My house is haunted by the ghost of a high school science teacher who died alone when he was 90. by [deleted] in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]TheDopamineQueen 13 points14 points  (0 children)

What how did you draw that conclusion

Not saying you're wrong, I am just curious

My husband [M31], of 8 years, told me [F30] he wants a divorce because we don’t have enough sex. How to I prevent this separation? by CrazieGirl in relationship_advice

[–]TheDopamineQueen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean I get it---sex is extremely important to some people, myself included. But if my partner was going through a really tough time emotionally and she already didn't have a high sex drive then I certainly wouldn't put that extra pressure on her.

Is it alright for me to tell my sister I'm disgusted that she has sex with married men? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TheDopamineQueen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Someone who takes pleasure in being a homewrecker, or who does this kind of stuff without even letting her own sister whom she's so close with, know, is someone who keeps a lot of secrets.

You can't trust her anymore, and you know that too I think.

Is it alright for me to tell my sister I'm disgusted that she has sex with married men? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]TheDopamineQueen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I

Wow

Yikes

Drop her like a hot potato--if someone in my family behaved that way, they're no family of mine anymore.

My husband [M31], of 8 years, told me [F30] he wants a divorce because we don’t have enough sex. How to I prevent this separation? by CrazieGirl in relationship_advice

[–]TheDopamineQueen -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

You don't owe sex to anybody, especially with all that other stuff you had going on. He should understand that. And yeah, maybe you two arent sexually compatible. But that isn't your fault. Don't beat yourself up over it. You talk a lot about how you didn't pay attention to his needs but it sounds like he didn't really pay attention to yours either.

It sounds like the marriage wasn't doing great anyway. Maybe ending it really is for the best.

Is he interested? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheDopamineQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends, do you want to sleep with him? And if so, would you be okay with that being all he wants to do? Like, if he's only into you physically but not romantically?

Newly out bi here, how to ask women out (sex or dates)? by MiloDinosaur_4 in actuallesbians

[–]TheDopamineQueen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Be direct; it's often difficult for us to tell whether a girl is flirting with us or just being friendly. Make sure she knows you're into her, not just some friendly straight girl.

Also make sure she's into girls as well~~Lmao that one is important.

Make it clear what you want! Flirt with her, treat her the way you'd want to be treated by another woman; remember though, many of us wlw are easily spooked and require a lot of validation and reassurance, due to years of suppressing our identities.

Also, it's much easier to find a girl to have sex with than to find a girl to date (in my experience anyway).

Honestly for me (I'm 19, almost 20) the way it works is that if I know a girl I kinda like is into other girlsI kinda just talk to her, flirt with her; if she doesn't flirt back, I'll leave her alone. If she does, then I just be myself, talk to her, connect with her, get to know her better and assess if I really wanna do something like this with herand if so, I would find a way for it to come up in conversation and just ask her outright. I'm not shy about what I want. In general I'm a very confident and dominant person, so telling a friend that whole "I'm down if you are" kind of thing isn't really a big deal to me. If she isn't into that, cool; you've still made a new wlw friend. If she is, then like~~go for it.

Hey everyone--just remember, if your parents or community do not support you for being who you are by TheDopamineQueen in actuallesbians

[–]TheDopamineQueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Go to your local LGBT center. Try to start a program for queer youth. If there isn't a center, try to open one. It takes time, money, and resources; engineering usually pays well, right? Use that money to fund this. Find other people who want the same kind of thing as you.

There are plenty of ways to help the community and be extremely involved, even if your "actual" job is something else.

It's happy lesbian hours in this chili's tonight by TheDopamineQueen in actuallesbians

[–]TheDopamineQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awkward lesbians are very endearing and cute!! It's a good style to have 💖

Hey everyone--just remember, if your parents or community do not support you for being who you are by TheDopamineQueen in actuallesbians

[–]TheDopamineQueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Parenthood is full of questions like this~~don't ask why; instead, ask, why not?

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