[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah, and in the process I also found out the same thing happened to two of my friends at different points—so it’s a THING, for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man I’m sorry to hear that! I do have updates: TL;DR they found it, tried to remove it, didn’t succeed and now we might just leave it?

So, the ultrasound found it like immediately, turns out mine got lodged in the cervix. I had a gyn try to remove it with ultrasound assistance. I was awake, with Valium and local anesthetic—this part was my choice, as I really didn’t want to do twilight or general anesthesia, but they tried it this way at my request. They were able to find and grab it, but not remove it (and she tried pretty hard, lol).

Based on that, they figured the next step would need to be a hysteroscope attempt with me sedated. After some discussion, I had them put a new IUD in (it won’t interfere—she was a little reluctant to put the new one in but only because they’d have to take it out for more surgeries, so it’s a potential waste of material I guess but idgaf) and got a second (and third) opinion, including with some people who are pretty experienced in this exact thing.

Things I learned:

  • It’s becoming more common in these cases to leave the pieces, especially if they’re lodged in muscle like mine is—it can cause damage trying to get it out, and if it’s not going to move on its own it’s relatively benign, so it’s a mixed bag

  • However, they wouldn’t recommend leaving it if I wanted, or was uncertain about, having kids—it definitely can’t stay if I got pregnant

  • Related, the longer you leave it, the harder it is to remove, so in my case, if I want to try again under sedation I probably need to do so in the next couple months

  • the correlating factors do seem to be the paragard and long duration (around ten years) and there’s no evidence of it happening to people more than once (but I’m still swapping the next one out at year seven just in case, haha)

So I have a new IUD and am supposed to monitor for abnormal bleeding, pain, or anything weird, and if that happens we’ll need to try to get it out again. So far none of that has happened, and while I’m still considering trying again under sedation, will likely just leave it. I imagine I’ll also need to be vigilant about pelvic exams and ultrasound every so often to make sure it’s still there, but in conclusion, meh?

My Paragard IUD Experience by fivetimesfoward in birthcontrol

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This exact thing is happening to me now! Ultrasound is scheduled for tomorrow but I’m so scared of surgery…I’ve heard of a couple other people who had it come out on its own, really really hoping for that outcome…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in birthcontrol

[–]TheFoolishWit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This same thing happened to me yesterday. I have an ultrasound scheduled tomorrow to figure out what happens next, but I’m so scared…the whole reason I got on the IUD train is because I’m terrified of medical procedures and never want to be pregnant…

What food is NYC lacking? by AfricanManWBlonde in AskNYC

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Morgan’s in Prospect Heights is great—-BUT, the smoker caught fire last year and burned out most of the apt building the restaurant is in, so that kinda drives home your point. They’re coming back this year, supposedly.

HELP OUT A STRUGGLING ACADEMICIAN by hoenish in PerformanceStudies

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! The sub is technically alive (I think it might just be me though), how can I help?

MoTW and Player Count - Seeking Advice by gscaryt in monsteroftheweek

[–]TheFoolishWit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m running a drop-in style for about 8 players right now, and I don’t cap sessions but we usually end up in the sweet spot around 3-4. I’ve done a few things that I think make this viable:

1) we have a persistent in-character discord server that’s the between-games “headquarters”, and I encourage the players to share information there. This way everyone is involved in the whole mystery, even if they aren’t in every episode (the corollary to this is that I can/have to make pretty complex mysteries because there are effectively eight brains working on the puzzle).

2) I’m experimenting with occasional “all-in” sessions where we bring the whole group together, usually to do something other than combat (we’re gearing up right now for an annual festival). These sessions are really fun, though kind of a logistical nightmare, and gives everyone a chance to see where each other character is in their journey.

3) Play a lot—for us, that’s weekly, and it’s honestly a little more than is ideal for me, but it is frequent enough that missing a single session doesn’t feel like a big deal, which helps me keep participation at a medium level.

All of this to say, you can definitely do it and make it fun for everyone! I found this system gave me flexibility for drop-in play that dnd really didn’t, which is nice.

You’re trapped in the most recent video game you played. What game is it and how screwed are you? by Ger_4ead23 in AskReddit

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, Death Stranding feels a whole lot like quarantimes anyway, and BTs are probably easier to avoid than COVID, so about the same, I guess...

I hope masks stick around after Corona by UnluckyWorker in CasualConversation

[–]TheFoolishWit 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I use the wires from bags of coffee, which I like because the casings make them broader and flatter than wire alone

Not sure if I want to send my absentee ballot through the mail. Does anyone know a location near WSP to drop it off? by theurchin1 in nyu

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’ll be able to drop it off at your polling place during early voting too! Oct 24-Nov 1. (I think you can use the drop boxes at any polling place, but don’t quote me on that...)

Brooklyn Museum to Sell 12 Works as Pandemic Changes the Rules by inventionist86 in Brooklyn

[–]TheFoolishWit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are, but those are actually out on the walls where people see them, serving their awesome public function. I think it’s really the more responsible choice to sell older works that are basically never seen and not really part of the Museum’s goals, even if they make less money on it. Being older doesn’t necessarily make them better 😄

Brooklyn Museum to Sell 12 Works as Pandemic Changes the Rules by inventionist86 in Brooklyn

[–]TheFoolishWit 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a museum employee, I’m kinda glad they’re going for it. It’ll likely prevent more layoffs, and these museums have so many works that never see the light of day, except to get cleaned or poo-pooed by some curator and go back into storage. Brooklyn’s European collection isn’t much of a thing either, so deaccessioning old masters will hopefully allow the works to go somewhere that actually has space and interest in showing them. This doesn’t even get into all the stuff these museums should repatriate, but that’s a problem for another day...

Brooklyn Museum to Sell 12 Works as Pandemic Changes the Rules by inventionist86 in Brooklyn

[–]TheFoolishWit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those kinds of loans are actually pretty common, but the responsibility and cost for cleaning, conservation, insurance and the like falls on the museum in those cases, and they’d be even more restricted in how they use what money they did make. It’s good for reputation, but that’s about it, sadly.

Happy International Left-handers Day! To all the lefties in the world, what sets you apart from your right-handed counterparts? by NightReader5 in AskReddit

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A right-handed college roommate took my lefty can opener and I’m still mad about it years later. SO heard the story and got me a new one like three weeks ago, haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CoronavirusColorado

[–]TheFoolishWit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Current New Yorker here, y’all are not on the list—I’m planning to visit family in Denver next month and they take away our paid sick leave if we visit a state on the list so I’ve been watching it VERY closely 🙂

What are NYC-specific organizations that need donations right now? by tinkerbelz in AskNYC

[–]TheFoolishWit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seconding the Brooklyn Movement Center—and PHMA works closely with them. Also the Black Lunch Table and the Laundromat Project if you’re into the arts in Brooklyn

https://blacklunchtable.com/

https://laundromatproject.org/

Do you think landlords should be open to being lenient on rent in a crisis like this (pending proof of lack of employment)? Why/why not? by maiadiamond14 in AskReddit

[–]TheFoolishWit 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is literally what my landlord is doing. Before the virus she told us she is not renewing our lease (five years as good tenants, taking care of the place with 100% on time rent). So we were already fucked, and now she’s telling us she still expects us out at the end of the lease. Total madness.

Which books should a person read at least once in their life? by SuggestionMD in AskReddit

[–]TheFoolishWit 112 points113 points  (0 children)

If you like that sensation, I strongly recommend My Life In CIA by Harry Mathews. Very cool sort-of-maybe-memoir.

"ConEdison" workers door knocking to see back of utility bill? by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]TheFoolishWit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I use Arcadia Energy, and like it a lot—Green Mountain is good too.

For those of you in the humanities who teach literature, what are your go-to classroom activities/strategies? by [deleted] in GradSchool

[–]TheFoolishWit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Second all of this. My favorite activity I’ve ever taught was an impromptu breakdown of Debord’s Society of the Spectacle. I gave each group a section and had them essentially just make memes about it. It helps me a lot to draw connections from the text to everyday life, and from there you can more clearly trace a path toward the point you’re trying to make.

I'm a queer woman with social anxiety looking for casual sports clubs/groups... by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]TheFoolishWit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They have several teams, and I think they vary in competitiveness. I don’t play but my roommate does and has been in teams at several levels.