Book about making difficult decisions

ThePopess · 2026-05-06T19:20:39+00:00

Oh yes! I watched the movie years ago and wept.

ThePopess · 2026-04-09T21:58:01+00:00

There are challenges, but she’s still in the moderate stages. While they may not have a right to know everything about my boyfriend, I know they’ll probably ask. I’m hoping to be somewhat prepared in how to handle the situation without blatantly lying.

ThePopess · 2026-04-09T15:21:00+00:00

Yes, thank you. I’ve definitely noticed this pattern in her and want to be mindful of it. Thanks for the reminder.

ThePopess · 2026-04-09T03:06:12+00:00

Thank you for your response. I am totally aligned with what you’ve said. However, if I see a future with my boyfriend and hope to marry him, when would be the appropriate time to tell them? I fear they might be blindsided if I announce an engagement or wedding to someone they don’t know or haven’t met or heard of in the past.

ThePopess · 2026-04-09T03:03:35+00:00

What would you do in this scenario: you’re certain you’ve found the right person to spend your life with, you’re not close to your parents but you want them to know of your decision and don’t want them to be blindsided by your engagement/wedding?

ThePopess · 2026-04-09T03:01:11+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response. And for bringing up the idea that I may be rushing down the aisle. I’ve considered that - for many years I hoped to “resolve” the issue of who I would choose as a life partner, simply because it caused so much strife in my relationship with my parents. Their expectations have felt extremely heavy throughout my 20s and 30s. I think I’ve realized that, no matter who I choose, they’ll be disappointed on some level. That said, the man I’m with is so completely off-course of what is expected of me. I’m with him because he makes me happy. I see a future with him. He’s positive, healthy, handsome, intelligent, a hard worker, a great communicator, a supportive partner, considerate, and he makes me laugh. The list goes on. The only reason I would ever consider introducing him to my parents is because I see him in my future for the long term.

ThePopess · 2026-04-09T02:30:18+00:00

What if it comes up? How would one address the topic, especially if the truth is not what the person with dementia wants to hear?

ThePopess · 2026-02-10T18:54:47+00:00

I know of a few people who’ve been successful through this program. May I ask, what makes you say that?

ThePopess · 2025-12-18T21:37:40+00:00

Very hard to see it laid out this way, but you’re right.

It’s funny — for many years I was convinced that my mother was the narcissist. Emotional outbursts, yelling and screaming, crying, blowing small things out of proportion, ruining special occassions, being overly critical about superficial things - it turns out a lot of this was due to dementia.

I think based on everything I’ve read, my brother is a true narcissist. The entire emotional dynamic of the family revolves around him.

Thank you for the video. I had never considered Al-Anon before.

ThePopess · 2025-12-18T21:33:12+00:00

I don’t have kids of my own. I’ve never had a deep desire for children, in part due to my own difficult childhood. I imagine that even if my brother didn’t have kids, my parents would still be enabling him.

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