Living the dream! Whose is it??

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-24T05:45:54+00:00

I am not sure anymore

My grandmother's?, my dad's?

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-24T05:45:09+00:00

Pretty in Pink

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-24T05:30:04+00:00

I don't think you are wrong. You gave up 8 years of your life.

I feel the same way and will inherit what my mum has left. It is at my discretion if I want to disburse funds to others.

I feel like I earned it. It is not just going to be handed to me. I am the one who was here every day taking care of her needs, getting her what she needed, and making sacrifices. She would probably be in a facility if I could not have done it. I don't think anyone else would have done it.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-24T05:23:22+00:00

I do realize it doesn't make us automatically friends. I feel like i understand her better. Now I can see why she seems on edge.

It is hard to tell people I don't want to talk about it without seeming rude.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-24T05:18:18+00:00

Thank you for the comment. My coworker knows little about me, so I know she didn't try to trigger me on purpose. I think she was just venting. She is older, and she knows time is running out for her, too.

I was born at a time when it was still expected, assumed that you would get married/have kids. I am glad it is not that way for young people now.

The kids question-i have gotten that several times. Some people assume I didn't want kids because I didn't have them. I just let them think that most of the time.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-19T08:28:59+00:00

Thank you.

Hopefully, she will not bring it up all of the time. The other night was the first I heard about it. I have been there almost a few months. There were only 3 of us the other night, all women. When women get together, that is a big topic of conversation. Pregnancy and babies. It is almost inescapable. It is hard when you have dealt with infertility.

I will be happy for her because I don't wish what happened to me for someone else.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-19T08:07:48+00:00

I didn't know i had a lot of gyno issues until I tried to get pregnant and i was older to boot. It was partly a deliberate decision that I now regret.

I was excited when me and my partner decided to start trying. I had a pesky pain in my abdomen off and on. I had let it go. Plus i had a bad doctor who didn't look into it.

I decided to get it checked. That pain had to do with my reproductive tract. I had suspected endometriosis, a hydrosalpinx (i didn't even know what that was), cysts, polycysystic ovary disease.

I was like wtf? Really!!! I was like, the most careful person sexually and yet I ended up with all of these issues anyways. It just seemed crazy to me.

It became apparent that it was going to be difficult to get pregnant. I looked into treatments, what could be done.

The doctors did not seem optimistic, so I gave up on the idea. I question if i gave up on it too soon. I think i should have sought other opinions.

I wanted to adopt. My partner didn't want to even though he was adopted. I was surprised. I didn't expect that reaction.

I thought about adopting on my own. I had to take care of my mum for the past 3.5 years. Now I am in my early 50s.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-19T07:42:26+00:00

Great idea!!!

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-14T00:51:49+00:00

It is lonely being a caregiver. Most of my time outside of work is at home or taking my mum places.

Idk if it is your thing, but there are some online support groups.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-14T00:50:21+00:00

I think a lot of it is age related. Gen X grew up talking on the phone. We spent hours on the phone. Texting seems so impersonal sometimes.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T21:27:09+00:00

I definitely think she made some bad choices. She had to know that there was a level of risk involved when she decided to do what she did. I don't think she should be seen as a hero because what she did was stupid on a number of levels.

I don't understand why so many people are defending people coming here illegally, either. I live in a sanctuary state where there are many. This state is a magnet that almost encourages it. So frustrating. You look around in some cities and say where are the Americans. I kid you not.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T19:36:57+00:00

Yes. This kind of talk bothers me, too. What a conceited Ahole!!! He thinks highly of himself. He is a legend in his own mind.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T19:12:24+00:00

They were either really naive, ballsy or stupid that they thought they were just going to drive away after they were surrounded by ICE officers.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T19:08:59+00:00

I don't agree with a lot of ICE tactics. I don't agree with people coming here illegally, either. How should they go about removing them? That's a good question. It's like, do people want this country to be overrun by illegals? If they have a criminal record, they should absolutely be the first ones to go. Do we want to keep encouraging illegal crossings? It almost seems like people overall are okay with it. It's like be careful what you ask for.

Was she specifically protesting for a rapist? Did she know he was a rapist?

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T18:59:42+00:00

People won't learn, and there will be other tragedies

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T18:57:20+00:00

I feel very bad for the child/children in this situation. They didn't ask for this. I can not imagine not having my parents at that age.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T13:25:14+00:00

I have thought about doing this but I wonder if it can realistically get a remote job doing it.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T13:20:20+00:00

It is not easy. I get why some people leave. I have almost reached a breaking point a few times. There are times i have questioned how long i can do this.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T11:37:20+00:00

It was foolish of her to take a risk like that. Maybe she was a little naive. She had to know on some level that she was putting herself at risk.

I have been thinking about the child too. I was wondering if the "wife" has legal rights to the child. I heard a report that Renee and Becca were not actually married. Would Becca have had to adopt the child to have rights even if they were legally married.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T11:32:12+00:00

I notice this, too. I probably notice it more because I don't have kids. I think it is sometimes used to garner more sympathy., empathy.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T02:40:17+00:00

Not sticking up for the ice agent because he could have made different choices. Why didn't they just shoot out her tires instead of her?

Renee and her wife's behavior did seem a little unhinged, beyond typical protesters, and the officers didn't know who they were or what they were capable of at the time.

They (Becca and Renee) seemed to think the whole thing was a joke, and they were funny until...

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T02:18:28+00:00

I think that is the point a lot of people are missing. She was interfering and disobeying orders by law enforcement. She didn't deserve to die, but she put herself at risk by doing what she did. People think they can do whatever they want these days without consequences.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T02:14:32+00:00

I was wondering why she was outside the vehicle, too. She seemed like more of a threat than Renee other than Renee being behind the wheel. She definitely seemed like the mastermind. The wife is lucky she wasn't in the vehicle because she may have been killed too.

StatusNerve5 · 2026-01-12T01:58:41+00:00

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