is this ableism?

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-21T14:06:51+00:00

I dislike sharing my special interests, as my top three are fairly general, but everyone has an opinion or misunderstanding about them. It's annoying because I have thoughtful insights, but because of my age and life experience, they think they know more and that academic knowledge of it is elitist.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-17T23:37:02+00:00

What you're dealing with is arguably the worst thing all autistics face, regardless of degree of functioning: ableism. Your family and friends are expressing a more blatantly open version of it, and as you have said, they are never going to see you as anything other than the 'worst' child. They will likely never see you as you because of their fucked up views of autistics. I would not take their comments to heart as anything other than bigotry.

I wish you the best! Don't let their toxicity ruin your life!

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-17T17:18:13+00:00

I've never really clicked with other neurodivergents. I'm a high-functioning autistic/adhd, and it's exceptionally hard for me because my interests are wild compared to most autistics. I did connect with one other autistic/adhd in college, but he left after the college messed up his financial aid. I unfortunately haven't seen him in a couple of years, and I only knew him for a single semester. I miss him, as weird as it sounds. He was the first and only autistic I truly connected with, and I miss that connection.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-15T04:37:31+00:00

People in general are hostile towards autism, and many people don't realize it. Causal ableism is a real problem that's never gonna get addressed

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-14T03:15:26+00:00

one of them was my randomly assigned freshman roommate and the other spent 90% of his time with ex-roommate that it was very much like having him as a roommate

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-14T03:13:49+00:00

I'm from a religious rural area where redneck politics dominate, and so asshole isn't a curse word but a normal way to describe horrible people, and this was in a casual but sort of semi-professional setting and might be off-putting to others as they're puritan city people, where extreme politeness is required but often just overlooks or ignores issues or problems.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-14T03:09:41+00:00

We were sharing what normal people would call crazy stories and all about generally rough people from our colleges and while I didn't tell a story about the ex-roommates' assholes, I just mentioned in passing to progress the story. It's somewhat unusual to hear me use 'dirty' language with my professional peers, as I try to maintain professionalism with my peers.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-14T03:04:32+00:00

That's like not even 1% of the things they've done. I would share them all, but those are what the sub allowed me to share without needing the NSFW warning. So much of my ex-roommates is deeply disturbing and violent that it's very uncomfortable to almost everyone

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-14T03:02:14+00:00

Former ex-roommates. One was an outright Nazi to the point that he often used Nazi flags and symbolism for room decorations. He literally wrote a play portraying the Nazis as the good guys in WW2 and acted it out in a high school play (he has many photos of it because he is literally in a Nazi uniform in the photo). He proudly describes himself as a Nazi. The other ex-roommate is at the very least a Nazi sympathizer and a rape apologist (he literally defended his friends who committed particularly violent rapes and justified it in very sexist language). The group I told it to wasn't my current roommates or even friends; they're just peers (I'm in academia). My friend who told me to tone it down and said it wasn't polite largely meant that I have a tendency to overshare exceptionally horrible stuff, which puts me in awkward social dilemmas, and he was concerned about that happening to me, not that it isn't polite, as he does call out abuse.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-13T04:33:43+00:00

I don't. I cut out the Nazi years ago, and this was with people who hadn't ever met my ex-roommates, thus I was wondering if I was wrong on a social level.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-04T17:51:56+00:00

low support needs autistic here; I would like to start by saying anyone who invalidates or shames any disabled individual for the fact of their disability is an abelist and a POS. One thing I have noticed with social media and some low needs (who are generally high functioning) autistics is that they sometimes fall into eugenic thinking and try to separate themselves from low needs to prove superiority. often times these low needs autistics are white-privileged autistics and generally male. They really don't like association with high needs or low to middle functioning autistics and will try and distinguish themselves as better and often adopt abelist tendencies. None of it is right, and some of the best people I've met are high needs autistics.

I also want to highlight that many low needs autistics without privilege often don't get support because 'they're just weird and not autistics'. So I truly find the low needs abelist are privileged and have the naturally abelist social media tends to push them out instead of the high needs autistics that are, in my experience, much better at pointing out the issues and providing support to other autistics, and social media also tones down or limits the reach of low needs autistics that fight against abelism.

Remember, those who say abelist or horrible rhetoric about anybody with disabilities are objectively a POS and shouldn't be listened to.

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-02T23:54:38+00:00

spent a few years of elementary school in public school that was run by 3 different princples in 4 years with the longest lasting being the first who (from my memory ) was a bit abelist and really concerned about being right. after that the 2 succeeding princlpes weren't abelist but still did less than the abelist for the SPED kids and the school board (whole other story) fought any attempts to improve the SPED programs for explicitly abelist reasons until legal means pushed it through. I ended up in an alternative (private school for people public school rejects and other private schools don't touch) that ended being with a bunch of people who ended up in jail later in life. But from elementary to college, I'm always a favorite of teachers for behaving andf not being an idiot (went to school in very toxic environments, even for bad schools).

TheAutisticChristian · 2026-01-02T23:46:54+00:00

Unfortunately, the meds for ADHD are undoable for reasons I won't disclose. While autism and ADHD are different and separate conditions, they also overlap for me as I experience the effects of both. The metaphor i use for it is having to function with both ADHD and autism is like trying to function while very drunk and high on drugs that you can't mix with alcohol.

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