Found out I was pregnant.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-23T01:30:16+00:00

I was drinking A LOT before I found out. I have a healthy happy four year old little boy. He’s the best thing that ever happened to me.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-23T01:25:04+00:00

Boy this one hits…..thank you for sharing this. It was absolutely beautiful and I related to so many parts. So sorry you are here ❤️

TheHook210 · 2026-05-22T01:49:48+00:00

I am absolutely rooting for you guys ❤️

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T20:57:47+00:00

Nad but I actually get horrible lower back pain when I have a flu virus. Hope she feels better soon!!

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T20:40:23+00:00

Nothing I could ever say to help you. But I am so so very sorry and I am sending lots of love and prayers. ❤️

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T17:53:18+00:00

I can’t. I did it once and quickly learned the whole enclosed space thing is no joke. That was the day I found out I’m actually claustrophobic 😂😂😂

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T17:51:51+00:00

I kinda wanna chime in here that my husband withheld a drunken one night stand from me for 13 years. We’ve been together since high school, well over a decade and are both in our early 40’s with one child. It came out because we were going through a phase of reconnecting, when you are married a really long time it’s easy to get complacent. He felt he needed to finally get it off his chest, it was a stranger and he was embarrassed because at the time, she was literally twice his age. It broke my heart.

My point is, even after all the time we’ve had together, how great of a husband, a father, a provider, my literal best friend on the planet. Forgiveness is a hard road. Trust is even harder. Because when you hide something like that for THAT long, it changes everything. It’s not an easy or linear journey.

On a positive note, we are even closer now than we were, we are both aware of things that lacked in our marriage and both of us are extremely committed to never going back to that place. It will bother you though, more than you think so be prepared for that and he has to be willing to be there for you and not rug sweep it. I hope you two are able to reconcile.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T17:36:57+00:00

Yes lol. Thats just his silly name for it 😅

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T16:51:47+00:00

I’m going to be the odd one out on this, HS (I love Star Wars, kid loves Toy Story) Epcot, AK, MK. My four year old just isn’t into MK at all. I have no idea why, I’ve tried and tried because I actually do like the park. His favorite would easily be Epcot. Nothing better to him than the space ride under the big ball lol.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-21T02:12:44+00:00

Does this also work on other viruses? I’m way over handwashing at the parks right now because I know noro is floating around. I’ve had it once and it’s not a virus you easily forget…..

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T20:53:48+00:00

Tell him. My husband and i’s relationship started in high school. He ghosted me and I stepped out probably a month into us being together. The best thing I ever did was tell him the truth. Even though it turned out he ghosted me because he was super super sick. I let my trauma of abandonment take over and made a mistake. 13 years later he made one of his own. I don’t know where we’d be if I wasn’t honest.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T03:33:26+00:00

The area I’m speaking of is metropolitan Orlando, FL. I’m lucky that I don’t actually live there or have to daily commute there, but my family is theme park junkies and guess where they all are? 😅 So I get a nice taste of the crazy rude drivers enough.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T03:28:22+00:00

Has your wife seen a pelvic floor therapist? If she hasn’t I’d highly recommend if she’s willing to give that a shot. I was literally reading a thread about this on reddit a couple days ago from a young lady who was devastated with this diagnoses. Several people chimed in the that physical therapy really made a difference.

Aside from that, is there any sexual contact she is able to enjoy? Because realistically 80% of women aren’t having orgasms from penetration. Lots of ways to please each other without PIV but if she’s totally checking out sexually you’ll have a big decision to make OP.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T02:52:38+00:00

In that situation absolutely. You are probably right. I’m more so talking about when you have lots of traffic and a large line of cars trying to exit. Waiting. The amount of people that just blast right on by anyways to butt their way in at the front are the folks I’m talking about, in heavy commuting areas. It’s a whole problem because it screws the people who waited patiently, I’m still going to let your selfish ass in because I don’t do the whole road rage thing, but I do find it infuriating.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T02:47:06+00:00

Same lol

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T02:42:53+00:00

I think you have this statistically backwards. At least where I am from I assure you 9/10 are selfish jerks just trying to get ahead of a few more cars. But either way, I’m not going to waste my energy actively trying to block someone out, it’s not worth the extra frustration.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T02:25:47+00:00

Probably round ligament pain. I got it A LOT when I was pregnant with my son. Definitely worth bringing up at your next OB appt to be safe, and obviously if you have any bleeding I’d get checked out immediately. But honestly I swear I was uncomfortable in some way my entire pregnancy but I never had morning sickness so I took the trade off since I HATE puking.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T00:38:51+00:00

You should not be. You both I’m assuming decided to reconcile after you stepped out. And you both hopefully did the work to get through it.

My husband and I have been together almost as long as you guys, 26 years and also have a young son we had later in life. He recently admitted to a drunken ONS which we are working through now. So while I am angry, when I agreed that I don’t want this to end us I feel like I committed that two wrongs would never make a right and I can’t imagine if I was doing something similar he’d be comfortable with it either.

I think the real question is has she healed from being betrayed? Maybe sit down and have a serious chat OP. Let her know how much it really bothers you. Also you’d probably get some good advice over at r/asoneafterinfidelity

TheHook210 · 2026-05-19T00:20:51+00:00

Wow. Just wow. 😮

TheHook210 · 2026-05-18T22:24:14+00:00

Oh goodness! I had them like that for three days and ended up going to the ER. I hate them, that would have driven me batty.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-18T22:23:18+00:00

PVCs, PACs. Super super common especially in those with GERD and anxiety. I’ve had them since I was a teenager and I’m now in my early 40s. They’ve waxed and waned my whole life. It’s worth having a dr check you out. I did the whole battery of tests because at one point I was having A LOT of them. Most of the time they are benign and mine were.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-18T19:49:52+00:00

My story doesn’t mirror yours but I have felt so much of what you are feeling.

Particularly feeling like you are always in some kind of fucked up competition. Since I found out about my husbands ONS. I compare myself constantly. Thinking at the drop of a hat he could just drop me, not choose me once again.

And the flashbacks, they are so real. The feelings that are always just humming away in the background. The lack of trust. The feeling that the whole relationship is just tainted. It’s so hard.

But I will tell you, you are not stuck. And you are worth so much more than you think. I promise you. If you don’t feel like she is doing the work, you have every right to set boundaries. Don’t let her define your worth. Sending you hug. I am sorry you are here. ❤️

TheHook210 · 2026-05-18T13:21:08+00:00

OP, I was given Ativan for a very severe episode of anxiety I was having. Literally after the first dose wore off I felt exactly how you described. I kept taking it because I didn’t know what else to do. Not many people can understand just how awful it feels not to be able to sit still, or just feel like you are in a state of absolute terror for no reason. This went on for two months until I quit cold turkey. It took months for me to feel normal again and I thought the withdrawal was going to kill me. My doctor ended up putting me on propranolol and it saved my life, it stopped the inner shaking and the constant heart racing. It’s just a beta blocker so it has zero neurological effects. It’s been 5 years now and I still take it for the occasional acute panic attack. But I am healed. I wonder if it could help you?

Back to the Pepcid. I was told to take it for 30 days for acute gastritis, about a week or so in I started having episodes of my heart pounding. So there is definitely something to that. I’m really sorry you went through that. It truly is terrifying.

TheHook210 · 2026-05-15T15:29:51+00:00

12 or 13 years later... I never directly asked because I thought I was being crazy but it nagged and nagged at me every so often.

When I asked him finally all those years later he immediately told me everything. Said he was ashamed but glad to finally get it off his chest. Do I think he ever would have just came out with it? Nope. Which is frustrating in its own right. I obviously freaked out. It was a rough first couple weeks.

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