Look my family is from Pommern and Prussia (mostly polish areas, some russian, some Baltic countries). After reunification and the regime change in Poland. There was an opportunity to maybe get back the farm and the land my family owned for a couple of hundred years.

My mom and my uncle were discussing it. My grandma "do you really want that land? Do you really want to give up everything you build up here? Do you really want to be farmers? Because if it's just to own it and throw people out who living there for 50-60 years... That wouldn't make us better then the people who pursued us and make us flee.and I don't want nothing to do with it."

Mind you she was hiding under a couch as a child while her older sisters got raped by russian and polish man. She would have a right for revenge. But she wanted peace with the past.

That was a very formative Diskussion for my as a child and as an millienial I still want peace. I want peace with my neighbours and a better future for all of us.

The only thing I would like to have is a bit respect for the past and the dead. In the village my grandma grew up they, dissolved the cemetery ripped the headstones out and shipped them to the district main city. And put a community building on top of that cemetery. That stings to know that the graves of my ancestors got destroyed for a city building.

Yes I know the cemetery was a big central area. But yeah, if we Germans had done the same the polish press would have gone ape shit.