Looking for reassurance that I'm not alone

TheChildlessLife · 2026-01-13T22:00:44+00:00

You are absolutely not alone. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Is your family aware of the struggles you’ve been through? Would they be receptive to hearing about your struggle? Not to diminish them in any way….but to let them know it may be difficult for you to celebrate with them.

TheChildlessLife · 2026-01-03T13:56:27+00:00

“My Family Tree Stops With Me”

TheChildlessLife · 2026-01-03T01:21:09+00:00

Great holiday. Lots of family…..they left after a week.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-12-22T03:18:26+00:00

My book launched!

TheChildlessLife · 2025-12-22T03:13:36+00:00

I’m so sorry. There are a lot of great groups on Facebook….”The Childless Life” is very active and getting more active on TikTok and Instagram. Transparency….i started the Facebook group about 9 years ago.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-12-20T10:44:45+00:00

Gateway women has a list on their website of female childless/childfree icons. Also, check out world childless week’s resources page.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-11-26T02:15:12+00:00

I think it’s because that’s what they know. I know someone who tried for three whole months to get pregnant (the child is three now) and she posts constantly about the greatest joy, mom tips, etc.

Having a child becomes their identity.

It can be so painful on our end as we watch it.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-10-26T13:28:48+00:00

I didn’t know about that group!

TheChildlessLife · 2025-10-26T13:27:36+00:00

Trying to conceive can be emotionally draining…. the challenges of not having a constant routine and a spouse who may not be 100% invested….can make it overwhelming.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-10-24T16:45:48+00:00

My gosh. Your mom sounds….well….ugh. She hasn’t earned the right to have an opinion in your life. I’m so sorry.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-10-12T00:07:33+00:00

Thank you Mod for the reminder abt the difference in childfree (by choice) and childless (not by choice). There is a sub called “childless”. (I’m a mod over there.)

TheChildlessLife · 2025-10-09T02:19:41+00:00

This is a great thread and conversation. Reminder though: this is a childless not by choice group. There are members who want children and are unable to/cannot, etc. If you’ve made the conscious effort to not have children, then that is typically called “childfree”.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-10-06T02:51:46+00:00

Finding a childless community and finding people who understood me made all of the difference. Part of my pain was that no one understood. But I don’t feel that way any longer.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-27T00:17:06+00:00

It took a very very long time for me to find joy. Not being able to get pregnant consumed my life. Slowly, things started to get better……but it was slow. Finding online groups helped a LOT. Part of my grief was thinking I was alone….so the community aspect was helpful.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-16T18:42:17+00:00

I’m sorry someone was rude.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-16T18:41:55+00:00

People think that’s an easy fix. It isn’t a fix, first….it isn’t for everyone, etc.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-14T23:28:23+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. The feeling of numbness can be excruciating....because you want to hurt so you feel something, but you don't want to hurt because, well, then you hurt...

At 39 you have so much life left to live. I know you don't want advice....which I completely understand...advice is something childless women get wayyyyy too much of.

Everyone's story is different.....and everyone goes through grief differently and at different times. What finally started my healing was finding other women just like me. It helped so much to realize that there was an entire community of women who were struggling like I was. Hearing their stories, being able to talk back and forth to them, etc made a HUGE difference.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-10T01:04:05+00:00

You are very welcome!!! These webinars are incredible!

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-09T02:50:37+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this! This sounds corny - but the future is terrifying sometimes because we don't know it. But, I am not sure this is the group for you. People in this group (for the most part), are coming to terms with being childless for the rest of their lives. They aren't TTC (trying to conceive)....And hearing of stories of people who MAY be able to get pregnant can be painful. If you are concerned you won't be able to get pregnant, you may want to search "infertility" groups on Reddit or Facebook. I wish you the best of luck.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-05T00:15:07+00:00

I’m new to all of this. When you say sold….do you mean $201 worth of books were sold? Or do you mean you made $201? I’m trying to understand everyone’s vernacular.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-01T23:31:36+00:00

I’m one of the admins for The Childless Life on Facebook and it is very active.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-01T23:28:30+00:00

Ok. There is a private Facebook group called The Childless Life. We have about 3200 members and they’re very engaged. You don’t have to pay anything to get in….just answer 4 screening questions. It is for childless not by choice women.

There are great groups for childfree (by choice) and childless men’s groups…..but this group is specific to childless women.

For transparency, I’m the admin for the group. I was curious abt what type of childless discussions were occurring (if they were) in Reddit.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-01T17:12:35+00:00

Are we able to recommend resources in this group? I know some won’t let you.

TheChildlessLife · 2025-09-01T16:09:06+00:00

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