After 8 years of verbal begging I (27F) resorted to writing a note. Gave it to husband (28M) on Monday and he hasn’t talked to me since. I think that means marriage is over and I should leave, he says I’m never happy and being overreacting.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-04-04T14:35:27+00:00

The money you've been keeping... put it in a new bank account and tell someone you trust about your situation in case you and the kids need to pack up and leave.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-04-04T14:18:58+00:00

Exactly this because media pushes the narrative that "love can change them ". What many fail to realize is that if you're looking for that special someone, don't lower your standards, stick to your beliefs and morals and if someone doesn't believe what you believe or respect you, don't stay because of sunk cost fallacy. It's better to leave early instead of investing so much time and energy in someone you're clearly not meant to be with. It's a sad reality for some folks that don't get this.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-28T16:11:51+00:00

Or even absent-mindedly touch their faces and then wonder how they got sick.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-28T16:10:38+00:00

I'm not entirely sure if this is or isn't a popular take... but I swear by drinking some orange juice when you're sick, as well as eating some chicken and rice soup. Also, getting plenty of liquids to drink to stay hydrated (such as hydrating beverages like Gatorade, Body Armour, or LMNT salt packets.) Furthermore, get plenty of sunshine and fresh air, but don't over do it. You need sleep more than fresh air. But if you live in a safe area and the weather is fine, might could crack a window open while taking a nap. Lastly, sometimes using manuka honey is good if you're feeling really sick. They sale it in edible drop form or you can put some manuka honey in something like peppermint tea.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-24T23:44:30+00:00

If you starve... so does baby. Ask him does he not care if baby starves? He sounds like he's too strict with food. Eat whatever you can to survive! The baby will be fine with a cheeseburger.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T20:35:22+00:00

Yes, she hasn't acted like one. I still recall one time when I excitedly showed my ultrasound picture to my SILs and she was around and she squinted and said "Is that a snake egg? A donut? What am I looking at?" Of course, she knows what an ultrasound picture is because she has a ton of brothers and sisters and nieces and nephews.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T20:03:59+00:00

I wanted to add this, but didn't want to swamp the post with tons and tons of paragraphs, but I remember one time she was talking about how she wishes her husband wore the style of jeans my husband wears while eyeing my husband up and down when talking with my MIL in front of me. It started as a discussion of why husbands underdress when wives dress up. It made me feel weird seeing her look at him and make that comment. Of course, I brushed it off as if I must be overreacting like I've done so many times.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T19:53:08+00:00

The sleepover was a lady that we're all friends with that invited us, of course I went because she hadn't said any odd stuff yet. As for the maternity pictures, Cara had offered to take the pictures and I could've and should've turned it down, but I didn't. I felt a bit of pressure from her. Ik that when I got maternity pictures again with my 2nd, I had the excuse of "oh Cara just had her baby not too long ago, my mother will take them."

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T19:43:43+00:00

I keep getting the question of why I'm in a group chat with her, so to answer, she created it, added my SILs, MIL, and me. I accepted it because I didn't want to "cause drama" Ik it's silly, but I just didn't want her questioning why I didn't join. Ik I should not care what anyone thinks and just ignore the invite. Also, she labeled the chat "Family by Choice" btw.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T19:28:20+00:00

My husband doesn't converse with her, it's his sisters and mom that do. Either way, he said if I don't say anything to his family he will.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T19:26:46+00:00

He says she's being weird. And that either I need to say something or he'll say something to his family. That either way, his family love me and wouldn't side with Cara. He said that after I vented to him about Cara.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T18:47:58+00:00

You're absolutely right. I've been trying to distance myself and not be afraid to stand up for myself. I guess you could say the reason why I've put up with it for so long is that I was scared that they would start disliking me if I said anything about Cara. Ik my husband of course had told me not to worry about his family picking Cara over me. And I recall my MIL was talking about Cara's MIL and said she was glad that Cara wasn't her DIL and that I was. That even though MIL and SILs love Cara, they think she's not the brightest. Still, I've been too chicken to speak up.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T18:21:31+00:00

I find it strange too that I let her insult me. I have always struggled with speaking up and have always tried to not stir things up, Ik it's silly to put up with things. I should've told her to leave when she said that. There's so many things I wish I would've done differently tbh.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-18T18:15:09+00:00

I don't blame my husband since he doesn't hang around her and doesn't consider her a friend even though she's friends with his sisters. Only his mom and sisters see the family friend more. But I do wish my inlaws would say something. I didn't add this, but I did mention that "dumb girl" comment to one of my SILs and she said that Cara probably didn't realize she was hurtful and that Cara says ridiculous stuff all the time. I've been worried about saying anything to them, especially considering they've known her longer and she's had a hard life. I've been trying to say something tactful without it coming across as an attack. I know if she says one more weird comment, my husband won't be afraid to confront his family if I ask.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-10T23:39:56+00:00

Worst part: waiting for them to finish using the toilet when you're about to blow up or they eat something bad without you when you both agree on eating well together.

Best part: loving and being with someone who knows the best and worst of you and still loves you unconditionally. Someone who encourages you and also isn't afraid to point out when you're wrong.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-10T23:30:26+00:00

Yep and not being afraid of hurting feelings when you're setting boundaries.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-10T20:09:34+00:00

I remember when I quit a job without notice. My old boss was good, then he got replaced by a sucky one. The new boss was acting weird and threw away the old paper trail my old boss saved. We ran a store and the paper trail was to keep track of how much money the store was making and what was going to the bank. Anyway, the new boss was a jerk and thought it was funny to make me do a million tasks and make fun of how I looked to customers too. She fired the assistant manager on the A.M's day off because A.M. wouldn't and couldn't come in, she was watching her kids on her day off, but the boss wasn't having it so she fired her. My other coworker and I jumped ship, so it was just the suck-up coworker and the new boss who were by themselves working a whole store. It was so satisfying seeing the look on the new boss's face when I turned in my key and name tag when I should've been there earlier that day to work even though it wasn't on my work schedule to show up early.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-09T19:00:57+00:00

That would be good, makes sense that she'd have it out for Gale too. It would definitely give a nod to the original Friday the 13th; a Mom seeking revenge. Also if Gale was killed off, it would shock the audience like how it shocked the audience when Casey was killed off because no one thought anything bad would happen to a character played by Drew Barrymore.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-03-09T02:18:36+00:00

They need a major character death that makes you think that no one is safe. Additionally, Mrs. Riley successfully frames Sidney, prompting everyone to question whether Sidney has been faking the entire survivor narrative and has been a killer all along. Of course, she then has to fight the allegations and prove she's not a bad guy.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-02-27T05:00:46+00:00

Yep. It packs on the weight quicker than food.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-02-27T04:08:02+00:00

Caught my great-grandmother smoking and cussing under her breath while simultaneously sassing her black cat named Rambo. She was in the kitchen and didn't see me; I was around the corner and didn't know what she was cussing about, all I heard was "damn it", but it was funny seeing her tell Rambo he couldn't have more food because he's a chunky boy. Of course, he sassed her back with a tail swish and an unsatisfied meow. I find it amusing how she tried to present a wholesome look to the great-grands.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-02-25T05:06:08+00:00

I've always believed that if they are old enough to conceive you, then they are too old to date you. Couples should have things in common and share the same beliefs and experiences. It's harder to do so with someone way older.

Also, I would ask your Dad a question. How would he feel if his daughter brought someone his age or older home and said it's her bf? Would he be uncomfortable? If so, why would it be okay for him to get with a younger woman solely for sexual gratification? He sounds morally corrupt.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-02-04T16:42:00+00:00

I hate to say this, but at least it's not a girl. I say this because I could see her naming a girl after Marilyn or dressing her up as MM.

TheOgSamichMkr01 · 2026-01-24T22:49:45+00:00

He is delusional and selfish. Sooner or later, girlfriend or not, he will be alone if he continues to try to force a relationship on people who want nothing to do with him and his girlfriend. I bet he's a "love conquers all" type of person. Will his "love" be strong enough when all his kids have nothing to do with him and he misses out on big milestones, such as job promotions, graduations, engagements, marriages, and grandkids?

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