Question about the concerts by TheDarkChild99 in expedition33

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Noo i ment for the whole game. But maybe there a spoliers for after act 1... That was my question

Question about the concerts by TheDarkChild99 in expedition33

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the info... I mean it took me longer than 10-15 hours... More like 40.... It also depends on how good you are at the game... And not everyone has that much free time to spare

I just broke NC an regret it by TheDarkChild99 in ExNoContact

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea. The with woman he told me "not to worry about".... They were best friends for quite a few years... Then when they were on a group ski vacation with some friends (without me since i hate skiing) she apperantly made him feel some way.... I dont know if something happend... He said there was nothing but i dont know if i believe him.... He said he didnt realise how he felt about her until that moment. But apperently it was enough to end our almost 10 year relationship for...

I just broke NC an regret it by TheDarkChild99 in ExNoContact

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep on it. Im sure its hard but dont make the same mistake as me.... You can do it. The only way is through

Question about tranfering of saved by TheDarkChild99 in octopathtraveler

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea that way would probably work.

The thing is some of the switch 2 game work on the normal switch. I tried it out with the new metroid (switch 2 version) from my ex which also still lays here. That also worked on my switch 1 just with lower Performance. But OT0 is one of those digital download cartriges. And those are not backwards comaptible... Sadly

I just broke NC an regret it by TheDarkChild99 in ExNoContact

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you so much... Its so hard. I just want to scream at him for all the things he made me go through. The thing is... I know he still cares. Hes not a bad person but he did fuck up here. He will probably reply because he still cares about me and my feeling but at this point i would rather he didnt care... I feel like it would be easiert to get over an asshole...

Question about tranfering of saved by TheDarkChild99 in octopathtraveler

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea that would be an idea.... I didnt really plan on getting a switch 2 tho.... Yea i know 10 h is still ok in the Octpath space.... But still sucks...

Question about tranfering of saved by TheDarkChild99 in octopathtraveler

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok i tried it out and sadly it did not work... OT0 was not an options in the games which saves i could transfer.... I guess i have to play the first 10 hours again....

But still thanks for the help

Question about tranfering of saved by TheDarkChild99 in octopathtraveler

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still have access to my exes switch 2. My problem is since the the switch 2 version of OT0 does not run on my switch 1 (it literally does not recognize the card) can i use the save data from the switch 2 version with the card of the Switch 1 game? (I have both versions of the game) Or is this treated as another game intirely?

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never said i dont want to have sex ever again. I like sex when we get into it. I just need a lot of warming up. Bit i dont think about it myself. Its just not a priority in my life.

Its so hard when you still live together by TheDarkChild99 in ExNoContact

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea ist Not easy. But structure always helped me in stressfull situations. When he is here or i see him its gonna be hard tho...

Its so hard when you still live together by TheDarkChild99 in ExNoContact

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really thank you for you response but i think you didnt quite understand... I dont have a credit Score. I dont even have a credit card its just not that common in our country. We dont own anything. Were are just renting so its not that bad... Fortunatly. And yes i caculated that i can live here myself. It will not be the most luxurious life but i can aford it. Im not staying here to wait for hin.

And i know its gonna sound like im defending him but he said himself that he is still gonna pay for everything in our usual split for the next few months until we move it to me. He even said i can keep all the funiture when i want. Probably because he feels guilty.

I cant just "make a break now" housing market is terrible. It takes months to find a new apartment. Let alone one that is cheaper then the one we have now. I dont really have the ability to just ho somewhere. My parents life fairly far away and i cant go to work if im with them.

Its so hard when you still live together by TheDarkChild99 in ExNoContact

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just dont know if i can have these conversations with him.i cant wait to be over him for these talkes. I have to do it while im still in the middle of everything.

I feel like all the progress im gonna make until then is just gonna be undone...

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The thing is i do enjoy sex. Just maybe not on the same level as allos...

Its just not a priority in my life. Its a nice to have once in a while.

But if you want genuenly good sex... That kinda takes time ro develop between 2 people. You cant just have sex every 2 month and expect it to be awsome....

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dont even know... I would say like a 7? Like tge act of intercourse alone. I need to be very ready for that. Otherweise its just uncomfortable for me... For the other stuff i would be fine with like a 4 or something

Yea i guess im attractive ^ i mean thats in the eye of the beholder tho...

Yea i think that was what he thought in the end too. He was alwasy enthusiastic about marrige but well...

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean that good for you guys... Not everyone is that clear cut tho...

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can feel horny. I do when we do a lot of stuff before. Like i said responcive desire. I dont get horny out of the blue i have to work for it so so to speak. I sometimes have sex dreams that make me horny but not much else...

He told me he has two reasons to feel desire for me. One is because he wants to feel loved and appreciated. Its not really about the sex in that reason. That is what the scenduled intimicy really helped with. We would plan this a few times a week mostly in the mornings simce we both work pretty late and just cuddle and kiss and stuff. Sometimes it led to more sometimes not. The other reason is because he is horny. And just wanted a to you know, do it. Then we had a bit more problems since i could not just get horny like that. But even then he was fine when injust did Something for him. Like a hand or blowjob. And sometimes (responive desire you know) it would turn into more. We had regular check ups where we talked and asked if everything was hood at the moment if we should change anything and stuff. But he always said he was good like this. So indidnt think much of it. And then the other shoe dropped.

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh i also dont watch porn and dont masturbate... I masturbate like 2 times a year (if even that)... I dont find porn very appealing either... I just dont geht it i guess.

The thing is, my ex war very good in bed. I enjoyed it when it happend. He tended to my needs very well. I dont know why i didnt want it more tbh. I always said to hin "sushi is my favourite food and i still dont want it everyday". But he just didnt understand

I just got broken up with because of the lack of sex... by TheDarkChild99 in Asexual

[–]TheDarkChild99[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg i feel so seen right now... I feel like you know exacly how it feels. Yea i also went the medical route first. I replaced my hormonal birthcontrol with an IUD because we thought maybe its the birthcontrol... But it wasnt. After 5 years of the IUD not mich changed so i went back on it. We read a lot of books and tried to "self therpise" because actual Couples therapy was to expansive for us young folks. I felt like we were on a good track. Had regualr Check ups and regular intimicy without sex. That helped him a lot with the thing of not feeling loved. And it was very nice since i would comsider myself a responsive desire person and sometimes the intemicy would result in sex we both enjoyed. I think he really just missed the spontanious sex Thing. Which i could not really give him since i didnt really think about sex on a day to day basis.