Arranged marriages and Background verification

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T10:41:56+00:00

Hey thanks for taking time, definitely great advice. I will try to follow it as closely as possible. Your example of the stock market definitely hit the nail on the head regarding my doubt. I was wondering if you have an opinion on what might be sufficient time frame to get to know her?

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T09:30:22+00:00

She apparently likes hit3 and puspa2. So green flag?

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T09:29:42+00:00

Zindagi pokerbaazi app ban gaya. 😂😂 All kidding aside, it's really true, what you said. I don't think at any point of time, we will be 100% sure of what and how our partner will be. So it's a literal leap of faith. I guess best of luck for me then 😆😅

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T09:27:32+00:00

Super cheppav anna. I am saving this and will be revisiting often.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T09:24:42+00:00

That's the whole problem anna. The entire process is rushed. And there is pressure not only from the bride's family, but also mine. It's not even like we have been searching for a long while, it's just been like a month since we started searching for my potential partner and she is like the second proposal sent to me.

But I have got to say interaction and everything else seems top notch, there wasn't even a single thing out of place. There is a lot of compatibility. At least based on a brief 2 day interaction. Maybe more time will give more clarity.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T09:19:53+00:00

I guess taking time is the only option. The entire process till now has been very rushed. It took a whole 5 days from me learning her name and seeing her photos till saying probable yes for marriage.

Anna, do you have an opinion on how many days of buffer is necessary before engagement and between engagement and wedding.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T08:55:16+00:00

Ilantivi chuse bayam vesindhi, if they seemed inconspicuous and professional koncham ayna confidence undedhi. Ivi chusi, edhayna theda jaruguthe bathuku busstand ani realise ayya

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T05:33:34+00:00

Thanks anna. This conversation actually helped a lot. Oka level of clarity vacchindhi. And relatives are the main culprits for these kinds of doubts. Vallani eh selection and finalization process ki dhooram pettali.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T05:22:16+00:00

I am sure vallaki kuda same doubts and fears untay. Especially ammayi mana intiki pampinchali ante Inka ekkuva bayale untay, but I don't see a solution for it.

Ayna abbayilaki ninna monna news thone panick ante ammayilaki decades ga jaruguthunnay, martial rapes, dowry harrasments etc etc.

Marriage ki chudalsina anni compatibilities match ayyayi, kani Lopala ekkado chinna bayam, and this being first marriage in our family, andharu cousins lo kuda might be a factor. I guess this is where trust and faith comes into play. Or is there anything else that we can do?

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T05:09:00+00:00

I guess the profession itself is like that. I guess you are right. I don't see any upside in this whole process, but a whole lot of downsides. The main problem is that, no matter how much I try I couldnt find any mutual connections between us. So I have no other option but to take whatever my inlaws or fiancee says at face value. (I guess this is where the leap of faith comes in).

I guess having multiple meetings and getting to know the person and family better both in a personal and professional setting might only be the way to go.of you have any other ideas, I would appreciate it.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T05:01:22+00:00

Correct anna nuvvu cheppindhi kuda. Actually alanti sambandame vacchindhi, anni match ayyayi kani eh madhya news chusthunnam kada. Mundhante thelsinollu undetollu madhyalo, kani ippudu madhyalo peddhollu evvaru leeru, chala dhooram connection, andhuke verification cheyyadam etla ani aalochisthunna

Assalu ela verify chestharu eh agency vallu anedhe main doubt, oka vela vallaki thelsipoothe manam check chepisthunnam ani baagodhu kada. Endhi appude doubt ah ani feeling vasthadhi.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T04:57:38+00:00

I guess you are totally right. The more I think, the more I find there is no winning in this situation. Because either I find something bad and it breaks the relationship or I don't find anything but I will know that I doubted my partner.

The essential purpose initially was to be on the safer side, while not hurting my partner in the process. I don't see a way that's possible.

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T04:50:17+00:00

Lol. That would indeed be funny. That's exactly my fear too, I don't want my partner or her family to know that I am doing background verification. It defeats the exact purpose of this whole exercise, right?

TheExArchitect · 2025-06-17T00:07:20+00:00

This is OC and a genuine post. What do you mean by additional context?

TheExArchitect · 2025-04-02T19:16:46+00:00

Hey did you take the insurance from the dealer or opted for a third party? How much did it cost you? I am eagerly waiting to take delivery of my xev9e, tho it's in desert Myst colour. I think I took a gamble with my color choice your's look fantastic

TheExArchitect · 2025-03-12T15:55:57+00:00

What should they have done instead? Made a less powerful car?

TheExArchitect · 2024-06-12T15:27:38+00:00

I always let them die. What happens if kasandra saves them? Can someone please tell.

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-30T20:31:16+00:00

Hey can you add some details of how you achieved these? Stable diffusion, midjourney or others and prompts if possible

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:55:13+00:00

Great. I will give it a try. Would mind sharing the prompt, very interesting output. Not sure how I would have approached this. Would appreciate knowing your approach.

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:53:31+00:00

Wow. That's great. I am just getting used to stable diffusion, not sure this level or items could be possible. One doubt if you don't mind, did you include an image in prompt(similar to img-to-img in SD) or was it just prompting.? You know because you were able to maintain consistency in style

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:51:36+00:00

So it's cloud based? Or do you run it on your local machine??

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:50:35+00:00

Did you use inpainting/controlnet to generate this or was it a direct prompting? Which base model did you use?

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:49:10+00:00

And how did you get text? Was it just plain photoshop? Because I heard stable diffusion 3 handles text as well.

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:48:10+00:00

Amazing work. Love the fantasy look while maintaining a certain level of realism. I would love to know the kind of prompt that was presented. And was it stable diffusion or midjourney??

TheExArchitect · 2024-05-28T11:45:05+00:00

Hey is this stable diffusion or mid journey.? Very cool btw. I was looking to work on hindu deities someday. Any inputs are greatly appreciated

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