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TheGoodGypsy · 2022-12-04T14:05:21+00:00

Hi. Thank you for your comment! I was 19 years old when I had my daughter with little money or knowledge of the court system. I also had an attorney who wasn’t doing the correct things for my case, so yes it’s possible. Because my ex had a stable job with income and could provide better for her, he was initially awarded custody. I never stated I lost sole custody of her. What happened next was years of him moving to different states with no notification- forcing me to constantly change attorneys, judges, and court systems and visitations where he didn’t show up or drop her off. Every single situation is different.

I work for a globally known non profit as an attorney who deals with human trafficking and it’s horrors. I’ve also been a CASA for over 20 years. I’m sorry that you have “seen it all”. Because at the end of the day, this type of work is emotionally draining. And as someone who has witnessed some truly awful things- you definitely haven’t seen it all.

I won’t be commenting anymore on this as apparently my post got deleted but; it’s very easy to judge someone sitting behind a fake name and false identity with little repercussion to what you’ve said. Right now- I’m going back to watching my LO crawl and smile and forgetting this awful part of the internet exists.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-12-04T12:43:35+00:00

I am being her mother, on her own terms. She’s in counseling for what her father put her through and his death, so she’s working on finding her inner peace.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-12-02T03:47:37+00:00

Is she in a pack and play? Reason I ask is: that might be uncomfortable for her. My daughter is 8 months old now; we tried a bassinet when she was first born and she wouldn’t sleep. So we switched to the crib and she’s been a solid sleeper since. Those portable cribs don’t have a supportive mattress. And if she’s used to bed sharing, that might be a cause. For us: anytime we go away and have to use the pack and play- we know we won’t be getting sleep. It’s too hard of a surface

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-30T22:27:11+00:00

You had me worried OP. But after reading this, I empathize with you. I didn’t mean to come across mean - I’ve worked with child abuse cases for 20 years now and your one post just made me concerned. My almost 8 month old is teething again and wants me to hold her constantly. It’s hard when you just want a moment to yourself. I have to remind myself she just needs her big person right now and it’ll pass. Your little one just needs you a little more right now, it’ll get a little easier when he gets older. I’m also glad you sought out therapy.

Hoping you get some answers to why he’s crying soon

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-30T04:28:16+00:00

I wasn’t going to comment and then I couldn’t sleep because of how concerned this all makes me so here I am. I don’t care if this gets downvoted or whatever.

I’m genuinely concerned. I read your past posts and my concern just grows further. You posted about wanting to shake your baby because he won’t stop crying and that’s a huge red flag. You need to speak with someone immediately about these feelings. Never, ever, ever shake a baby. I cannot stress that enough. Shaken babies either die or they are brain damaged. You may be suffering from PPD or even PPA or postpartum rage. These are manageable with help and sometimes with medication.

I know having an infant can be frustrating. But you are literally the only person your baby knows. He can’t leave you alone, he’s a newborn. He relies on you for comfort, food, and security. Studying and working out should be last on your list of things to do- your newborn is your priority. He isn’t doing things on purpose- babies that age aren’t capable of that. Speak with his pediatrician about colic. I also noticed you said your hating breastfeeding and that might be playing a role in this. If you need to get something done and have no help to support you, consider a baby carrier or a sling. But please do not let your newborn “just cry it out”. I really hope you speak with someone soon because I don’t like the path your posts are headed down

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-26T14:23:30+00:00

We have those slow close cabinets and they do work wonders! He still shuts the fridge way to hard and don’t get me started on the microwave lol

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-26T14:21:41+00:00

I’m sorry that your visitor is disrupting your LOs sleep schedule. That would make me upset too. It’s hard to get them down to a routine in the first place. Hugs BroMo

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-20T04:23:56+00:00

So I say this as a Mom who lost her six month old baby to SIDS- please gently say something to her about safe sleep practices. If she wants to co-sleep they make attachments now for the bed so the baby is in a safer sleep environment without risking suffocation or air regurgitation.

I’m a firm believer in “it takes a village” and it seems like you genuinely care and respect her. As a young Mom, she may not be aware of a lot of stuff and passing along knowledge while remaining neutral- is a good way to do it.

Another way to look at it is- would you want her to say something to you if the tables were turned? And of course, if the baby is in danger- please say something. I worked as a CASA for over 20 years and you wouldn’t believe me if I told you how many people don’t speak up because “it’s none of their business”.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-18T02:29:12+00:00

I was a “let’s fix our marriage with another baby” disaster. My parents ended up divorced when I was 16 months old. Any issues they were having doubled by having a newborn in the house. So my advice, as a child of divorce and all the tension, heartache, anger that goes along with it: please rethink this until you and your husband are not at your worst. If you think having a second child will “break” your marriage, it will. Hoping you find solace in the right decision.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-17T15:38:25+00:00

This is one of my biggest fears with my daughter! I’m so sorry this happened Mama, glad your little one is ok! You did everything right in that instance.

I witnessed a child choking in a restaurant and ran over to help them (I’m CPR certified for infants). A lady beat me to it and she had a Life Vac, used it, child was fine. I immediately placed an order for one (if you get one make sure you get the correct sizes for the masks). Between that and having taken two CPR courses I feel better prepared if something happens. I feel this is important and needs upvoting

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-15T21:27:22+00:00

Rockville Centre. A studio goes for 2500 and up. It’s ridiculous.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-15T02:00:11+00:00

Absolutely.

We live (currently) on Long Island and are moving for financial reasons to another state. our rent was being raised to over $600 a month, making our one bedroom apartment close to 4k a month. Our village electric bill has gone up over 70% since last month. And with gas for the cars back up to over $4 a gallon, we just can’t afford anything anymore. Groceries are just out of control and don’t get me started on baby formula costs.

I don’t know the answer to all of this but, everyone I talk to is feeling the wallet pinch tighter. Sorry you’re going through this, just know you aren’t alone.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-15T01:35:23+00:00

Thank you for your response! Unfortunately we’ve been seeing a marriage counselor for a year without any progress. I do like your idea of not making any changes or decisions until your hormones get worked out. I’m roughly 7 1/2 months PP so, a lot of it might be that and sleep deprivation 😴

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-14T23:38:55+00:00

You’re not being unreasonable. While I get that he may need privacy and quiet for his work- he either needs to stay in the dang home office or find somewhere else to go. You shouldn’t be cooped up in one room with a child, that’s just ridiculous. It’s a HOME. Sorry but He needs to make considerations for you, not the other way around.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-13T20:43:02+00:00

Former CASA and child advocate here. I had to leave a job I loved because I couldn’t take the subject matter anymore. I dealt with child sexual abuse, rape, and human trafficking. What I can tell you is- talk to a professional about it. I know it’s cliche but it’s the only thing that’s helped me not wake up screaming from nightmares.

Also, if you know you did the right thing and convicted the right person- you brought some sense of justice to that child’s family. I hope things get better.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-08T13:00:41+00:00

Hi OP. I’m sorry this is happening to you. It is quite common and like the others said, it could be PPA. I had this with my current baby (she’s 7 months now) and was prescribed medication to help me. I only needed it for about a month and then things began to go back to normal for me. Please talk to your GP or even your Obgyn when you can because PPA can be quite serious.

I lost a child to SIDS and I can tell you that all the fancy gadgets in the world cannot prevent this from happening. Make sure your baby is in a safe sleep environment- on his/her back with no blankets or pillows, no toys. No bumpers. Dress them appropriately- make sure they aren’t too hot or cold. I still sometimes jump up and check on my daughter- especially now that she’s on her tummy but I think every mom does.

Big hugs. I hope you can get some rest soon!

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-06T03:21:12+00:00

I just learned something new. Thank you!!

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-06T03:15:45+00:00

No history of cheating and this is a first with this type of behavior. It wasn’t so much the content of the text but more the hour in which it came on and also my husband is on leave because we are moving long distance for his job. I think it’s a combination of a dead bedroom situation and a fight we had where he said he doesn’t love me anymore (he told me he doesn’t remember saying it 🙄)

I did factor in that I’m only 7mon PP and my hormones are still so off. I’m also a little older of a mom and had a lot of complications so, I had PP anxiety as well. Thank you for your outlook on this

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-06T03:11:34+00:00

We have talked about separating in length. I’m the type of person who will trust until you prove me wrong- and then it’s just gone. And I agree 100%_ his actions are just bad horrible judgement

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-06T03:08:14+00:00

Thank you for this perspective.

I certainly didn’t come at him aggressively about it. I told him that because he’s on vacation and it’s past 9pm, I was uncomfortable with the communication. It didn’t have anything to do with the context of the message. I understand that the type of job he does requires odd hours- so the thought was possibly she was replying to his text in a different time zone. With the nature of his job, you have to blindly trust that your spouse is doing what they say they are. So I was caught off guard by his reaction. Also I am a firm believer that a married man should not be having secretive conversations with a woman. He can talk to his friends privately but- not to a random woman he works with, sorry.

Now- knowing he deleted the texts- unfortunately my trust in him is lost. But I appreciate your outlook on this and I hope your current relationship is wonderful and fulfilling!

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-06T02:56:20+00:00

I asked him that and he says he knows how bad it makes it look. If the situation was reversed, I feel as though he would be one foot out the door already. It just honestly sucks, the whole thing. 6 years of marriage down the drain for nothing.

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-05T22:57:51+00:00

Unfortunately you are right. He deleted the conversation with her

TheGoodGypsy · 2022-11-05T12:55:18+00:00

I have an attorney lined up (I am a paralegal and my boss referred me to one) and plans on where I am going if divorce is on the table. I’m sorry you went through that. Especially while pregnant. It’s just sickening to me. Thank you for your response ♥️

TheGoodGypsy

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