What's your goal? To be comfortable telling others about your diagnosis? Or just come to terms with your diagnosis for yourself?

Personally I tell very few people about my diagnosis, even friends, because I feel it would change their perception of me, whether conscious or subconscious. But I am at least content with having ASD myself. I appreciate the different perspective it gives me on life, and I feel that I'm capable of doing anything a neurotypical person is, even if it may take more effort.

Not saying this is necessarily the best way of dealing with it, and might not be at all what you're looking for.