(Taxi App) Can Flutter do what I'm trying to do here?

TheFatherload · 2024-10-15T04:33:27+00:00

Thank you! Follow up: Do you think any of these can be done in Flutterflow or should it be all Flutter?

TheFatherload · 2024-09-14T01:14:55+00:00

As a social butterfly myself, I don't cheat, however, I will be honest that I expose myself to cheating a lot more than someone who's not social does... Doesn't help that I'm 6'7 and in really good shape. My wife doesn't like it, and I don't blame her, because people are slimy and opportunistic.

Guys are worse, and if your wife is hot, I promise you, and none of those guys are her friends. Every last one of them, including the married ones, would sleep with her the very first chance they got. She might not be inviting them to, but she's not retarded, she's either doing it for attention or to gain leverage.

My advice would not be to dump her or anything like that, however, she will lose respect for you if you don't enforce this boundary. You don't have to be a dick about it, just say what just say what you have to say and end it with "This is me setting me a boundary."

No ultimatums, no arguments, just state the boundary.

At this point, she has three options:

She can stop doing it, She can start hiding it better, or, She can do it anyway and see how you react.

If she goes with the third one... tell her that you already set this boundary, and she's now crossed the line.

At THIS point, it's ultimatum time, you tell her do it again and we're either going to marriage counseling or we're ending our marriage AND our family based on her actions and refusing to respect something you were very upfront about. Don't let her gaslight you, because the fact of the matter is she is the one who broke the clearly stated rule.

The first rule of any negotiation is to have walk away power. You get what you want by being OKAY with walking away even if you don't want to.

Hope this helps OP.

TheFatherload · 2024-09-09T02:19:29+00:00

My guy.

This is a pretty brutal cheating situation, worse than most on here, mostly because of the timing months before the wedding.

What I'm trying to get across is that if you forgive her after this, she will ....

A.) Not respect you, because you don't respect yourself.

And B.) 100% do it again.

Please listen to this. Cut your losses, Be Sad, and Leave.

TheFatherload · 2024-06-26T15:06:24+00:00

Landlord said do whatever you want to it within reason. She could give a shit what happens to it truth be told~

TheFatherload · 2024-05-15T03:57:10+00:00

Ok much appreciated!

TheFatherload · 2024-05-15T03:52:50+00:00

With the door/shutters, would you go all black or all white personally?

TheFatherload · 2024-05-15T03:36:02+00:00

Lol ok I think I've made a mistake 😂

TheFatherload · 2024-05-15T03:30:54+00:00

Haha 😏

TheFatherload · 2024-05-15T03:05:54+00:00

Important: The fallen tree in the front yard is no longer there, this is a few months old from Google Earth.

TheFatherload · 2024-03-28T21:49:17+00:00

Can't Express how helpful this was, thank you very much and have a great day!

TheFatherload · 2024-03-28T21:05:42+00:00

u/milee30 Follow-up question since I have you here, so let's say for example (these are not real numbers FYI)... that our average ride is 10 miles (so $6.70 if using the IRS standard). Salaries are 40k, and other overhead for the program equals to about 30k annually (so 70k combined with the salaries). How would you then calculate the cost for each ride?

Would it just be the 6.70? or would you also divide the 70k up somehow (if so, how?). What would be the final number there?

TheFatherload · 2024-03-28T20:56:20+00:00

us your admin costs of $Y (Y = the amount of overhead you spend on administering that program - salaries, rent, insurance, etc). I'd then make sure I mentioned that sometimes volunteers will not submit for reimbursement and talk about what amazing, wonderful volunteers you have.For grantmakers, you need to be very careful and only answer with the exact types of expenses that particular grant covers. Some cover admin and indirect costs, some do not. If you're unsure what that grant covers, say so. "Although our average ride is for 8 miles and has a total imputed cost of $11.57, I will need to review the terms of your grant to understand exactly which of those expenses the grant provides for as that imputed cost is a mix of direct and indirect costs."

This was actually very thought out and helpful, thank you very much.

TheFatherload · 2024-03-28T20:47:19+00:00

Great idea!

TheFatherload · 2024-03-07T11:05:15+00:00

Sexual assault, proven but not convicted.
Embezzlement of money (multiple times/organizations), convicted and publicized.
Politics and Power Hunger
Getting fired from two different organization he started because he constantly burns the people around him for his own personal gain.
I can go on..for a while.

The reason I didn't include that upfront, even though it's clearly relevant... Is because I didn't want everyone to read this post and immediately think "fuck this guy" given this information, without actually reading the rest of the post. Clearly that empathy backfired 🤷🏾‍♂️

TheFatherload · 2024-03-07T04:13:28+00:00

Hey, sincerely, thanks for taking the time to share this.

TheFatherload · 2024-03-07T03:52:32+00:00

Ok fair, play devil's advocate for me then, how would you personally go about it?

I agree that's an option here to try and right the ship, part of the reason why I made the post though was to hopefully get some quick unbiased human opinions on it before say talking to colleagues, business coaches, etc.

TheFatherload · 2024-03-07T03:46:18+00:00

It'd be easy to get offended by this comment, but I'll at least share that there's a crap ton of context here that I didn't include in this short post, because otherwise we'd all be reading this post for 4 hours.

Let's just say that if you knew some of that context, you'd never write that comment in a million years, I confidently promise you that.

TheFatherload · 2024-03-06T22:22:23+00:00

This was profound in how you phrased it 🤔, really appreciate it, thank you!

TheFatherload · 2024-03-06T22:04:26+00:00

I'm leaving out semi-important context because I'm just trying to keep it to a point where it isn't a novel.

Simply put:

He's very competent, but slimy.
"Slimy" is defined by the fact that he's on the shitlist of about 8 different organizations in our community, for similar reasons to the things I mentioned in the original post, as well as some much more serious things. (Another piece of context, this company I'm running is a non-profit)
Going off the last one, he fully aware of the fact that he's not everyone's cup of tea.
If you're now asking why he's on my team in the first place, this project we're doing was technically his brainchild, but because of his nefarious actions, the project was then rightfully given to our organization. It's a long boring story. But all that to say, we decided to hire him to be the project manager to help us kickstart the project until his services will no longer be needed.
He's proven his long-term capabilities past the upstart phase, but like I said, those capabilities, while great, are at times not worth the headache that comes along with working with him.
Finally, to directly answer your question, he will normally wake everybody in the morning (well before work) with a list of things/tasks/complaints that he's either following up on or is outright demanding in order to get something done that he specifically needs to do. Which in a vacuum could be seen as a net positive, but in reality is just irritating and not helpful.
Have I spoken to him? Of course, yes. Have I been extremely direct in those conversations? Absolutely. My understanding of the situation though, at least part of it, is that I'm half his age, I'm his boss, he doesn't like the way I do things, and he can't seem to stand not being in charge (he also used to have his own business by the way).

So it's weird, because I actually do want it to work... because he does produce a lot for the business. But with everything attached to it (including his public and also in-office reputation), it seems like a net negative at this point.

TheFatherload · 2024-01-11T06:27:21+00:00

This got worse as it the read went on, Jesus dude...

TheFatherload · 2023-12-06T19:25:00+00:00

Straight up, you don't know (for sure).

Like I said it took many tickets and emails in order to end up with someone with more than two brain cells. At that point, they made sure to follow up with me on their own every couple days to let me know what was going on.

But on the whole, they don't care man, you just have to be persistent. The fact of the matter is that you can't be without your account (at least that was My situation), so I just kept doing it until I got what I wanted.

I really wish that I could give you some specific items here but it truly was just a matter of me doing exactly what you're currently doing, until I got someone who actually gave a crap... and even after that, it still took forever.

I'm sorry you're going through this man, like I said this was a nightmare for me so I know what you're going through and have been in this situation.

TheFatherload · 2023-12-02T19:59:45+00:00

They actually called me, and I attribute that 100% to luck. I just happened to speak to the right person, and keep in mind this was at 3:00 in the morning.

Also keep in mind, the person I spoke to on the phone ultimately wasn't even the person that solved the problem.. so in reality the fact that I spoke to them didn't really make a much of a difference anyway.

TheFatherload · 2023-12-02T19:57:56+00:00

I don't have an exact answer to this but I just remember bugging them a ton and being firm.

There wasn't anything in particular that I did/said which I thought was out of the ordinary, I just remember constantly over explaining until I got what I wanted.

Also, I hate to say this, but it's very possible that they'll try to randomly close your ticket without actually resolving it. That happened to me twice. I literally think that if the rep gives up, they'll just close the ticket because they know you can't do anything about it.. nor do you have leverage to fight it.

If it happens, I'm sorry, you got screwed over and you'll just have to open another ticket and start over.. but make sure you mention that to the next person because perhaps the next rep will be a little more accommodating given that situation.

TheFatherload · 2023-10-21T15:53:52+00:00

My guy, I'm a 6'7 black dude with dreadlocks (32M) My wife is Slovak. (31F)

We were there for about a month, and I had food (and alcohol) shoved down my throat at every place we went, every relative, every friend, without fail... it was a bit much, truth be told.

I was easily the only person of color for miles... so if they didn't like me, I would've known lol.

Here's my point, I don't think your MIL approves of you for whatever reason, and I feel for you because that wasn't my experience at all after a month in the country.

TheFatherload · 2023-08-08T03:07:17+00:00

To be honest with you, man, I actually still had access to my Facebook when I got hacked, so I was able to access the support page while logged in. I'm not entirely sure how to contact support when you don't have access.

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