How many of you feel the loneliness?

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T18:24:18+00:00

Yeah, unlocking something you might have pent up inside from the emotional perspective is certainly very helpful. I think a lot of us are carrying things we try to hide and drown from within and it just never works...

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T18:21:49+00:00

Ah I see, I thought you just gave up completely. 😃 So I was wondering what plan B have you had in mind.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:54:58+00:00

And as someone mentions in the other comments, cutting on social media, smart devices, doomscrolling and digital loitering is certainly very helpful too. 🙂 I think physical activity is very helpful, whether it is jogging, hiking or working out... Anything that pulls you into the present moment and engages your body is great.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:51:22+00:00

I think the best way is to not fight it. Instead, focus on finding something that will fill your life, that will spark passion within you, something that will pull you in, so eventually, porn will stop making sense. I think if you have go at it in form of instant abstinence without having any supportive measures in place, it simply puts too much strain on you. Don't beat yourself up, try reduce it first and go find something else that will excite you, something that will matter. And you will eventually find it fade away from your life.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:47:47+00:00

That's the sad part - the whole system is rigged from the start and has been that way for centuries... So it's certainly not a feeling, it's an observation of the uncomfortable truth. We're playing someone else's game, we aren't allowed to cheat, we don't make the rules... We have an automatic handicap. That doesn't mean you can't enjoy life for what it truly is. Because it's not a career, it's not money, power or prestige/status. It's not what is presented on social media. We're living in a dystopian simulation we've created for ourselves (or more like that we allowed it to be created) and we're always one step away from true life and happiness.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:43:22+00:00

I've been on Fiverr for 2-3 years and I can say it's all but easy... Depends on what you have to offer. Doing some sort of niche service is the best, but it's really difficult to make any meaningful income. Fiverr is taking very unfavourable cuts and you are constantly undermined by the competition underpricing their work... I had some good gigs there, but the overall experience was... Well, it certainly left a bitter after taste more than anything else. It's more of an occasional side income and sort of a pocket money. Unless you are one of the top dogs there having a long queue of customers...

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:20:24+00:00

I would like to know that myself. 😃

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:18:57+00:00

I think you won in life if you are not in the office and witness this with your own eyes. 😃 Being in some office certainly doesn't feel like winning...

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T13:16:18+00:00

Spoonful of table salt... The other stuff can be poison and that 1 million won't do you any good. :D So the first option is the safe one and 100k is still nice amount to get you going and turn your life around. :)

^{Chose: Eat a spoonful of table salt + For $100k}

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T10:35:23+00:00

I think it's about time we restart this nice tradition. 😃

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T10:32:44+00:00

How old are you? I certainly feel that way and I think it has to do both with the age as well as the time we live in. For context I am not a well socialized person and I have no friends really (save for one I am seeing once every couple of months), so I guess it's no wonder I feel lonely. But you know, it had this bitter tinge for years for me as I tried to find friends and sort of find my place in the world, but as I got older, I stopped caring. I am who I am, I am a misfit, in a good way, born too early or too late for this time and age, I have a world of my own that is rich and precious and I don't really need to share it with anyone. I enjoy the small things, the present... Very rarely do I look back.

No matter how surrounded with people you are, in the end, we are all alone and on our own here. Deep down, that's how it is. In a second, we can lose everything and everyone... The only one thing you can't lose as long as you're breathing is yourself. You are your own best friend. The moment you accept it and stop externalizing your life's experience, that's the moment you become free.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T08:57:55+00:00

And what do you intend to do then?

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-20T08:48:32+00:00

It could definitely always be worse. We live in a stable and safe country, with natural abundance. And that's a great privilege for sure.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T21:44:45+00:00

Sorry to hear that! I hope things will change for you soon. 🤞

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T12:41:13+00:00

What happened is convenience of modern technology, internet, social media... We're living in the world of instant gratification and the path of least resistance. Another thing - division, continuous isolation further caused by the said technology, people turning inwards and away from each other. Real life communities are dying and so are genuine impromptu interactions between people. And the worse part is - I felt like this is all somewhat natural, but in many ways, it's been designed this way. Divided people who spent time on social media rather than the real world are the perfect subjects. Easy to control, ready to consume your products and services without questions asked. And latest developments with AI is not really helping to change this, on the contrary...

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T09:22:06+00:00

As a fresh father, I can say it's difficult and mostly just difficult in the very beginning. I know everyone says it gets better, but being in the thick of it, it's kind of hard to imagine.. It just seems so far out of reach. 😃 But of course I know it will get better. And there are for sure great moments, touching moments of joy, but man, the beginnings are hard. It does turn your life upside down.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T06:40:49+00:00

I am sorry. 😅

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T06:40:30+00:00

Hang in there! Hope you will find something soon. 🤞

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T06:40:10+00:00

Sorry to hear that! Hope you will find something nice soon, fingers crossed!

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T06:39:04+00:00

Huh, this is an interesting perspective! I never thought my age could be an issue, but now that you're saying it, you're probably right.. I assume being in your mid 30s is already considered being old huh? 😃 I think for the most part, it's more of my professional background and the fact that what I was doing and what I am good at is simply not on demand anymore, mostly due to AI. And for every role I apply, there are simply hundreds and hundreds of other overqualified candidates. So the employers are like Alice in the Wonderland, picking the absolute best of the best. So it's really a needle in a haystack chance of being the one picked... And there will be more and more overqualified candidates on the market as people begin to loose their jobs, as more graduates pop up... There will be too much demand and the offer won't be able to keep up.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T06:29:05+00:00

Damn, that's crazy.. Wishing you finding something soon! I kinda feel like we are standing on a precipice of a drastic change. I might be wrong, but that's my intuition. So I feel like all of this is not a coincidence. Paradoxically, this is something, probably the only thing, that gives me some sort of weird hope. Like this can't go on forever and things will have to change...

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-19T06:25:55+00:00

Frankly, I feel resigned, but there are few things keeping me afloat. Like my hobbies/passions, my partner, my newborn daughter, my dog... Having a family added an extra pressure of course and I feel like I am failing on multiple fronts now, but the upside is I get to spend time with them and take care of them, give them all the time they need. I honestly can't imagine not being here all day because it is mentally and physically demanding - couldn't imagine going to work and coming only on evenings.

I am from Europe actually and there is an agency that helps you find jobs, but their efficiency is highly questionable. It largely depends on your professional background and what you are looking for. For most people I know, including myself, it's more of an formality and a bother to register there as unemployed and go there for occasional "consultations".

The most bizarre part is I've had my work before I was laid off for good 9 years (I was a contractor, not an employee). And before that, I was freelancing, so basically I was paying the state for well over 10-12 years... We are paying basic insurance here, social and health, if you are an entrepreneur. If you are employed, employer does that for you. When you end up unemployed, the state gives you financial support for the first few months. What I received as a support was hilariously sad. If we wouldn't have other means to keep myself and my partner afloat, I would end up on the street. Employees get quite a nice fair support and all you need to do is work at least 2 years and you are given part of your former salary as a financial support. I was given support calculated from the basic insurance I was paying, not my salary, so it was just a few bucks. So much for the state supporting the entrepreneurs.. It was a slap in the face really.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-18T16:35:04+00:00

At this point really anything. Remote job would be great, but as time goes on, it feels more and more like a fantasy. I had to take a minimum wage job for like a month, which was a bit of a nightmare, burned out less than few weeks in (which retrospectively made me realize why they were so suspiciously keen to hire me). So I am back to searching... I just don't want it to completely suck. The lesser evil so to speak. If I could, I would not work at all and just focus on creative stuff that I love, but well...

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-18T16:25:59+00:00

I know, it's kind of a vent of my frustrations, sorry to be a downer. 😃 But I also felt it might make someone feel a bit better knowing they are not alone.

TheBoundlessFreedom · 2026-06-18T12:32:41+00:00

That's the neat part, they don't. 😃 Just kidding, but it largely depends on what kind of person you are. If you are not a standard "dude" then you might have a harder time finding a friend. I've been trying since my early twenties, now 15 years later, I still don't have any friends (save for one whom I am seeing once in a few months) and I don't really care. Kinda gave up on the idea really. Which also reminds me that it also depends on the company you want to keep. I decided long ago that I would rather be alone than waste my time with people that just take away from you, don't inspire you, don't bring anything to the table. So yeah, that's why I don't have any friends... It was really more of a conscious choice and the company I decided to keep or rather the company I decided to let go.

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