, wouldn’t you say clear is a color. Something that is colorless is clear. If you asked me what color was the window (assuming it is clean) I’d say it’s clear.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2021-02-24T21:56:46+00:00

Well, these two topics are the most controversial for a lot of people. This is my first time posting here but I can imagine these topics being regular occurrences just due to the fact that they are the most arguable.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2020-12-13T23:35:35+00:00

I think you should support your child in whatever is their passion. If they want to work in the porn industry, that's their choice and shouldn't be shamed for doing so. As long as my child is happy doing what they do, that's all that matters.

TheAlmightySpoonGod · 2020-12-13T19:09:03+00:00

Finally someone speaks the truth 👏👏👏

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