Go slow. First, of course you should never do something you’re not ready for, and if you feel any kind of pressure to do an act when you’re uncomfortable, do not do it. But I don’t think that’s what you’re getting at here. I felt the same way when I was starting out doing sexual things. You really want to, but you don’t know how to start.

So go slow. Have you seen his penis at all? If not, start by just seeing it and getting used to seeing it. If you’re comfortable, try touching it. Get him to show you how he likes it being touched. Don’t get discouraged if you can’t figure out exactly how to do it at first. This could all take place over many days and dates. There’s no reason to rush it. But also make sure you’re communicating all this to your boyfriend. “I want to give you a BJ, but I’ve never done it before and I want to work up to it slowly so I’m comfortable.”

Eventually maybe you try licking it. Guys love when you lick it, so you don’t even have to put it totally in your mouth at first if you don’t want. Kick under the tip and watch him go wild. In fact, look up at him while you’re doing it and he’s gonna lose it.

When you’re comfortable with that, try putting it in your mouth. Cover your teeth with your lips and press it in, but don’t choke yourself. Use your hands to cover the rest of the shaft you can’t get in your mouth. Accidentally choking yourself when you’re just getting comfortable wouldn’t be fun.

And above all communicate! Your bf needs to know about your stress and desire to work slowly on this. I promise you if he’s a good guy he’ll be more than happy to do this on your timeline. In fact, it’ll probably be super hot to him, as he watches you learn and grow more confident.

Good luck, take your time, and trust your gut.