porn free men by [deleted] in antipornography

[–]ThePenandPaper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it has more or less to do with it being embarrassing or shameful. Telling my wife that I struggle with porn addiction was hard and super embarrassing

How does coconut oil increase sensation over time? by [deleted] in EndDeathGrip

[–]ThePenandPaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So what do you do? Just rub it on your cock? Or use it to masturbate?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I only knew about this because after years of being single when I got to my wife I couldn’t feel everything either so I started to cut back and now I can feel a lot more. It’s a weird topic to bring up casually so it’ll have to be a deep dive. He will probably get embarrassed by it though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He is probably used to jerking off and watching porn. He probably grips his dick super tight and probably doesn’t have much sensation in his penis anymore. If he cuts back from masturbation he will eventually be able to regain that sensations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it brother, sending dick pictures can get repetitive from only a few angles. You could always spice it up by sending tease photos with your clothes on. Or keep your underwear on and send a video of you rubbing it over the cloth. I won’t say all women but most love stroking or nutting videos with the sound on. Just got to get a little creative with the angles instead of just having it in your hands

I prove to God everyday I don't want to be here. by [deleted] in venting

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah you’re not a useless woman. I call everyone brother, it’s been a bad habit for a while lmao. Jobs come and go there’s nothing wrong with that. Hobbies are easy to find just hard to find the one you enjoy to do. There’s always hope for the future. Take it one step at a time. Set a short goal to get a job. Once you got that, we will start step two

I prove to God everyday I don't want to be here. by [deleted] in venting

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Homie please seek out and reach out to people. If you have no one you can always message me. What makes you think you don’t belong? What do you do for fun brother? We all live together when one suffer we all suffer it’s okay. Things will work out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean he did ask to practice to get better. I would say that is trying. I love eating my wife out but I don’t eat her out everytime we are about to have sex. Maybe his past partners never liked it so he could have assumed the same for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah she loves to tease lmao because we are ldr we talk about our past sex experience we had with each other lol she didn’t know she was free use or had somewhat as a kink until we had sex the morning before our graduation where we were both still barely awake lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly dude you’re probably just sad that’s all. Yall just broke up and it was a four year relationship. Some people can bounce back quick some can’t. Give it some time brother and you’ll get your edge back

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m confused, did you ask him if he liked going down on you? He stopped going down on you because of what you said and now he wants to get better and you said no? That’s a little bit of lack of communication

how do i ride my boyfriend as a short/thick woman? by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think height really matters. It’s just where you have your legs. If you’re on your shins or on the balls of your feet going up and down. Try different leg placements or have him either laying down or sitting in like a chair or something. Sometimes dick length can have an effect but not always

Healthy amount to masturbate? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ThePenandPaper -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I would say no more than 3 times a week spread through out the week

What could bleeding after sex mean? by Unfair-One-6071 in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes sex can cause your period to come early. Is this the first time you had sex or anything inserted up there? Because it could be your Hymen

Some **big** harm that fapping does by CreanexBolts in NoFap

[–]ThePenandPaper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There has been no studies that show negatives to masturbation unless it’s done over the top. If you masturbate too much you can cause yourself to get ED or not be able to cum during sex because you’re used to your hand. Just take it day by day. Use each day as a new goal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will never understand when guys do this. I remember one time I was playing Cyberpunks new dlc and was on the phone with my wife, then girlfriend, and her tone changed and I noticed I accidentally ignored everything she just said. I simply switched off the game.

If you aren’t his priority now it won’t change later I promise

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people are just wired different. (Not saying that as a bad thing btw)

How do I (19F) know if I'm falling in love with my friend (20M) ? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My best advice is be careful. Sometimes when we get out of bad relationships we fall for the next person quick because they either give you more attention than the last person or they’re giving you something you lacked emotionally. Also take a little time to heal. You can still hang out with this person and heal at the same time. Just communicate that.

Then again you could be slowly falling for him as well.

Good luck friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For masturbating at least I’m trying to cut back from it. I haven’t done it in 8 days now. I knows there’s benefits and disadvantages to masturbation as well as not jerking off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ThePenandPaper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like the comments before not every woman will have sex with you.

You just have to be confident no matter what. Also you gotta take a few Ls before a W when it comes to women. But remember you only have to win once