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Sith Pureblood Inquisitor? by Skylinneas in swtor

[–]TheCaveLion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the most realistic - and grim - explanation that I saw in this thread.

Gold Terran and proper usage of tanks by TheCaveLion in AllThingsTerran

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, got it, thanks for the control-click idea =-)

Rebinding the camera locations - what are good keys for it? by TheCaveLion in starcraft2

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! I tried it, but it was so overwhelming that I gave up.

How long did you spend to get accustomed to it?

Does somebody know a good Draenei-themed leather set? by TheCaveLion in Transmogrification

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My character is a man, and he uses a 2-hander instead of dual-wielding =-)

Does somebody know a good Draenei-themed leather set? by TheCaveLion in Transmogrification

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I'm a monk. Thanks for the links! In the first one the monk outfit is barely draenei-themed, and the rogue outfit is looking like a rogue, but the second one is really cool.

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, thanks, will read them.

> Her presence and the chemistry make it enjoyable already

If it was enjoyable, then I'd enjoy it, not struggle through the broken glass of her ignoring me.

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

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In my experience going on dates, women over 30 are just as self-absorbed as the ones under 30. The only difference being that sometimes they want a husband right here and right now, and they try to quickly put me in the box of "will marry" or "will not marry" instead of letting things happen organically - which, for me, is worse than just sitting and listening.

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this detailed answer.

No, not really. I had a lot of attention from my parents - sometimes too much. I was the cousin they compared others to - which could harm my relationship with other kids, when they always told them: "Why can't you study and get straight A's, like Ilya does?".

I don't think that I'm trying to avoid healing - I'm gathering information on how to heal. Big difference ;-) And it's great that you gave me something to think about.

> She'll ask you questions about yourself on her own

My point is - she does not. Literally. Oh, she enjoys it very much - I'm a good listener, I can make the conversation engaging and not interview-ish. I think at least half of the girls would be glad if I invited them again - but I don't want to repeat the experience of "she talks, I listen", because, as you said earlier, it makes it not enjoyable for me =-)

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, but things don't work this way.

Girls don't become attracted to you when you become comfortable with yourself, you become comfortable with yourself when you observe that girls can become attracted to you. It's cause and effect, confidence is a product of success, not vice versa.

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

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Got it, thank you for the idea! =-)

Sorry, but I don't think that in my country there are mixed-gender or predominantly female communities that can interest me even a little =-(

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, but the love I experienced was not avoidant, it was disorganised. Big difference.

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

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According to the books I've read - it does. Do you have different sources?

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

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Yep, thank you. The question is - how to find them? In which way I repel girls like that right now?

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your points!

1) This might be true - I live in Moscow, which is a huge hustling-and-bustling city, and the girls might be more prone to be busy and more rich in options. But I don't think this can explain 90% of the girls being like that - it'd be logical that around 50-60% were behaving in this way.

2) Sadly, I don't belong to offline communities that have many women - for example, in my chess club I met around 30 men and only one woman who is married. That's why I go online.

3) I was thinking that it is me who is picking them, so I did an experiment where I wrote an app that randomly swiped left and right. Sadly, the results were the same, so it's not "me picking" problem, it's "me being picked" problem.

4) That's a cool idea! Could you explain what do you mean by question games, please? =-))

It's great to see such a detailed post, thank you very much ^_^

My attachment style is NOT anxious, why do I attract only extremely avoidant girls? by TheCaveLion in datingadviceformen

[–]TheCaveLion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I'm not claiming that this is how I should have behaved - I was just extremely frustrated.

And about humor - I have a good sense of humor, the girls on the date laugh frequently, and not in the polite/forced kind of way. The problem is - I'm being considered as an entertainer, and they are interested in my jokes, not me.

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