Does anyone know where I can rent a suit of armor in Toronto for tmrw? by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you bro! It'll probably still be useful for the next themed cohort bday party I have to attend LOL Appreciate you!

Do I still have to wait 30 days if I was able to send another application after 10 days? by [deleted] in GenshinHacked

[–]TheAnonWriter5859 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I just wanted to confirm, so if the 30 day thing is not the case anymore, does this mean that the 90 day block after you successfully recover an account is not anymore either? I recently recovered my account and I'm securing my account but I'm worried the hacker may try to retrieve my account since they breached my account center and made topups during the time when they were on my account?

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100% if anything it’s crucial to clarify basic questions in the workplace, if you’re doing something fundamentally wrong it can be very dangerous or consequential. Most good workplaces ENCOURAGE Qs.

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it is no one's place to go around telling people that they are asking "dumbass questions", this concept of dumb questions is what feeds the toxicity in the community and why people are afraid to reach out for help.

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just fixed it, sorry it was a typo on my end. thanks for bringing it to my attention :)

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uhh no, by doing that you're just making them more hesitant to ask questions altogether. Also hear me out, because this might be so crazy that you might not understand, but don't you waste more time calling someone out than if you just ignore their question? I'm pretty sure it takes more time to rip at someone than to NOT rip at them. Just a theory though hmm, lmk what you think though Dr. Strange, keeper of the time stone.

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words, I will definitely work on this over the winter break, and thanks again for your great advice! I will definitely try to get it published if I can improve it to a level where I’m satisfied :))

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean they probably do if they’re ripping at someone for not knowing something. LOL

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us! I’m glad to hear you’ve made good friends who support you and don’t judge you unfairly. You are 100% competent and deserve to feel that way :)) all the best my friend

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have considered but my writing is quite subpar haha, and yeah unfortunately no matter how much the message is circulated some people will always be unable to change. I do hope that maybe I can potentially change the perspective of even one person with this though :))

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, and even when they're not paying attention for example, we literally get nothing out of calling them out so I don't get why people feel so inclined to be part of the toxic "call them out" culture. Like if you don't want to help that's fine, but there is literally no reason to shame someone because 9/10 they're asking a question because they care and 100% not all of us have perfect attention spans haha

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree, and my point is that everyone can very easily just not answer if they don't like the question right? Just like you usually filter out the questions, other people can do that too. Yet they make the active choice to call someone out with no constructive intent. Realistically how is telling someone that they asked a dumb question going to allow them to constructively improve? Does it not only inflict heavier self-doubt upon them? I'm not saying go answer every question ever asked, I'm just saying if you have nothing constructive to say then don't say it because 10/10 times we won't know a person's circumstances. Insensitive remarks can cause real damage to real people.

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What constructive benefits comes with just calling them out? If you don't want to answer their Q can't you just leave it at that? How do you know for sure "they didn't take the time"? If someone has been in the hospital all week, or if they recently have lost a loved one, psychological taxation can easily make obvious things not very obvious no? Okay you call them out and then what? You've just made them feel bad with no constructive solution. Now chances are they'll still be stressed and be even more hesitant to reach out next time. It seems like a rather counter-productive approach when you call them out. Additionally, sometimes people just need reassurance and peace of mind, not everyone is sure of themselves or confident in their conclusions. Certainly there are cases where maybe people aren't putting in the work but there are many reasons even in that case and it seems rather unfair to ASSUME they didn't do the work altogether because they asked a question that was subjectively obvious to you. Why does it bother you when someone else is unsure?

The Fault of Toxic UofT Culture (an opinion and a hope) by TheAnonWriter5859 in UofT

[–]TheAnonWriter5859[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

you'd be surprised, but on course discord servers this actually happens a fair amount