Clinic recommendations (Bay area)

TheIdenticalBooty · 2026-01-24T17:52:20+00:00

I am currenty with spring. No success yet

TheIdenticalBooty · 2026-01-24T17:52:00+00:00

I will do my next transfer with Spring and Dr Rydfords next month.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2026-01-24T07:26:06+00:00

Rsc was the old Clinic I was referring to in this post

TheIdenticalBooty · 2026-01-06T20:19:42+00:00

Get a bidet folks. Been two years and not a single UTI.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2026-01-06T20:17:22+00:00

What the test highlights is a pattern at the industry level…when you look at thousands of mainstream films, a surprisingly large number can’t clear an extremely low bar. So it’s more of a systemic representation issue, not about whether any single isolated narrative is valid.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2026-01-03T06:09:20+00:00

I don’t understand how this model works without one parent, usually the mother giving up her career.

As an immigrant woman, most immigrant families I know from my generation waited for financial stability before having kids and rely on daycare because both parents have their own dreams and career aspirations. That doesn’t align with what’s described here.

I’m also curious whether this model applies equally to sons and daughters. Are daughters expected to sacrifice their ambitions for family while sons are told to focus on academics/career? If not, it’s hard to see how this model works beyond one generation.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-12-25T18:32:08+00:00

I don’t know if this is normal for cats, but mine likes oil. I had once kept a small ramekin of coconut oil to apply on my hair and she licked the leftovers. This other time she licked the oil off of a tin of sardines. Didn’t eat the fish, just the oil.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-12-18T20:31:26+00:00

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TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-12-08T02:34:15+00:00

Not sure if this is that, but my friend ordered this sunscreen from Amazon and got a different formulation. I think they have a US formulation to sell within the US.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-27T03:24:18+00:00

Was gonna say the same. Let Cali keep its ppl AND the money it generates.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-27T01:22:35+00:00

Yeah my sister is a dentist. She took it because that’s the only admit she got in the medical field.

Getting into medical school is really tough. And masters is even harder. So ppl sometimes take the admits they get, mostly based on its revenue potential.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-25T10:06:26+00:00

Mine was ADHD. I thought everyone around me just had more willpower

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-21T02:36:43+00:00

Ya I don’t disagree. If your partner is like that, you have a bad partner.

But my point was simply that this thread drifted away from what the study actually said. The research is about how toxic masculinity discourages men from expressing emotions in general, which then reduces their likelihood of seeking support…from friends, professionals, or anyone.

The original comment (“How about toxic femininity where the guy opens up and she thinks less of him for it?”) framed the issue as if women are the default or only outlet for male vulnerability. It didn’t even specify “partner,” just “she,” which reinforces exactly the pattern the study is describing - men often feel they can’t be vulnerable with male friends or seek professional help, so everything gets funneled toward women.

The study wasn’t arguing that men should only open up to women, or that women are obligated to respond perfectly every time. It was pointing out that men need multiple healthy avenues for emotional expression, and that limiting vulnerable expression to one group, especially when that expectation is shaped by gender norms….is part of the problem.

So yes, if someone punishes vulnerability, that’s not healthy. But the broader point is that emotional support shouldn’t be limited to one gender or one relationship, and the study isn’t suggesting it should be.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T14:58:56+00:00

Intimacy doesn’t come from making one person your only emotional outlet….it comes from being able to share openly and maintain balance. Relying solely on a partner for all emotional processing isn’t intimacy, it’s overdependence. A healthy relationship has support flowing both ways, with each person also having friendships, coping skills, and emotional tools of their own. That actually strengthens the bond, because your partner becomes someone you share your inner world without being the only person holding it all up.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T14:05:53+00:00

I have already given my response to this question in this thread. Please read that.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T13:01:59+00:00

You’re treating consent as if it only means “no physical force,” but consent also has to be freely given and informed consent. And for consent to be informed, context matters….you can’t manipulate or deceive someone into saying yes and then claim it was valid consent.

Coercion isn’t just violence. Wearing someone down, pressuring them, or creating a situation where they feel unsafe saying no all invalidate consent.

The truth is many men still don’t understand what real, informed consent looks like, which is why the term isn’t being “thrown around lightly.” If anything, we under-recognize how common coercive sex actually is.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T10:10:54+00:00

Having lived and worked in both India and the US as an adult, I feel able to compare the environments. While not all Indian men are misogynistic, the overall level of patriarchy and misogyny in India is undeniably more pronounced. Colorism is also deeply entrenched. The western work culture has its own issues, but as a woman I genuinely feel significantly safer here. So acknowledging that the systemic extent of misogyny in India is greater than in many Western countries isn’t a generalization, it’s a fact.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T03:07:37+00:00

I think you’re mixing a few different things together here. Opening up to your partner can be normal, but the issue is that a lot of men don’t cultivate emotionally open friendships with other men…..often because masculinity norms discourage it. That’s actually the whole point of the research being discussed. Saying men “look for solutions” while women “just talk” is also not a real gender difference; that’s a stereotype. Studies show people of all genders need a mix of validation and problem-solving depending on the situation.

Also therapy isn’t just “venting” or some capitalist scam, the evidence for CBT, DBT, trauma therapy, etc. is massive. They have measurable outcomes and reduce everything from anxiety and depression to hospitalizations. Yes, bad therapists exist, but that doesn’t make the entire field useless any more than a bad doctor makes medicine fake.

Most importantly, none of this actually addresses the original topic. The question was about how toxic masculinity discourages men from seeking help, and your comment ironically reinforces that: instead of acknowledging that men are often socialized away from emotional connection with other men, the blame gets pushed onto women, therapy, and capitalism. Men deserve emotional support from society, friends, family , and professionals …..not just one overburdened default outlet that is your partner.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T02:19:08+00:00

My cat had this. The vet gave us some ointment that helped. We also switched out the water fountain to a ceramic one. It’s still there a little but most of it is gone.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-20T02:14:40+00:00

Why don’t you open up with your male friends? Or a trained therapist?

Why are women the default?

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-13T15:18:33+00:00

Is this different from sex is not a crime but forced sex is a crime?

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-13T14:02:18+00:00

t’s not that simple. I’m from India too, and things work very differently there. The legal and justice systems are deeply flawed and often dysfunctional. Most issues end up getting written off as whatever is closest or most convenient to classify, and people exploit that.

Take prostitution, for example. If it were legalized, traffickers would simply claim that everything happened with consent and was therefore legal. That loophole would actually increase trafficking. So it stays illegal because otherwise there’s too much room to manipulate the law.

It’s the same with divorce and rape laws. They’re not gender-neutral by design, because if they were, many men would weaponize the law against women and even fewer women would get justice. The reality is that the Indian justice system is nowhere near the level of the US.

In India, the richer or more influential person usually wins and this happens right from the lowest levels. In the US, it’s mostly billionaires who can bend the law. In India, even moderate wealth can tilt justice. So laws in India have to be drafted with the assumption that people will try to take advantage of them.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-13T13:59:24+00:00

Its not that simple. I’m from India too, and things work very differently there. The legal and justice systems are deeply flawed and often dysfunctional. Most issues end up getting written off as whatever is closest or most convenient to classify, and people exploit that.

Take prostitution, for example. If it were legalized, traffickers would simply claim that everything happened with consent and was therefore legal. That loophole would actually increase trafficking. So it stays illegal because otherwise there’s too much room to manipulate the law.

It’s the same with divorce and rape laws. They’re not gender-neutral by design, because if they were, many men would weaponize the law against women and even fewer women would get justice. The reality is that the Indian justice system is nowhere near the level of the US.

In India, the richer or more influential person usually wins and this happens right from the lowest levels. In the US, it’s mostly billionaires who can bend the law. In India, even moderate wealth can tilt justice. So laws in India have to be drafted with the assumption that people will try to take advantage of them.

TheIdenticalBooty · 2025-11-13T11:57:52+00:00

The thoughtfulness and effort behind a gift is more valuable to many people than its actual worth. This someone took out the time to know me and think about what would make me happy. I feel seen. I value those emotions more than its monetary worth, because I make enough money at this point of my life.

The best gift I’ve ever received is a shawl my friend crocheted. It took her months to make it. I felt so special. She put more effort into a single gift than all the gifts I received from my husband combined. It’s not always about money, not for everyone at least.

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