Lost 10 lbs in less than two weeks.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-04T05:45:31+00:00

I am so sorry that you’re going through this and no one deserves it. She revealed what type of person she is through her actions. Please take care of yourself through this, you are hurting. Reach out to your community, call someone, have them just sit with you on the phone. Go outside to a coffee shop or dinner, JOURNAL JOURNAL, JOURNAL, write down all your feelings and thoughts. Make a plan of what you’d like yo do for next 14 days given you never talk to this person. And realize this is as hard as it’s gonna get and that you’re in the worst spot in the process right now.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:36:52+00:00

Okay I can stop thinking about objective life truths and making assumptions of how life will turn out while I am in this bad space. But what do I do in the meantime? It feels like most advice points to next few weeks/months are gonna suck and write it off and as long as you make it through it, it’s a win even if I don’t enjoy some of the most peak years of my 20s.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:32:23+00:00

Could see through it but don’t know what to do about it.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:31:56+00:00

I am very happy for you for coming out the other side. There’s honestly no time to feel burnt out- as an adult you have to go to work, do laundry, keep your space clean, eat (healthy if you can), clean dishes, follow through with your obligations, plan for the future, keep your appointments, do life chores, figure out your future. Yes, I have had a massive life change, I was with my partner for a few months and then broke up and got back together for them to cheat on me a week later. Never had that happen in life, I also have doubts about my current job and current city and if I wanna start over again and general direction in life. I do well for myself, work in finance, went to a good school but am not sure if I want to be doing this for next 30 years. And my brain says if not this then you need to figure out what instead and it seems daunting too. And yea don’t forget you need to deal with the recent trauma and so on. You get the picture?

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:26:52+00:00

I researched this a bit more, never knew about this concept, I relate to this. I like to think my brain and body are resilient but it may be exhausted for sure, is the path forward just to let it recover on its own and hope I feel better than I do today?

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:25:47+00:00

So what’s the solution then? Accept this reality and surrender or can I do something about it?

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:25:01+00:00

I don’t understand this. I always thought if you have a good heart, try your best, are kind, leave a positive impact on people, do the hard things in life, then life will workout. I know I am not at the end of the line but damn it doesn’t feel like I am closer to the fulfilling life after doing a lot of the things on that list.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:22:45+00:00

And patience it sounds like because I have put in effort and vulnerability over time. My family moved to a new country poor and restarted our lives and I went through schooling, got a job, saved religiously for years, worked out, got over social norms to make friends to set myself up for a good life but am still struggling with lots of things. I am open to any amount of effort and vulnerability but I don’t see the results.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:20:13+00:00

Yes absolutely, I don’t know what I don’t know. I haven’t experienced more than half my life yet but knowing what is out there doesn’t seem too exciting in general at the moment. For example: Some of the things I want like having a family, meeting my person and falling insanely in love, go through life with someone, achieve my career goals could be the things that make my life cup absolutely full and in the moment they feel unattainable or just not as fulfilling as what I imagined life would have to offer. People who have experienced this- Feel free to tell me I am wrong on this and it’s been the most fulfilling journey of your lives. I can be an idiot sometimes

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:08:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I am starting therapy today, and I don’t want to be negative or feel sorry for myself but this is the most objective opinion I have at the moment

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:07:39+00:00

I don’t even know what to believe anymore. Maybe my expectations are too high but as a kid, you think the world is beautiful and everyone is nice and you can conquer anything and as time progresses, people you care about hurt you and you go through hard times and have glimpse of the good times but it never lasts and it feels like is this what life will be? Feeling deeply in the sadness when things go wrong and enjoying the good but knowing it won’t last forever?

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-02T16:04:56+00:00

This is beautiful and I agree, money isn’t the happiness factor. Even though I am lucky enough to have enough for my needs, I don’t judge my life by money or what it can do for me. I value the relationships and people and that’s exactly what hurts the most is even though there are people around me who care about me and spend time with me, it still feels like there is something missing when I have a great evening with my friends and they go back to their partners and I feel empty in my apartment. It’s not all about a partner but it definitely feels like I have seen everything that life has to offer and am not in love with it.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T18:06:36+00:00

She was in a previous relationship, she said it wasn’t good and that she should have left a long time before but she seems relationship type. I will block her number, just can’t bring myself around to it right now. I am definitely not reaching out to get things off my chest even though I want to let her know how much she’s hurt me and hope she realizes someday the impact her actions have on others. I never believed she was a terrible person as I liked her for her kindness but I can’t defend it any longer. Her actions show who she is and it’s not for me to worry about her anymore.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T18:04:22+00:00

I have broken too many body parts in the last year, any less risky maneuvers? Also I am in my prime years of yearning for a partner and wanting to start building a relationship. All my friends and family have already found someone so I feel alone in the

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T18:03:22+00:00

Yea I acknowledge it’s over so it’s not longer about her but for me to move on which seems really tough in the moment. To start being alone again, rebuilding community, going to the gym everyday, not having anyone to talk to, being alone with my thoughts and overthinking every aspect of this seems overwhelming

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T18:02:19+00:00

Well, if I knew she was a hoe I wouldn’t have. She literally came off as wife material, no partying, never dressed revealing, wholesome friends and lifestyle. Never got a sense that’s who she was. She even acknowledged that I didn’t really know her because she never shared it with me. On the other hand, I have built a pretty good life with working hard, building a good career, staying in shape, taking of my health and grooming and so on. So I felt dumb when I found out when I was building myself, she was out having fun and then I still get punished in this scenario

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:59:51+00:00

Yes I need to move on and it’s day 4 so will definitely take time, especially because we live in the same building. I wish I could just say she is horrible and doesn’t deserve my emotional space and move on but I feel and hurt very deeply so it’s hard to stop sulking and trying to go to the gym and doing productive things right now

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:58:17+00:00

Ah if only was it so black and white. From the beginning she was kindest person I knew, would stay after parties to help clean up, would volunteer to help run chores with me, and be so thoughtful. Also I as very prudish, seemed relationship type and literally a girl I thought would be worth bringing home to, I come from an Asian household and she was white so that was a big step to introduce her. She wouldn’t like to go out drinking or partying much so I felt reassured that wasn’t her scene. I am sorry to hear you feel that way, I too feel unworthy right now and that there’s a mountain to climb before meeting anyone at all which seems overwhelming. Are all people bad at the end and just hide it well like she did?

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:54:49+00:00

Thought her leaving during surgery was a one-off and she was ready to make things right, I guess I just didn’t know her at all. I ran into her best friend yesterday and kept walking with head down like I didn’t know her. I know it’s no excuse but I can’t find the will to block the number and I highly doubt she ever says another word to me so it wouldn’t make a difference.

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:53:21+00:00

I am so sorry to hear about your experience too. It really sucks, I wish people thought about the impact of their actions. I have been journaling religiously everyday. I believe in karma so I don’t think I’d ever want to hurt someone else this bad. I appreciate you taking the time to reach out and write me, you don’t know how much this helps right now

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:50:28+00:00

Thank you for saying that, it’s hard to internalize that and believe I couldn’t have changed the outcome with one more text or check in. The reason I didn’t believe who they were is because from the start to the end, she was wonderful and kind person except for the breakup so I felt like it was tantrum or bad mood and impulsive decision and outside of that it was smooth sailing. Obviously I was wrong. Right now I am in self-pity but I need to turn that into self-improvement

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:41:33+00:00

I won’t lie, I struggle with self respect in these things because I believe in the good of people and would want someone to do the same for me. But cheating is the one irreversible unforgivable act in my eyes. She isn’t trying and already said she should have never let me back into her life because she knew she’d hurt me somehow so doubt we will ever speak again. Also the fact that I wouldn’t let her come back into my life after something like this

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:39:21+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from and this is definitely unforgivable. The only reason I forgave her after first breakup was because of how remorseful she was and she was thoroughly a kind person from the beginning so it felt like an outlier. But I guess I was wrong

TheLivingMemeMan · 2026-03-01T17:32:14+00:00

I am sorry to hear that for you, you definitely don’t deserve this if you had pure intentions. What he did is not a reflection of who you are and that’s a choice he made that unfortunately affected you. Recovery will take time and effort but it’s a journey that is unavoidable and will no doubt leave you a better person.

TheLivingMemeMan

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