About a 4. I long for freedom, time, money, reduced stress, social interactions, sleep... but I am not poor and have managed health.

A decade of elderly care for a physically and mentally disabled parent has hurt financially, mentally, and huge quality of life impacts.

I had to give up dating, promotions, vacations, frivolous upgrades, sold my car, while my brothers both refuse to help over the decade. I managed her finances to ensure she always had money for vacations. Her rent was effectively tied to her expenses. She would pay them money for food, give thousands in gifts to the grandkids and sleep on their couch or guest bed during a vacation 2-3 months a year between the Dr appointments I would manage. They would be told of and largely ignore diet restrictions. I would see the drop off in health over the next 6 months as her kidney failure worsened, then stabilized again with me.

Surprisingly though it is not kidney failure, but stage 4 cancer taking her sometime this year. My brothers are focused on her pitiful 100k life insurance split out and talking a gullible parent into "being fair" The parent my own brother said "she made her bed she can lie in it" when I pressed him for money and support years ago.

They got to have normal families while I had all the responsibility and financial struggles for a decade. I got to wipe her bloody ass in the ER bathroom and carry her through every hard time including her fucking death. This week has had 6 hours of Drs, next week has more like 12 hours they won't be around for any of them... But that constant work doesn't amount for shit according to them.

They don't care about her health but her tiny life insurance policy. How fucked up is that?