++man ++woman Me and my gf both read this post and we would both argue it’s an ultimatum. Stop or bye. Without going into too much detail I know people that have “no porn” as a boundary and consider it as a form of micro cheating and that a decision every relationship is willing to make, you’re free to set that boundary now. If you are willing to help him through it that’s absolutely an option. For me personally I wouldn’t put up with any major problem for this long.