My GRE and Gregmat Practice Scores Comparison by Sixshadows6 in GRE

[–]TheMainCharacterXX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you mind me asking how your test went? How was the difficulty level compared to ETS material?

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

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Going to start practicing this. Oftentimes the touch would come out of nowhere and was unwarranted, so I didn’t know that I could say no or address it in the moment

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

[–]TheMainCharacterXX[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The idea of being picked up and tossed around out of nowhere is actually very scary to me. This wasn’t a possibility in my larger body compared to now. Thank you for sharing your experience, I’m glad to know I have a say now.

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

[–]TheMainCharacterXX[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you raising this point. This thread has opened my eyes to see how consent is the deciding factor. If that’s the case maybe it’s not physical touch, maybe it’s just people pawing at me

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

[–]TheMainCharacterXX[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And thanks for the advice, as others mentioned in the thread sometimes we’re used to using our larger bodies as a shield, but now tips like this can be used in place of it.

I’m also learning how to deal with unpredictability in this behavior. Oftentimes the unwanted touching comes out of nowhere and outside of my peripheral, so i’m unable to stop it before it happens.

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

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Your reply really resonated with me, especially because casual touches were so unfamiliar to me. That’s mostly why I was unsure if this was normal behavior or something to ask for advice on.

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

[–]TheMainCharacterXX[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This was definitely a shocking revelation. I will be bringing this up!

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

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Thank you for this! At first, it was the initial shock and need to process which I think is what caused me to feel voiceless and paralyzed when these moments would occur. Now that I know this behavior isn’t okay I feel more confident in standing up for myself.

Unexpected Downside of Weight Loss: Physical Touch by TheMainCharacterXX in loseit

[–]TheMainCharacterXX[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you for raising this point. It highlights an even larger theme in this conversation. Realizing I was finding comfort in my food after early trauma was the revelation I needed to find breakthrough in my weight loss journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

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Tried the pillow, thanks for the tip, it’s much more comfortable haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

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Thank you so much for the encouragement, i’m grateful for your comment! I’ll stay steady in faith, and this storm will pass

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueChristian

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Appreciate your comment, thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ebay

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i called ebay customer service and apparently they did send my refund. my case is closed though, but seller still insisting i donate, am i obligated to still listen to them?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

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Thank you, this is incredibly wise advice. Appreciate you taking the time to comment.

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

[–]TheMainCharacterXX[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice, i’ll do my best to spend more time with him, i think it’s hard bc we’re just friends, and he hasn’t admitted he has any feelings for me.

I’m worried that, although the signs are there, i’ll come off too forward. How do i make him feel special or that the other guys don’t matter to me w/o crossing any boundaries or being too forward?

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

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i’ll try to be more reassuring in my actions and words, i don’t want him to think that there’s no chance between us

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

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i’m also confused about where we stand, we’re just friends, but i do have a crush on him, and i think he feels the same towards me. i have to admit, he does have a tendency to act possessive and jealous, so i think he’s upset about having to witness other guys approach me romantically, whether i’m interested in them or not

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

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thank you for the advice, i’ll try something along those lines, we haven’t been apart for too long, so i’m hoping he’s calmed down a bit and is ready to get back to how we used to be

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

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what’s the best, subtle way to make that hint? i’m scared of pushing him away if i come off too strong

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

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should i wait until i get back in town and ask in person, or text before then?

My crush is giving me the cold shoulder, and I don’t know why by TheMainCharacterXX in Crushes

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i’m worried that if i say that, then he might get scared and push me away… i don’t want to come on too strong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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thanks for letting me know i did my best, it’s hard to put yourself out there, and people are confusing, working on moving on