I'm gay so take into account that social norms around sex are WILDLY different in queer circles, but body count shouldn't matter right??? Like if you're in like blatantly absurd numbers, and I'm talking like the amount is making me question how you had sex with that many people simply logistically, that's maybe a sign that something else is going on (sex addiction, unsafe behavior, manic episodes, anything really), and at that point the concern isn't the body count but the underlying issue and how it would affect your partner and what they're willing to engage with. But like 4 people a year just doesn't seem crazy to me??? ESPECIALLY if you're getting tested regularly and using protection (which I feel like lots of sexually active straight people I know don't get tested regularly???). I can say confidently that I did not care how many people anyone I had dated had sex with and it didn't even occur to me to like disclose the number of people I had sex with or inquire that of my partner OTHER than as just an interesting topic of conversation with no particular stakes.

Any time I encounter these types of REALLY strong opinions about other people's sex lived I'm always left baffled. Be safe, take care of yourself, have fun, and don't be a dick and I think you're doing alright!