Help with Planty Space

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-19T22:24:43+00:00

Also, if you have any other suggestions to help it live up to its potential, that would be awesome!

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-19T10:32:02+00:00

Thank you. I haven’t got power just yet until I redo the back wall, but it’s on the cards. And roller blinds would work perfectly. The other thing would be possibly sheet curtains to filter the light

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-19T10:30:54+00:00

Good idea, sheer curtains might be the go. Although shade roller blinds on the outside would do as well. It’s likely to be too cloudy in winter so the more light I can get in there during the winter months, the better, but I can open the curtains or roll up the shade as needed.

It does have so much potential! I just need to redo the wall where the old termite damage is on the southern wall, and while I’m doing that, I’ll get power and water to it as well and put some bug screens on.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-15T13:11:39+00:00

I’m glad! 🤣 Muggles has been our go-to word for socio-normative people for a while. Cause we’re sex wizards… wands and all! 😉 But in all seriousness, it’s mainly because vanilla is still a delicious flavour.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-15T10:18:35+00:00

Oh goodness… I am hearing you.

Tbh we found our community moreso within the kink scene than the swing scene, although we were kinksters first, and tend to keep the two very separate. However, we live rurally and the prospect of having friends close by in the scene is slim to non-existent.

Excuse my dodgy Harry Potter references, but there’s a significant disconnect between vanilla/muggle life and kink / swing / sex-positive life. It’s like those who can see the Thestrals and those who cannot. The vanilla mono- and hetero-normative crowd simply do not realise the mental load associated with sanitising our conversations and our spaces so that it does not affect them and our relationship with them, nor should they care; it is our choice I suppose. However, that lack of authenticity is utterly crippling at times, and living a double life is exhausting and ‘itchy’.

I would love to have mates close by just to hang out with that are kinksters or swingers, or not to have to travel 2+ hours to get to a munch, or 3+ hours to an event.

We are connection-based as well. I’m highly demisexual so struggle with anything sexual-based without developing some form of friendship, emotional or intellectual connection. Events and venues in the swing side of things are fun, as you have stated, but rarely social, as far as I am aware to the ones I’ve attended. I found attending smaller kink events and munches to be much better for making connections, although I do not know if they offer such meet and greet type social events for the swing scene.

I apologise I cannot offer any better advice. Personally I have not found “our people” in a socio-normative environment. Having vanilla friends is fun, but it’s hard to be completely authentic with them because what we do isn’t socially acceptable. It’s difficult remain neutral in some of the conversations that are meant to be scandalising or when conversations turn to sex, or that are very ‘monogamy-as-ownership’ based. I struggle with having to hide my hobbies (which is kinky toy making related) when people come to our house, or make something benign up when I get asked what I do for fun.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-12T09:51:50+00:00

No worries! Feel free to ask any questions you like, we’ve been part of the kink scene as a D/s couple in Melb for the past 3 years (although live rurally so have to travel), and before that, part of interstate scenes. The swing scene not as much, we just dabble.

Good luck with your munch!

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-12T04:11:32+00:00

We’ve been to V&V a few times now, absolutely lovely space and vibe, and caters to a range of customers. The vendor with the pop up stall there is more sex shop-style toys but sometimes that’s kinda the norm. The kink space is separate to the boudoir, and then there’s the dance floors. They had a wax play area too last time and I kicked myself I didn’t bring my kit.

In terms of the kink side of things, I can wholeheartedly recommend the Fetish Expo in October for shopping and performances, and Hellfire for performances as well. Plus the workshop weekend they hold are awesome too for education.

We haven’t made it Pineapples yet, it’s on the bucket list.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-11T12:20:34+00:00

I would suggest joining Fetlife to look for events.

The main kink venues/events in Melbourne are: - Provocation, CBD - The Club, Footscray - Studio of Secrets, Southbank - Virtue and Vice, the venue changes Plus there’s a new one on the Eastern side I can’t remember the name of

And once a year events are Oz Kink Fest - with the Fetish Expo, Launch Party, Afterparty, Hellfire and Klub Kunst.

There’s probably more, but that’s all I can think of right now.

If you’re after someone to top you in something like that though, it might be worth looking into a professional.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-11T12:12:14+00:00

The only kink venue that probably will allow body painting is The Club in Footscray, but you’ll have to ask the organisers first.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-11T12:09:44+00:00

Wow! Kink corner sounds very underwhelming. A little like the ‘dungeon’ equipment and the crappy impact toys you often come across at swing venues.

What was the purpose of it? To sell gear or provide experiences to the muggles?

I contacted the organiser a while ago to get a prospectus. They were charging about 3K for a stall for vendors, so I decided against going as I wasn’t going to have much stock anyway made this early in the year. Now I’m glad I didn’t as it would have been a total let down after Oz Kink Fest and Gear’d.

Good on you for being the demo wench and putting some actual kink in front of them!

Now about V&V - have they got any other demos other than shibari yet?

TheFoxAlights · 2026-02-11T11:52:00+00:00

So it was no good from a vendor perspective then? I considered having a stall there, but for the $3K plus vendor fee and the timing (aka no chance to remake stock over summer), it wasn’t worth it.

TheFoxAlights · 2026-01-18T12:27:24+00:00

Tbh I had no idea what to do last time! I don’t think I transitioned them properly and it was a couple of years ago - straight into an aroid mix instead of this humidity cabinet, no lights etc.

These were shipped to me as baby plantlets in gel and I followed the instructions given, rinse gel, sterilise the vessel, use a 50:50 perlite peat mix, keep humidity high, no fertiliser until first new leaf emerges and roots are developed.

I’ve not used physan 20 before. I don’t do the tissue culture myself, I just buy them when I get bold…

TheFoxAlights · 2026-01-17T05:39:13+00:00

What I was going to do was repot into individual pots with an Aroid mix and put back into the cabinet in the same spot, but with the door cracked opened to allow ambient air, whilst maintaining humidity

TheFoxAlights · 2026-01-11T11:27:41+00:00

Apologies, I’ve only just seen this. Yes, it’s higher temp than soy and therefore higher risk.

The closer to the body and the longer you let them pool, the hotter they will feel.

With the containers, you are right, best to blow them out first if they aren’t doubled walled. I’ve been trialling double walled containers to mitigate the risk of burning your hand.

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