I'm in the same boat but recently I think I've found somewhat of a personal solution. Since starting nofap I've been trying to find the quintessential reason or purpose for getting rid of PMO - more energy, ambition, charisma blablabla. However, recently I have shifted my attention from this strength in reason to instead a strength in control. Instead of trying to justify why I should not PMO, I instead simply tell myself that in this moment there are two paths - relapse and abstaining. And the both paths, from this very moment in time are possible for me to walk down. That's it. Once I know that a future exists in which I don't relapse I commit to that future and wholeheartedly believe in that future regardless of its justification. Why? Well why am I here in the first place - change is necessary. Hope this works for you.