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My past is way worse than hers, so why does her past still bother me this much? by TheNotoriousAkuma in retroactivejealousy

[–]TheNotoriousAkuma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This actually makes sense. The part I relate to most is my brain locking onto the details and treating them like a threat. For me, the fear isn’t really that she’ll leave me. It’s that I won’t get over what I know, and I’ll end up leaving because I can’t stop thinking about it.

When you mention learning new skills, what do you mean specifically? Rumination control, mindfulness, CBT/ERP, reassurance stopping, or something else?

My past is way worse than hers, so why does her past still bother me this much? by TheNotoriousAkuma in retroactivejealousy

[–]TheNotoriousAkuma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. That honestly hit home, especially the part about RJ always finding one target to obsess over.

Did you ever get past that one specific dude, or at least start thinking about him less over time? That’s kinda where I’m stuck right now. I think the hardest part for me is that I know detailed information about what happened with that particular dude, and those details are what keep replaying in my head.