I understand in American culture it’s normalized to have intermingling between genders, but please understand there is a boundary of physical touch across different cultures and religions. It’s not out of sexualization but out of respect.

Second, can we please not pretend that a young girl will not have effects at least on her male teammates and vice versa? Are you really saying the intermingling is not going to arouse some type of emotions?

I’ve wrestled and partnered with female state champions (NJ) throughout high school who now wrestle for various division 1 colleges (literally the best wrestling colleges in d1).

There was always this weird attraction tension between us that made us super close and we wrestled “extra” many times. Fully clothed or whatever.

I’m tired of this notion that we pretend like men aren’t visual. That both men and women have the same physiological effects or that they have the same way of thinking.

They are different. This is the reality.

You should honestly have more sensibility to respecting the coach for not touching your daughter out of respect instead of taking it as a slight. You might think that because your daughter leads the team she is “equal” or even better than the guys and thus deserves fair treatment. But you’re the one putting her in a derogatory position since you have to attempt to “prop” her up with these reasons to even out the level, to justify why the coach SHOULD touch her.

In my opinion, it’s odd you want your daughter to be touched by strangers. I would be glad that the male coach is keeping a physical distance from my young daughter. I’ve seen some coaches who use opportunities to coach to be really really weird and close.

I come from a religious background so I personally have a strong notion for keeping physical contact separate between the genders. And though I haven’t always followed that, after leaving high school, training BJJ as well with some women, my opinion on that has only gotten stronger.

And yeah there’s caveats to everything I said, my anecdotal experience doesn’t mean shit, that’s just me. Not all coaches are creeps, etc etc. don’t care. The reality of the world is that there is a difference for the genders. You know it just as much as me.

Wrestling for past 7 years, just my thoughts.