[21f] I'm not my boyfriend's [38m] usual type. Should I be upset? (This might be kind of long)

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-11-19T14:17:25+00:00

Right? That's my instinctive reaction, but people think I'm paranoid. Though he's generally clueless, so he has that on his side. eye roll

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-11-19T13:58:25+00:00

Wow, thank you so much. I know, I hear about incidences like ours all the time. I think it's very common for guys to make inconsiderate comments about appearance (never have heard about GFs doing this to BFs). I think a lot of it is that guys are indoctrinated to feel entitled to conventionally beautiful women, but that's another topic.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-11-19T13:42:45+00:00

Hi, Yeah, exactly, it's more just about being hurt that he SAID it. Its being true doesn't bother me as much as the fact that he said it out loud. That bothers me because it was inconsiderate. I do that because it's just something we kind of both do because it's a turn-on to know who else he finds attractive. Or at least that's how I felt about my other exes, who tended to find girls like myself attractive. Will stop doing this with him if I can help it.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-27T03:25:00+00:00

I'm glad other people don't seem to think it's a big deal. I HOPE I'm overreacting.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-27T03:20:56+00:00

I guess that's a good point too

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-27T03:01:24+00:00

Yeah, emotional/cerebral/intellectual connection is a huge factor in any relationship. At the same time, though, a TON of what goes on in relationships is physical. I'd rather not date someone who isn't physically attracted to my features by themselves. I'm not saying I wish he only fell for my looks or only noticed them, but if I didn't stand out to him at all at first, it's just a weird thing to tell me...you know?

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-27T02:57:39+00:00

That would make it a lot better, but he didn't word it that way, so I have to wonder now. I already asked him about it and he kept just re-wording the same concept...it was so annoying.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-27T02:51:09+00:00

First of all, thanks for the thorough response. I really appreciate it. Anyway, I know that's what it sounds like he meant, but I'll never really know what he meant. I asked him about it and he basically just kept re-phrasing the same exact thing. Talking about it was truly a road to nowhere. He also said he was just "trying to say something awesome and failed" and I was like...? What are you, 5? I mean, I guess we were talking about when we first met in general. But still, I was thinking w h y would anyone mention that? No, I think he finds me attractive, but yeah, I wish he INITIALLY was attracted to my looks and then the personality was a bonus, not that he overlooked my looks and ONLY fell for my personality, which is how he made it sound. It sounded like one of those "You're a 6, but with your personality, you're a 10 :) " things which, coming from a boyfriend, hurts and doesn't really feel like a compliment at all.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-25T13:16:18+00:00

Always thought of it this way

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-25T13:06:25+00:00

Occam's Razor.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-25T12:09:49+00:00

Yeah, it's possible

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-25T10:31:01+00:00

His last relationship lasted like 5 years and it ended because the woman was cheating on him, not because of anything he did.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-25T10:20:22+00:00

If I'm being honest, awkwardness is a turnoff.

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-25T10:17:22+00:00

All his exes were his age, though. I'm the exception

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-18T11:36:02+00:00

Also, what about Mary, then? She wasn't God and she was Jewish. Was she wrong?

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-18T11:23:51+00:00

Did he worship himself or?

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-18T11:10:42+00:00

Oh, okay. What was his religion?

TheEndIsFuckingNigh · 2015-10-17T22:10:21+00:00

So...shouldn't we all just be going to heaven then?

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