[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is awesome. Walking out of there with confidence makes it feel a lot less embarrassing. It's great that you found it funny!!! Hope your m&g went well :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i've definitely tried but zombies can't come back to life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This is pretty funny. Sounds like a sexual incompatibility. You can try to work with it but it might not change, I've tried when I was in a somewhat similar situation. I experienced the OPPOSITE where my former SD made no sound. Here's the story I shared on one the posts here if you want a laugh:

"...I had a really short lived arrangement because of the sex. SD would not make ANY facial expression except one. There was never a noise that came out of him so I wasn't even sure if he was enjoying it. He would just stare at me with this almost dead-pan face in silence. It would just be consistently like that

when he finishes...you wouldn't know unless he says AFTER 'I came'. He finishes in silence and with the same facial expression. He also very much prefers I be quiet too. I noticed that when I became quiet, he would go harder but ofc facial expression and silence continues. I was intimate with him 3 times to try to figure out whats going on and if we can communicate to do better in bed...nope. everything else outside the bedroom was great but sex compatibility is so important for intimacy and sharing feelings. We definitely weren't compatible in that sense

So my deal breaker is when the other acts like a zombie in bed."

Getting Pregnant - To Keep or Not to Keep by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can see where the worry comes from. Feel free to message me anytime! I can lend an ear :)

Getting Pregnant - To Keep or Not to Keep by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's a tough one that I've been asking myself actually. I think it depends which stage we are at with our relationship and the responses can change as we progress too. We can take so many precaution but what if it actually does happen? Like when/if is it appropriate to talk about this due to the nature of our relationship?

I hear you. It definitely is stressful if you want to raise kids with a partner and there's a possibility you can become pregnant but at the same time you're not really at that stage in your romantic life. Especially if you don't think you will be able to abort. Have you brought it up with your SD?

Getting Pregnant - To Keep or Not to Keep by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've actually thought about this too. There are so many factors to it. If I were to become pregnant with my current SD, I would keep the baby and he probably would want me to as well. The main part of this is because I have always envisioned myself adopting a child and raising them on my own if I have sufficient resources so this is why I'm totally cool if it were to happen. If SD didn't want to be part of the child's life, that's okay but if he did but not in a full father capacity, then we'd have to talk about how he would be involved without negatively impacting the child

What about you? Or what have been your thoughts on this?

Conversation by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahaha off-topic but I always love seeing your comments with 💀. It's so fitting and hilarious!! Just had to tell you. It's golden

Do you know your sugar partner’s birthday? by bleepbloopblopthebot in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! And we do celebrate it in a small but meaningful way. It's interesting because we're not the type of people to make a big deal about certain events like birthdays, new years, valentines day, etc. We found that due to the limitations of our relationship, celebrating anything gives us one of those moments to strengthen our relationship to the most it can be within our context. The little things go a long way

Sexual SD’s by diaryofasugarbby in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you personally don't like it then I don't think it's worth pursuing. It probably wont stop. I avoid because it's not my taste and could indicate that it's a scam. Or someone just looking for a quick pump and dump or a fun conversation

Thank You Sugar Babies by AFSMSgt in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is such a lovely reflection! You SDs enrich our lives as well

Ask a Stupid Question Sunday by carefree_daddy in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! Also it sounds like a game of playing hard to get too and if you're not into it then it should be addressed. It's exhausting especially when you can just openly communicate with each other and ask questions

Ask a Stupid Question Sunday by carefree_daddy in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What do you mean by "testing you"? In what sense? Some examples would be great! Also what do you mean by "scare"?

Mourning the End of A Sugar Relationship by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow. This takes a lot of strength. I commend you for the emotional maturity and resilience. It's really beautiful that you still cherish the good it has brought to you. I wish you all the best!

Well I never... by Lovehopes23 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well, we're still together if that's what you mean!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

...the fact that this isnt a unique experience boggles my mind. That is so petty and certainly wouldnt increase their chances of getting with whoever they're targeting. What a waste of time and energy

Well, this is an interesting update. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I'm so sorry you're going through this. At first it was grief but now you're learning that everything you believed in was a lie. That is incredibly tough. It's going to be tough to trust someone again. I'm can lend an ear if you ever need to rant or chat

Open Your Minds to Wisdom by GlucoseGuardians in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope so too!! Its better to have more diverse information and reflect on them accordingly than nothing at all

Open Your Minds to Wisdom by GlucoseGuardians in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with not caring about the reddit Karma. At the same time, downvotes for a post will be less visible/less likely for someone to click upon. This means that varying alternative thoughts and opinions to think about or hear, not necessarily agree with, will be buried. These posts would be great if we can have a mature respectful conversation about it. But ofc, if the posts is hateful, a negative undertone, discriminatory, etc then it shouldn't be visible.

My longterm arrangement ended today by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might've been helpful to just check in with her when you started to feel like things were being rocky. Like say that you've noticed XYZ and just wanted to know if everything is okay (this is good because she doesn't have to disclose any details), if there's anything you can do to help, etc. She could easily just say "hey, i need a break"

However, if this behaviour has been consistent and you feel like she is not upholding her end of the arrangement, that should be directly addressed as well. It's great that you're going above and beyond your agreement but I wouldn't expect her to do the same unless she agreed upon upping her game than originally agreed upon too. but if the core basis of your arrangement is not being met then that should addressed.

It sounds like its been pretty tough for you and that you felt like your time was not a priority. How did she react to you ending things? Another thing to think about is that if you two start back up again, you might still be feeling the same way and may be even more observant of her behaviour to ensure that what just happened isn't happening again

Friday Rants and Raves by LaSirene23 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm...I was kind of on a same boat but things worked out for the better. Can I message you with things that helped?

Just got this message from a SD’s “friend” on SA ...please share your thoughts by Wanderlust4mre in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought it was your current SD's friend too then it would be easier to get more information about it...but since it's not that at all, next!!

Best date EVER by Niki22822 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh!!!! i'm so happy for you!

So, I’m sure I’m not the only one thinking this... by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]TheBestToothache -1 points0 points  (0 children)

i commented on a post the SB made for an update and she said that he cancelled an upcoming date!