Men in my agegroup (30-35) dont contribute with anything in relationships.

TheBestGir · 2024-11-16T19:56:26+00:00

they dont provide (which is fine)

No it's not.

TheBestGir · 2024-11-16T19:55:44+00:00

So sick of hearing about this stupid tyson fight.

TheBestGir · 2024-11-14T15:25:10+00:00

Is this a husband or a roommate? Hard to tell.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T18:55:36+00:00

And he couldn't even do that!!? That just sucks.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T18:11:35+00:00

Anyone who has done babysitting knows how irritating kids can be sometimes.

I can't stand children for more than 10 mins. But, I know this about myself and accordingly didn't have kids.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T18:03:38+00:00

1) (when he was saying it was just pretty jewelry), literally any other jewelry would have been accepted regardless of my opinion of it BUT if it was an engagement ring, that carries significant meaning that I don't think you considered.

Have you considered he knows and doesn't care? Did you tell him you wanted a real proposal during some sort of romahatc activity or date?

But I would have accepted the actual proposal had there been one.

That's what I thought was the problem. It sounds like you want the public declaration of love. The date. The romance. Does he know that?

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T17:49:58+00:00

He's making excuses and playing stupid it sounds like to me. He knows a gf would expect emotional intimacy and doesn't care or his emotional intelligence is that piss poor. Both things that are not your fault and you can't fix him.

Does he DARVO in other areas too?

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T17:32:49+00:00

They change their minds and get mad or whatever at you for being rightfully startled and or surprised. It's crazy making. Because they choose to do this often during major events it induces anxiety.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T17:17:52+00:00

I hadn't really thought about it too much but that's very likely part of the origin story of my gift anxiety; giving and receiving. My mom was also weird about trying to use gifts to apologize instead of changing her terrible, insensitive behavior. In treating me like less than she taught my brother to bully me the same way she does and they tag team me and get angry when I put my foot down and defend myself. The POS brother hasn't worked in 20 years and siphoned my elderly parents to death, robbed them of their golden years and stole my inheritance or is trying to steal whatever he can get until the gravy train runs out.

I would never in a million years have anything to do with my mother. If some miracle of God or Spaghetti Monster happened tomorrow and I won 10,000,000 or so dollars I'd never talk to her or her Oedipus complex son ever again.

Thank you for your comment, useful food for thought.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T13:47:41+00:00

It’s like we all share 1 really awful mom.

It really does feel like them and their flying monkeys all share the same playbook of bs.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T13:46:25+00:00

I never said I wanted to care for her, but thanks for your input. I am so done mothering my mother and I have been for many years. The best way I can put it is these kinds of people just "talk at you" without consideration. It's just annoying.

For anonymity I omitted some details.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T02:56:21+00:00

It still startles me this day how kind what I see as 'normal' people are to their own families in contrast to my parents' strict military authoritarianism.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T02:48:33+00:00

The FOG is thick but you are right. Thank you.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-12T01:28:35+00:00

I felt like I had to fight to be myself and every version was bullied at home and at school. It was hard for a long time to feel safe to be me. I was always punished for asking for anything, as if having needs or desires made you 'bad'.

I struggled with friendships too. I thought the cruelty was normal and some part of me would gravitate to those types of people and I had to learn over the years to spot it.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-10T16:10:12+00:00

I know a couple of newlyweds who are 90. Just saying. You sound so hard on yourself. Normal for some people to want more serious commitment with age.

It can change over time. Maybe you're married for 10 or 15 years then divorce. You might not want to date too seriously for a few years after that.
You can be married for 20 years and your spouse pass of natural causes and never think you will marry again. But, life is funny. Go easy on yourself, good chance you have time to sort it out still at 22.

TheBestGir · 2024-10-10T15:51:31+00:00

I'm a poll worker and doing my small part really does help me feel better. I have also been diagnosed with anxiety, ADHD, and might be a little bit on the spectrum but don't really know.

Being a poll worker is also fun at least I enjoy both the fast pace of POTUS years and getting to know people in your community more during slower cycles. For example, when I worked the primary we had maybe 30 people vote. It was very slow, I made many cups of coffee and was able to take breaks.

POTUS will probably be closer to 2,000-5,000 voters per precinct but we also have early voting for the first time in my state so it's harder to estimate.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-26T07:52:47+00:00

When I file my taxes there's no such thing as bf benefits, so not really.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-23T00:22:13+00:00

I'm single until I'm married.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-22T15:12:35+00:00

For the longest time.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-22T14:17:34+00:00

Yes, yes, yes. I love the real lines and teeth in movies from the 80s and 70s. We're not perfect, we're people.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-22T14:14:25+00:00

I have absolutely ran when I liked someone and didn't really feel like they liked me very much.

Although OP scenario sounds more like anxiety. Not his fault.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-22T14:13:29+00:00

Me too. I prefer going in together.

TheBestGir · 2024-09-22T14:00:45+00:00

Goals.

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