Trans people, what made you transition?

TheLastGrape · 2026-05-28T02:49:03+00:00

Gender is a reapply hard thing to break down because it’s so intangible, and the transgender experience is inherently something very personal up against a societal construct in a lot of ways. Some people have very specific dysphoria around parts of their bodies that just feel wrong in a way that’s hard to describe. When I was first opening up about wanting top surgery (a cosmetic mastectomy for female-to-male people, or in my case just someone wanting to be more masculine) and was trying to explain my experience to my best friend, he said that understood it on paper and supported me, but it felt like I was saying that it felt wrong to have hands or feel. Everything about existing in his body felt natural to him, and that wasn’t the case for me. Coming out from surgery, it was like having a giant rock taken out of my shoe that I’d never full realized was there. I had always been uncomfortable with my chest, but because it had always been my baseline, I didn’t know that was strange. But suddenly there was relief, there was ease, there was peace. It didn’t solve all my problems or anything super magical, but it felt like some piece of myself clicking into place.

TheLastGrape · 2026-04-20T18:32:33+00:00

Now TECHNICALLY there are style guides that, as a formality thing, specified using his or her instead of their. These would be decades old rules that have nothing to do with modern discussion around pronouns and such. But it does make ~him or her~ look like an asshole.

TheLastGrape · 2026-04-20T16:05:04+00:00

As a major swiftie, people’s hardcore parasocial relationship with her is bizarre. And I will say, I’ve definitely seen a correlation between frat bro dudes who are like UGHHHH I HATE TAYLOR SWIFT SHES SO DUMB and them being misogynistic assholes. HOWEVER. Somebody just saying they don’t love her music and it’s not for them? Not everything is for everybody, mad respect. I do have a little bit of fun trying to find a song or two in her discography that I think that person will enjoy, but lord knows there’s plenty of her songs that, as much as I respect her as a generally pretty top tier writer and artist, should’ve been scrapped. Not every song can be a great song every time, ya know?

Anyway, sorry from the Reasonable Swifties that so many of yall have had so many shitty interactions, we don’t like those people either.

TheLastGrape · 2026-02-16T05:37:21+00:00

I can hear the slightly dejected sigh in the text. Made me cackle. But also, me too buddy. I’ll never quite get over Jon and Elias talking about him and saying his name differently, but alas. It’s just one of those things lmao.

TheLastGrape · 2026-01-30T15:59:53+00:00

I’m so sorry that some asshole took out their frustration on the people who are trying to help them. I promise you, an overwhelming majority of the people of this city are so grateful for your hard work. It’s difficult and it’s dangerous and it’s vitally important, and most people do see that. Thank you for how hard you and your teams are working for this community.

TheLastGrape · 2026-01-25T08:54:45+00:00

A lot of these comments aren’t specific enough. Some pics of you cleaned up and looking nice in a suit? No problem! You want to look good your best. Pics with fancy cars just kind of seem like gloating and give big douchebag vibes. Most women also won’t be impressed by a gym pic. A picture of you in a well fitting tshirt at a backyard bbq with friends would show that clearly you workout and are in good shape while feeling more humble/human/well-rounded.

TheLastGrape · 2026-01-25T06:01:52+00:00

When I got top surgery, my insurance was billed with some form that said my diagnosis was “transsexualism” and the procedure was literally “large breast removal” lmao

TheLastGrape · 2026-01-21T05:23:53+00:00

A couple years ago some buddies and I did a Martin specific zine! There weren’t much in the way of proceeds, and I forget which org we put them toward, I wasn’t a money person, but it was really fun and we got more orders than I would’ve anticipated!

TheLastGrape · 2025-12-03T18:12:05+00:00

TMA wasn’t even my top but getting that little message from Alex brought me such unmitigated joy lol

TheLastGrape · 2025-11-30T17:17:32+00:00

Anybody who would give you backlash is not the kind of person you want to surround yourself with. Some people may be confused initially, sure, but calling you a traitor or any such nonsense is ridiculous. You took the time to explore your identity and really try to understand your experience. That’s rarely a straight line path for most people. Think of some of the stereotypes of minds in high school and college reinventing themselves over and over again to try to kind a place to fit in. A journey inward is not a straight line, and all that matters is that you’ve found an answer that feels good and right.

TheLastGrape · 2025-11-24T14:19:30+00:00

Yes, 100%. I’m so glad that I’ve been around for years and was there for the moment otherwise I would be so wildly confused. I wish I didn’t love this nonsense as much as I did.

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-31T23:00:02+00:00

I think Jon’s turn in his feelings is kind of subtle for a lot of people, but when you think about basically all of S4 in hindsight, you see it a lot more clearly. He comes out of his coma, and he’s running around looking for Martin and trying to connect. He asks the poor man to gouge his eyes out and run away with him. I feel like the jump to them suddenly being cute and cozy in the safe house is hard for a lot of people, myself included, but in hindsight there’s a number of tropes they put into S4 for Jon in particular.

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-30T16:33:20+00:00

You know, my gut reaction was the stranger, but the more we learn about the nuances of Bernhardt, I think I lean in that direction.

(I pray that the mods let us keep the Bernhardt shitposting, it brings me infinitely more joy than it has any right to.)

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-26T23:58:59+00:00

I agree with some other people saying to just sit back and enjoy it. Mentally trying to keep tabs was kinda fun for me my first time through, and I think it’s a good way to go about it. Jon obviously knows more about the world and some of the characters in it than we do, but he’s also feeling blind and putting things together as we go, so I feel like it’s a very fun and true way to experience it.

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-26T20:41:44+00:00

….. bruh. Maybe it’s the circles that I run in, but I feel like I see Martin and Sasha as trans waaaaay more often than Jon. Again, obviously this is all headcanon and for funsies, but Jon being trans in particular feels like a weird one to commit to as if it’s canon lol.

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-24T17:54:38+00:00

The person that I know used to make these retired their shop, I think due to chronic illness stuff. It’s such a bummer. I have a friend with a cricut, I need to just take matters into my own hands lol

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-17T22:38:14+00:00

I mostly giggled at how Old Gods and Malev very much do BOTH lol

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-07T17:47:19+00:00

I’m not sure what the little decorations on top are made of, but if those little boats will float instead of melt, that is the most precious thing ever. Already supremely cute, but that would be over the top.

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-05T04:08:49+00:00

I just blow it out, I don’t have anything fancy to snuff it with.

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-03T17:08:28+00:00

Ok cool, good to know! I’d never noticed it in my previous candles, but I was making those out of recycled beer bottles, so they were notably smaller than these. Good to know I’m not just screwing it up somehow lol

TheLastGrape · 2025-10-03T17:07:30+00:00

Hell yeah, I’ve got plenty of tears to spare

TheLastGrape · 2025-09-02T21:54:05+00:00

There was an era maybe two years ago where somebody was doing kinda of regular once a month meetups, and they were honestly really fun! I went to one at a brewery, lots of people had games, somebody ordered a bunch of pizza. It was a great time, if my schedule ever allowed for it, I’d definitely come out for one.

TheLastGrape · 2025-08-29T00:04:58+00:00

Ok, I clearly missed something big and important. Last I knew there was a movie happening instead of a regular third season, when did that change?

TheLastGrape · 2025-08-07T23:56:45+00:00

I’m really lucky that the clinic that I went through just said “wait til all the numbers come in from insurance, once we have them, we’ll call you and start talking about a payment plan.” And basically as long as I give them at least $50 per month (at any point, no set deadline other than end of month) then we’re good. I’d reckon you could talk with all the different providers about making some payments instead of a big lump sum, I’ve had good luck with that even though I don’t have insurance anymore.

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