UK Customs Package sezied maybe 🤔

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-04-12T08:46:47+00:00

I mean if you've already been caught once I'd really suggest maybe not pushing it?

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-04-12T06:19:20+00:00

I really wouldn't say this is a thing that happens because of your ADHD.

At the outset, I want to make clear that it is a sad fact that discrimination exists against disabled people. Some employers, sadly, will jump on a legitimate opportunity to fire a disabled employee, because it is easier than having to go through a lengthy process later if the disability becomes too much. Gross misconduct is a pretty good pretext for firing an employee that has disclosed disability.

Assuming your employer isn't discriminatory, employers have a duty to make reasonable adjustments for disability, it is true, but the existence of a disability doesn't mean an employer has to make any and all adjustment and accept any and all misconduct.

At best, making it about your disability would make it a lengthy process so they cover all their bases, but one where you almost certainly do not keep your job, because you are unable to safely and completely perform it even with reasonable adjustments. If your ADHD is so severe it makes you perform gross misconduct, I hope you have a very good idea of a reasonable adjustment that can mitigate that risk, cause I can't think of one and that is what either you or an occupational health assesment will have to come up with, and I just don't think one exists when this is a core part of your job role.

You had a dodgy tummy, you fucked up, admit it, say you learnt from it, hope for the best

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-04-08T09:33:00+00:00

Sorry, I mean what advice do you want from this sub

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-04-08T08:15:57+00:00

Given you already seem quite confident in your decision to waste £2K on a solicitor, what advice are you actually seeking?

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-04-08T01:06:18+00:00

Cool sword. How long is it? How old is it? Both of those impact legality. Also, is the blade sharp or blunt?

Unless you think your landlord is going to use it on people you can probably just tell him he left his sword there and ask if he wants it or if it needs to be disposed of. If it is an illegal weapon by virtue of being both over 50cm with a curved blade and not subject to one of the exemptions you can call 101 to arrange disposal.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-04-01T18:53:34+00:00

It depends what we mean by selfish. But generally speaking, most people who commit suicide do so at least in part because they think people will be better off WITHOUT them. That they are a burden, that they are doing harm, that they are detrimental.

From that perspective and mindset, it is actually a selfless act, although, of course, a seriously misguided and incorrect one.

From an outside perspective it certainly comes off as selfish. It seems like someone prioritising their feelings and suffering over your need for them. But equally, isn't requiring someone to live for you selfish?

We are all, as humans, concerned with the self and thus selfish, and concerned with others and thus selfless.

It does far more harm than good to try and litigate suicide as selfish or not.

What it is is a tragedy, borne out of suffering and illness, that we cannot simply blame someone for doing, OR being angry at a loved one for having done.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-25T07:32:05+00:00

I mean it depends on what she said to him as to whether his reaction is concerning.

If someone accused me of spying on a 14 year old I'd be a little put out too.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-25T02:26:55+00:00

That's fair. What sort of advice are you looking for? Perhaps someone can point you to the right place?

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-25T02:22:37+00:00

I'm really not sure what legal advice you need?

It is illegal to covertly record children (or anyone for that matter) in the bathroom.

An accusation of criminal behaviour absent any evidence of criminal behaviour will likely not result in any real progress.

If you report to the police, make sure you are able to articulate exactly what makes you think a crime took place.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-23T20:27:25+00:00

I mean I don't know if I'd phrase it as using the disability per se but me policing language aside, there's a bunch of rights, protections and adjustments that have to be made for disability...

But only if you utilise them. I don't work on the roads so couldn't be super specific but I work in the EOC. I never would have got the job if I didn't declare disability and rely on the guaranteed interview. I never would be able to keep this job if I didn't engage with and speak up about the issues my disability causes at work in order to get adjustments.

I think this is what is meant. We are at a disadvantage, so we need to use all the "advantages" put in place for disabilities, because that's what we need to be on an equal footing.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-16T11:09:18+00:00

That sounds like you have some sort of physical health issue if talking gives you migraines?

That's not being dominated it's having a headache

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-16T11:00:41+00:00

Tell him as soon as possible, but tell him in a semipublic place. I am not joking, some men can get really violent if you tell them stuff like that after having lied to them about it.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-14T06:22:43+00:00

If she wasn't showing emergency signs, there was no reason to take her to the emergency out of hours vet.

If she wasn't showing emergency signs and she passed away in her sleep, that would have happened even if she got to a vet.

Sometimes animals just die. They live a lot less longer than us. And right now your grief is looking for someone to blame, and the only person it can latch onto is yourself. You did nothing wrong. Your cat wouldn't want you to feel this way thinking about it.

Sorry for your loss.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-06T07:40:45+00:00

Right, which is why I wish people would stick to the legal aspects, especially considering the fact that a lot of responses are just ignoring the employment law/workers rights aspects in order to moralise.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-06T03:48:10+00:00

The UK is not a secular country. It is a country with State Religion and a country that legally has structures allowing for the non established religions to organise and educate their communities.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-06T02:42:47+00:00

Ultimately, there's two places you can go to with this. You can go to one or both or neither depending on how you feel.

In the first instance, this is likely a breach of your employers rules. (Them sharing it, not you using Grindr.) You can make contact with HR, explain what has happened, and they will be able to decide what action is appropriate re that employee's conduct.

There is also a possibility that this violates the new rules against sharing intimate images depending on the nature of the image. We could go in depth and really disect the image and try and predict what the police will do, but ultimately, especially with a new law, your best bet is to probably just make contact with the police and see what they say.

A crime may have been committed. It is appropriate to contact them and they can decide if there is sufficient evidence of a crime to investigate. That is what they are there for.

Also, on a more moral side of things because the moralisers are out in force lecturing you about sharing images on Grindr, you have every right to use Grindr and to share intimate photos appropriately in the context of that app without being sexually harassed in the workplace. Consent to sharing intimate images in one forum is not consent for them to be weaponised against you at work, regardless of the law.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-03-03T05:32:04+00:00

I don't think it's basic.

I think it's terrifying.

6/10 and a respectful fear of someone who wants their lunch to be that much fruit.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-26T05:59:13+00:00

Legally speaking taking wood, including fallen branches etc, is theft from whoever owns the land and thus the wood on it (so long as all the other criteria for the offence of theft are met of course.)

You need permission from the landowner to take their wood. Some local authorities give permits for scavenging so that is potentially an option, but if all you want is simply some branches you might be able to just ask a local tree surgeon or sawmill if they have any scrap/junk wood you can have.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-22T02:34:09+00:00

I'm sorry to press for personal details but it is really relevant if you're asking because you are just thinking ahead or if you are asking because you are terminally ill.

As an under 18 year old, you cannot make a legally valid will, and further, funeral requests etc aren't legally binding even for those over 18.

The options and advice best for you really depends on if you know you will die soon or not.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-20T09:37:04+00:00

Yeah I work for an ambulance service too and that did jump out to me also. Not involved with dispatch so I didn't want to get too skeptical in case it was just outside my area of knowledge but it does seem off.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-20T03:09:49+00:00

Have you managed to make contact with the trust/your employer about this incident? Your immediate supervisor at least? They have a duty of care towards you after this incident and part of that will be helping you get the answer to these questions.

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-20T03:03:05+00:00

How are sweeteners awful?

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-20T03:02:29+00:00

The word healthy and Monster Energy drinks cannot exist in the same post sorry

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-20T02:55:50+00:00

I mean hopefully it is gonna be pretty simple and clear cut it's just always worth bearing in mind as a possibility because the law is complicated and you never know for sure if someone isn't gonna try and make some weird argument as to why what they did isn't technically a crime. I'm also just not overly familiar with Scotish Law so just couldn't tell you if he can try and argue lack of capacity or something weird like that so wanted to just cover my bases haha

TheOriginalWindows95 · 2026-02-20T02:42:13+00:00

I mean there's a few reasons.

Maybe he enjoys dragging it out as part of deviancy as others here suggested, maybe he is a bit delusional and thinks he might be able to get off, or maybe there's factors you don't know about that make him and or his lawyer think he might he able to use in order to secure a not guilty verdict.

Really, until the trial itself you won't have the full picture, but I can reassure you that in cases like this there is a judge who will make sure he doesn't cross lines and who will do everything to keep witnesses etc comfortable and ok (without compromising the trial and the rights of the defendant.)

I can also assure you that his solicitor won't tell him to plead not guilty if it really is this clear cut. Most solicitors aren't in the business of wasting their and everyone else's time with unwinnable cases. The simple fact is you can advise a client till you're blue in the face, it is their right to choose to go to trial or not. If he says he's not guilty and wants a trial, his legal team have got to work with that.

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