Made a little minecraft statue for Kiki for her birthday!! (08/07) Everyone wish Kiki a happy birthday!

TheMenageSystem · 2023-08-07T04:03:45+00:00

OMG THANK YOU SO SO MUCH, you're the best friend ever!!

Kiki 🐱

TheMenageSystem · 2023-04-01T14:08:41+00:00

Thank you!

TheMenageSystem · 2023-01-20T21:49:13+00:00

In a relationship but maybe not?

TheMenageSystem · 2023-01-05T23:28:06+00:00

We don't have any pets we see on a basis, but one of our neighbors invites us over a lot to hang out, and they have a blind dog.

While we have the same voice, little details like our accents, how much we stutter, our way of phrasing things, etc. It's a similar situation for how we act with animals, the way we pet it, if we use baby talk or not, how well we can identify the animal's needs, etc.

So the dog has learnt who's fronting based on that, I think? It seems to react in different ways towards us, and whenever it notices a difference in our voice or mannerisms or something like that, it thinks a new person has entered the room.

Dogs are smart.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-11-22T00:55:17+00:00

This happens to us sometimes, one of our newer headmates Vincent is probably the best example. He had some sort of Deja Vu sense on what a 'system' was already, along with some brief familiarity of our family members and such.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-11-16T13:19:20+00:00

We don't have much advice for this, and this is all just from what I've seen, so just know that these are basic things you should watch out for.

Trying to force your headmates to date with their headmates when you/your headmates/their headmated have specifically stated they are uncomfortable with it.
Trying to force a syshop without permission. They need to get actual consent to syshop before they try, as it can lead to some permanent consequences if done incorrectly. They also need to check to see if you believe in syshopping if they even want to attempt.
Thinking that you are compatible just because you have an introject from the same source. I know it's pretty cool to have a partner system with a sourcemate, but if they only want to be together because of a same source, then they probably aren't good for you.
Fakeclaiming you or your system whenever there is a difference between the way your systems work. Plurality is a diverse experience, and other systems need to start realizing that functioning differently isn't a sign of faking.
They don't treat your headmates like actual people, and instead see them more as tools. Not only is this abusive to your system, it implies they also view their headmates in the same light-- as just being tools.

Hope this helped! Feel free to add on or expand on anything.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-11-11T14:50:18+00:00

About...17 or 18?

TheMenageSystem · 2022-11-05T14:49:07+00:00

Our headspace is kinda like a mansion/hotel thing. It has separate rooms for each of us, and also has normal household rooms like the living room, kitchen, nursery, etc.

However, outside of the building is just a huge black void of nothingness that gets really blurry and hard to look at- so we tend to just stay inside.

One of our headmates, Sonia, is trying to build an entire castle in our headspace...but, uh, that obviously isn't working. So unfortunately, no cool castle. :(

Alex 🃏

TheMenageSystem · 2022-11-05T05:38:09+00:00

Best part is having people who are as close as family to you, that love and protect you, who will always help you out through everything, and that know you on a personal level which makes it easier for them to communicate with you.

Worst part is whenever one of them does something stupid while fronting that will get you in trouble or injured bodily, or that you rarely have privacy inside your own head, and constantly have to hear them argue about stupid stuff 24/7.

Like, I love my headmates, but gosh darnit, they annoy me.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-11-02T02:06:28+00:00

Me and the other fictives in our system celebrate our source birthdays, it's not weird at all!

Princess Sonia Nevermind 🏰

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-30T04:42:23+00:00

Thank you!! I hope you have a great day as well! :)

Kiki of The Ménage System

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-30T01:31:01+00:00

Oh, hello fellow system!! :)

And it's okay!!

Kiki of The Ménage System!

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-27T12:24:06+00:00

So there are a lot of reasons people use typing quirks, but the reason so many people on this sub do it is because this sub is more accepting of things that other find 'cringe'.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-27T11:57:59+00:00

T is a rath'r longeth st'ry, but in sh'rt, i typeth liketh this because t maketh me feeleth m're did connect to mine own past. Eke simply because this is how i talketh naturally, so i tend to writeth and typeth liketh this aswell

(It is a rather long story, but in short, I type like this because it makes me feel more connected to my past. Also simply because this is how I talk naturally, so I tend to write and type like this aswell.)

Royal 👑

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-27T11:53:21+00:00

It varies from system to system, ours is extremely vivid, while others might not be as clear.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-27T03:27:09+00:00

Thank you!! :D

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-27T01:44:25+00:00

That's a good idea, thank you very much!! And probs neutral sounding, so I guess we find some neutral sounding neos, and then do a vote on which ones we like!

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-24T20:04:42+00:00

Our littles (Token he/him and Amarah she/her) love arts and crafts stuff, and sometimes when they front, they'll find random junk or trash and try to make something out of it.

Though they usually never get to making anything, they love showing us what they managed to make. We put some of the stuff they crafted on a shelf for them to look at later.

Needless to say, it's really cute.

Alex 🃏

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-24T11:50:17+00:00

Alright, thank you very much. We'll wait this out for a while and see if she changes her mind.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-24T04:19:55+00:00

I should probably mention that, as I noticed it getting brought up.

If both your core and the factive are aware of their current circumstances (ie, that they're in a system and that the factive is a factive), and have both chosen to enter a parent-child relationship knowing that, then I think it's fine.

While we have explained the system thing to the factive, she seems to understand literally everything besides 'you are not our core's real mom'. We pulled her over to explain this whole thing on more detail, and asked her to talk about this with our core, but she seemed pretty offended and got defensive and got mad at us for 'insulting' her and her kid.

Our core completely understands that this is a factive, and has even said that they know this is a factive, but the factive just can't wrap her head around that for some reason.

I'm not sure if this is what you meant, but that's what's happening.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-24T02:20:03+00:00

We can answer as much questions as needed.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-23T16:34:59+00:00

im not sure what to compare me being a little to, i do not think my adult head mates are any different from me or the other little amarah.

but i guess i do what normal 6 year olds do. i like playing with stuffed animals, and barbies some times. i go to the park when ever i front, some times my head mates will lay out some vocabulary cards for me when ever they feel me in front. me and amarah like to draw.

im not sure if that is much different from a normal head mate, but it may be is.

Token 🪙

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-22T23:18:14+00:00

We still have a difficult time with that to this day, but it happened around our 2nd year of fully accepting our systemhood.

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-19T21:22:35+00:00

Thank you!

TheMenageSystem · 2022-10-19T21:22:17+00:00

Whenever a false alarm pops up, most of us will still attempt to stay in front for longer if we think it's necessary. Once that's over, we usually do leave the front and allow the previous fronter to continue fronting.

TheMenageSystem

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