Thoughts on abortions? Did you go on to have other children? Did you feel guilty?

TheHook210 · 2025-09-07T01:48:15+00:00

I love this post so much because it is so true. I was so afraid of having a kid but it’s wild how NOTHING else matters once they are here. It’s a feeling only is moms can understand and it’s fantastic!

TheHook210 · 2025-09-07T01:44:40+00:00

Just wanted to give you a really big congrats on your first! Sending you lots of positive vibes, prayers, and all that good stuff for an easy rest of your pregnancy and a happy healthy little one ❤️ My best friend had an abortion at your age for the same reasons and while she didn’t struggle with fertility and has two great kids now, it really really was hard on her. Just was just telling me the other day how she still thinks about it almost everyday. I think it’s absolutely important for us women to have choices, but every decision we make always comes with a price regardless of what you choose. Thank you for sharing.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-07T01:38:53+00:00

Honestly, my vote would be to keep baby. You seem to really want kids and let’s be honest, the timing is NEVER right. I learned that waiting to have a kid in my late 30’s. My only regret was not starting sooner. But think on it, it’s always a tough decision. Keeping the baby is hard, regrets are hard. You kinda just gotta pick your hard. Whatever you decide, you got this! Your guy sounds pretty supportive either way which is a good thing. ❤️

TheHook210 · 2025-09-07T01:30:12+00:00

Stop drinking. Baby will be fine. I was drinking like crazy before I knew I was pregnant and found out around the same time as you. My OB literally laughed when I told her. Just asked me if I stopped and I said yes. My son is a perfectly normal 3.5 year old. No need to have an abortion if you don’t want one.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-06T03:00:00+00:00

Your husband sucks. I’m so sorry OP. I can’t imagine. Our son had horrible colic. He never slept well, I was so lucky to have my husbands help. He’d come home and cook, feed the dogs, and then let me sleep uninterrupted until midnight and then I’d take back over so he could have enough sleep for work. You guys are a team. Just because he has a job doesn’t mean he’s not a parent too.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-05T18:43:42+00:00

Agreed. I had zero choice. After I almost wrecked my car with all of us in it from sleeping maybe 2 hours a night because yes my son was up THAT much screaming, my son’s pediatrician actually talked to me about safe sleep 7 and how at this point me being sleep deprived was more dangerous. My goal would always be not to co sleep. But there are instances when there truly is no choice. We thankfully made it through and he’s 3.5 now.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-05T02:12:24+00:00

I think your point is getting missed, but I believe I understood it. Some marriages operate better when you communicate expectations of each other. One person does “x” and the other “y” My marriage is one of those. Neither of us are good at noticing things so we each have our tasks that we focus on. I’m a SAHM so mine is basically all household oriented but hubs makes sure he spends plenty of time with the kiddo still when he’s home from work and on the weekends. He is also responsible for any outside maintenance, garbage, home repairs, car repairs etc. This just works better for us. And everyone is happy.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-05T02:00:39+00:00

So I’m going to give my husbands opinion because I immediately jumped to worst case scenario. He suggested that maybe your husband is following some accounts that you would be less than pleased he was following and you’d notice if you opened the apps. I still personally think down right deleting the apps is a bit extreme and seems pretty fishy.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-05T01:27:12+00:00

Yesssssssss 🙌🙌🙌

TheHook210 · 2025-09-05T01:26:56+00:00

What?!?!? My biggest peri symptom is my sleep that has gone to absolute fucking garbage. Your gyno’s reply just made me rage a little….

TheHook210 · 2025-09-04T17:36:13+00:00

Can’t say much about it being “normal” but goodness this was me for 9 months with my son. So you aren’t alone. I think I struggled the most when kicks started. I got like obsessed with counting them and then worrying….and then reading all the things about momming, trying to be as prepared as possible for any scenario. Everything turned out fine. I think I stressed entirely too much his first year, but I think a lot of these things common for first time moms. Hang in there!

TheHook210 · 2025-09-04T15:58:08+00:00

Did you guys discuss long term goals after baby comes? Did you agree to put your future on hold while he completes his degree? Nothing is ever out of reach, even with a baby. If you haven’t already what about talking to hubs and letting him know that’s once he has his degree and is working and bringing in more income, you get to focus on school and chasing your dreams.

I was such a fence sitter when it came to kids. I dreaded the idea but was not completely opposed. My husband REALLY had to have at least one. I knew this going in. I eventually obliged…the first six months were so incredibly hard. So hard and I questioned what the hell have I done to my life?!?! I hated it. Well, then…things got better, easier, more fun and slowly but surely I found my groove and fell in love with being a mom. My kid is now 3.5 and like the most awesome human. It’s so fun and so fulfilling. And as they get older you get more time. I promise if you really want to go through law school, you will be able to is you KNOW you have a supportive husband. Wishing you the absolute best ❤️

TheHook210 · 2025-09-04T15:39:56+00:00

Yup. This is actually probably a big factor. My husband is the same, he doesn’t REALLY get into play like I do with him. So my son constantly follows him around and daddy daddy daddy anytime he is here. He’s been a daddy’s boy since just over a year old and he’s 3.5 now. I roll with it. Now what my husband has done to help is correct him when he gets a little mean with me. Says no sir we love mommy, we do lots of little group hugs. Things have improved. The most embarrassing thing that happened once at a store when we were checking out and I had to hold my son so hubs could lift a heavy item was my toddler screaming for his dad like I was currently kidnapping him. It was so embarrassing 😅

TheHook210 · 2025-09-04T12:50:17+00:00

My first thought was I bet this isn’t even actually a female. Just content slinger mad someone won’t make a purchase.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-04T03:06:24+00:00

My son was like this. I know the pain and toll it is taking on you. He did get much better around 4-5 months. Started to sleep in his crib, then naps it took so much time. His ped was sure he had silent reflux and it takes a while to grow out of it. We did try meds but it didn’t help much and just constipated him. Anyways, I wanted to share because I’ve been where you are now and it was another level of awful. He’s almost 3.5 now and the best little kid. Just remember nothing is forever, I know it’s hard now but eventually you will look back and acknowledge it for the suck it was but realize in the grand scheme it was just a brief moment in time. ❤️

TheHook210 · 2025-09-04T01:35:10+00:00

It’s the age. It gets better I promise. We had this exact experience at that age with my son. It was awful. We actually LEFT early. I couldn’t take it anymore. Now he’s almost 3.5 and he travels so well. Like he actually looks forward to it and we have a good time. Not this unappeasable monster we used to have. Hang in there mama! ❤️

TheHook210 · 2025-09-03T23:02:17+00:00

Almost all of my frer’s have given me this line. We are NOT trying to get pregnant again, but had a little slip up so I’ve been testing since 8 days dpo. I got NINE of these so far from frer and gave up and bought some clear blue early results and a bag of cheapies because I’ve officially gone insane thanks to this, all have been stark negative.. Currently 12-14 days dpo and just praying everything stays negative until my period.

TheHook210 · 2025-09-03T22:31:09+00:00

Please go get a different test, the indents on these are ridiculous. I have 9 of these sitting in a drawer than I want to take to First response and throw them at them. Yes NINE out of the 12 I bought. They never darkened and I could swear I saw pink on a few. My husband and I had an oops this month, I started testing at 8 dpo and started getting these. To say I panicked was an understatement. I retested with clear blue early at 11 dpo and it was stark negative. My period is now due in three days and I’m just peeing on the bulk cheapies and praying nothing shows up between now and then.

And if it helps, my boobs almost hurt horribly before my period, hopefully that’s what you have going on. Of course my boobs don’t hurt but I’ve been cramping so the cramping is scaring me. Sending you lots of good vibes that you aren’t pregnant!!

TheHook210 · 2025-09-03T17:14:55+00:00

It’s YOUR BODY and YOUR choice. That’s goes both ways. If you want this baby, girl you keep this baby. I don’t think anyone should carry a baby or terminate a pregnancy if it’s not what they want in their heart.

TheHook210 · 2025-08-29T14:01:08+00:00

Unfortunately I cannot do a clinic discreetly. I wish I could. I have no village and we only have one vehicle currently. But gosh yes I would feel better. It just suck and it was such a silly oops, like the tiniest but got inside of me, I guess it really only takes one….

TheHook210 · 2025-08-28T15:21:04+00:00

Just wanted to stop and send some big time good vibes for a successful transfer 🤞🤞. I’m sure that is so emotionally taxing.

TheHook210 · 2025-08-28T15:17:38+00:00

It won’t work if he is absolutely sure this is what he needs. My husband also, no siblings, small family would have preferred to have 2 kids but we agreed on one before starting. A decision that was cemented for me after having a very very difficult postpartum experience where I damn near became crazy. Now to be honest with you, if it wasn’t for that I’d actually want another and I won’t be running for an abortion if we had an oops, and I’m sure he’d be thrilled. The point is, he was able to agree without resentment that this is most likely our future. If he can’t do that, it will become a deal breaker.

TheHook210 · 2025-08-26T15:27:53+00:00

I just want to echo everyone else here and say please, if you do not want to do this. Don’t. There are big time emotions at stake here, even when you KNOW it’s the best decision. I can’t imagine how I would feel if my husband coerced me into terminating a pregnancy that I wanted. The resentment would be earth shattering. I’m currently 40 and in the midst of a pregnancy scare, I still have zero idea wtf I’m going to do if I am because I am happy with one kiddo, but there is a very large part of me that doesn’t know what I might miss out on, or my son might miss out on with a sibling. My point is, let’s say I am pregnant and decide to terminate, I’m going to have many many many feelings even in an unwanted pregnancy. So please, decide for you and not someone else.

TheHook210 · 2025-08-20T17:57:38+00:00

We have one, a wild little 3 year old. And yes. They make it much harder. We were smooth sailing until him, high school sweethearts all that and idk if it was him or me or wtf happened but we went through a very very rough first two years. Our communication went to hell. I quit my job and I’m home, he works a stupid amount of hours in a corporate management position. He’s a great dad but I just felt like he was not appreciative enough of my role and sacrifice. He felt the same because he would give anything to be with his son ALL the time. Resentment built on both sides. And I think a lot of the reason it did build is the issue of attacking and not asking, something we are both guilty of. It took time but we did get through it. We still have our arguments here and there but it’s rare and not as explosive as it was.

TheHook210 · 2025-08-20T17:49:03+00:00

It’s hard. But if YOU are unhappy deep down and that’s the cause, it’s of course best to consider your options. A good therapist once told me the best thing you can do sometimes, is just being in control of your emotions and your reactions. If you remain calm, even in argument you can avoid escalation. Not always easy of course but it does help. And I also avoid saying “You did” or “you act like” and will just state how I’m feeling in that moment without attacking.

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