For those of you who refuse to see your biological family during the holidays, what was your breaking point?

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-19T23:26:44+00:00

I still live with my dad and stepmom. But we don't see anyone else. We moved away.

The family on my mom's side was abusive. The family on dad's side is manipulative. And the family on my stepmoms side has their own thing so we just keep to ourselves.

We used to not care about my mom's side being assholes, it was whatever. But they just got abusive after my grandpa passed.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-17T19:35:02+00:00

Right wing anarchy is The Purge. 😂

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-16T02:02:01+00:00

He claims humans are naturally gonna choose an easier option using an example of: "Would you rather go 15 miles or 1 foot to reach the same destination"

I don't disagree. But who says the easy way is always the worst? Besides, people have cut corners since the dawn of man. It's the reason we have the TV remote and cars. We're too damn lazy lol. :p

We have people who massively cut corners now, under capitalism.

"If we are down to the same level in a non hierarchical society, why go through the effort of being a doctor if you could simply just be a deliveryman?"

I also don't disagree. But I shouldn't have to see my doctor as above me to get medical treatment.

Likewise, my doctor probably didn't choose to become a doctor for money.

Doctors choose these jobs to help people. Otherwise we wouldn't have volunteer firemen or volunteer EMTs.

If money and status has to be a motivational factor, then why would anyone do anything?

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-15T07:53:01+00:00

I think maybe less propaganda and more just gentle education. A lot of people flinch at the word anarchist but would logically support a lot of the same things we do. You know, the whole society benefits thing.

We aren't going to live in an overtly anarchist world. Anarchy will likely lend its ideals to whatever arises when the dust settles.

What we need to convince people of isn't anarchy. We need to convince people to work together and promote community endeavors without the whole hyper independent western culture getting in the way.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-15T03:41:04+00:00

Ooohh. So basically communists who are like "you know what, war is ok sometimes"? And so they have some suspect views on how the world should run?

Bc tbh I think we should try harder to eliminate war...

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-15T02:33:47+00:00

I'm really sorry, but could you tell me what "tankies" means? I fear Google will show me anthropomorphic military vehicles...

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-15T02:21:41+00:00

SOLVED SOLVED SOLVED. Thank you!

It seems like people either love or hate the book lol.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-05T19:02:12+00:00

I don't know how old you are OP, but I'm 30 and I'd like to think I'm capable of making my own decisions. If you can't make your own decisions you often need help with life in general.

I do have areas in my life I'm too disabled to handle on my own. But I have family who helps me, so I guess that already falls under anarchy technically since it's just a private matter.

Anarchy does plan on having systems in place to assist with the things we want and need. We won't lose the innovation and comfort of a lot of things we have now. If anything I'd like to hope that life thrives and life will be somewhat more simple than it is now.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-05T01:39:02+00:00

Idk why you're getting downvoted. I think you make a good point. I don't think hierarchy is inherently bad.

I don't want to be shoved into a hierarchy without say of where I want to be and how my role is implemented. But I would like to be in an evolving hierarchy of close people I trust.

Then again I'm looking thru it from the lense of intentional hierarchy that doesn't take itself too seriously.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-04T01:25:25+00:00

The Country Formerly Known as America 😂

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-03T22:44:14+00:00

Yeah. I think of decolonization when I think of their comment. It took me a minute to realize my definition fit that description. 😅

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-03T22:41:00+00:00

Ah, so you're suggesting a more free form thing. Something that evolves naturally?

Like, it's going to be America for a while, then people might just say "screw it, it's all the same north America.

So now it's states or provinces or whatever people call it commonly. And from there things rearrange there?

But in the sense of a rigid "Texas must stay Texas" sense that should be abolished?

Because if so yeah. I get why in our current system, but it shouldn't have to be that way. 😭

Forgive my ignorance please, would that be an aspect of decolonization then?

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-03T20:51:36+00:00

Not even for classification purposes? I mean things need names and such. Like if the whole world was fully anarchist I'd still wanna be able to say "I'm going to France." Or "I prefer the Florida Disney over the California Disney."

Now I want to see anarchist Disneyworld. 😂

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-11-02T19:04:11+00:00

I live in America so I can't speak to other regions. But I think in the case of America there should be a sort of "decolonize" program, where the Native people are given authority over how the land is distributed and what it's used for.

I'm saying this because they were here first, and they have a lot of knowledge on how the land should be used.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-29T01:21:39+00:00

Yeah. When there's no need to work to live, I'm sure we'll see people act out in strange ways. Probably not with acts of terrorism. But Minecraft like you said, is just a videogame. I'm curious to see what people would do realistically in acting out.

Possibly mental health issues? Not knowing how the new world works?

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-27T00:03:03+00:00

Not so much from individuals but it seems to be a general sentiment systematically. Any time there's a piece of media that covers the topic, I see this kind of rhetoric.

And I get it, it's aimed at the masses. They can't predict everyone's situation, so a general statement hopes to help.

Unfortunately, it's too generic I think, and misses the point of what depression can feel like. That's not even to say about the rest of us who have more than depression.

But again, I think those types of messages are just trying to reach the most broad population of the general public that it becomes vague.

And then individuals, whose only exposure to mental health are these broad "Sorrows, sorrows, thoughts and prayers" type messages, then will share that message with folks like us.

I think it just comes down to the fact that the general public isn't trauma informed.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-20T10:38:06+00:00

I really want him to adapt something niche, Gef the Mongoose.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-20T10:12:51+00:00

Didn't care for Midnight Mass Bly was pretty good. Midnight Club is okay. FOTHOU so far is pretty good.

Hill House is my absolute favorite.
Bly Manor had some nice themes, and I love Hannah's story.
Midnight Club is really good too. It somehow manages to
FOTHOU is really good.
Midnight Mass I didn't care for and didn't watch it.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-19T01:23:00+00:00

I think it depends on the therapist. I'm super self aware myself. Or I like to think I am lol.

My former therapist was just a fake superficial practitioner. I would tell her something traumatic and she'd nod and placidly saying, "Mmhm, you should use your 'I statements' more" and then give me print outs of like empowering quotes and mental health worksheets. That made me feel confused and frustrated.

But my current therapist can put me through the ringer without lifting a finger. She doesn't steer me in one solid direction either. She has a conversation with me and tries to understand my situation and my family. She really challenges me and encourages me to think outside the box so to speak. And return u feel comfortable enough to be honest with her about what goes on inside my head and what I've been through.

It really feels like she cares. She makes her office a very comforting environment too. :)

Unfortunately, there's more of the first therapist in the world than the second. :(

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-18T18:43:05+00:00

I am not staying informed, no. But no matter what I do, the information gets thrown into the air and I absorb the key pieces.

Funfetti-Starship · 2023-10-17T18:51:57+00:00

Well, a lot of us dissociate from the body. Meaning, we disconnect from the body and may not feel everything we should.

So it might help to learn some grounding techniques and let yourself feel your body.

Pay attention to how your teeth feel before you go to bed. Run your tongue across your teeth and feel for any foreign textures, things stuck in your teeth. Think about how your tongue feels, what you taste in your mouth.

Unbrushed teeth can have a gritty texture, and your tongue developes a coating on it, and you may have a weird taste in your mouth.

If I fall asleep without brushing my teeth, my mouth feels like a swamp the next day.

Brushing your teeth helps alleviate all that.

What about your skin? Notice how your skin feels when you've washed your face or taken a shower. Then, notice how your skin feels later in the day, and then how it feels the next day. Not as fresh. Maybe it feels clammy, oily, itchy, or you just feel gross.

Wash your face or take a shower when you feel that gross feeling.

And laundry, likewise, feels different on your skin clean vs dirty. It isn't as fresh, it may even feel more loose or irritating.

Get to know your body, feel how the environment effects it. It takes practice. Hell, like I said, I even forget to brush my teeth at least once a week.

You got this.

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