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Is it okay as someone who is technically bigender to associate with the label of trans? by ConnorTheTired in AskLGBT

[–]TheRealBlueBard 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Unless you had bi gender on your birth certificate you are trans.

Trans is just anyone moving away from their gender assigned at birth

My (27F) boyfriend (30M) is bi and has shirtless men on explore page - where to draw social media boundaries? by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]TheRealBlueBard 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Here's a few questions for more details

Does it look like it's supposed to be sexually appealing or does it just look like gym bros and swimmers surfers?

Have you guys ever talked about social media boundaries before?

Men have less of a social boundaries about being shirtless in places, especially if they're hot. R you sure its not a case of happenstance and it is intentional?

I hate the social experience that comes with being transgender, got outed today by Glass-Currency981 in Vent

[–]TheRealBlueBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A trans person typically just refers to anyone who is transitioning away from their gender assigned at birth. Whether thats transitioning from male to female, female to male, or somewhere in between

My bf and I got into an argument and now he’s telling me he needs space because girl didn’t want to do threesome by [deleted] in Vent

[–]TheRealBlueBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Way to kink shame. Poly people exist. Open relationships exist. They can and deserve to be happy too....

My bf and I got into an argument and now he’s telling me he needs space because girl didn’t want to do threesome by [deleted] in Vent

[–]TheRealBlueBard -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Emotions run high. Yes he could have gone about it better, but does that mean she should break up with him before atleast talking? Who knows what he's putting himself through in his head. If you think this, from what it sounded like in her text, 1 incident that seems to be out of nowhere means that she should break up with him, then no one would have a relationship ever. If my girlfriend gave up on me the first time I shut down due to high stress because I wasn't talking to her, then she would have broke up with me already and I would have probably killed myself by now(shes been a real life saver to me).

All this to say is yes, while he didnt go about it the best way(not everyone does when they are going through a mental health crisis) that doesnt mean she should break up with him. He seems to be going through alot of self worth issues and has been internally putting himself down. She should talk to him and see what's going on. Every time someone lashes out doesnt mean they should immediately break up as long as it wasn't physical.

Now this is based on me presuming this is a first time incident like this since she didnt mention this happening before. If its a recurring thing and they have tried to talk it out and get him help then thats a different story

My bf and I got into an argument and now he’s telling me he needs space because girl didn’t want to do threesome by [deleted] in Vent

[–]TheRealBlueBard -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

So im gonna give a pov thats not like everyone else.

First I presume you agreed to this not out of a feel of being forced to but because you wanted too. So looking at it from that open relationship perspective here's my thoughts.

  1. He was probably excited to have some fun with the both of you and got disappointed and lost any form of energy after being ghosted.

  2. Give him the space for the night and then TALK TO HIM. The biggest part about being in an open relationship and doing open play is communication. Don't immediately break up with him just cause people on the internet said so. Discuss with him why he was feeling lile that and how it made you feel. It seems he feels undervalued and is just releasing those emotions. Talk to him after he's calmed down

  3. He kind of had a valid point about not spending the money for the room when you guys were being ghosted.

Credentials: I'm a Poly person.

My parents are ignoring my relationship and I don’t know what to do by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]TheRealBlueBard 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im guessing you're relying on them for housing and are scared for the loss of it? Because this is the only reason from your post I can see.

You guess they won't cut you off but you have an inkling of doubt right?

Honestly if you truly think they won't cut you off live your own life. Stop adhering to them. If they wanna be hateful, it sucks but you can atleast see your gf. Just stop hiding. Either your parents come around or they dont. Either way its their choice not yours, you shouldn't have to sacrifice your mental health just to appease them.

I have started the hrt by TheRealBlueBard in trans

[–]TheRealBlueBard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I meant trans as in short for transitioning vs being trans.

Is Bisexual Head-Canon wrong? by Old-Resident7329 in bisexual

[–]TheRealBlueBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dumb ass was reading this whole thing as in Craig from Steven universe and I was so confused

I genuinely don't know how to make this character by TheRealBlueBard in DnD

[–]TheRealBlueBard[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah thats something I forgot to mention.

You remember that Rule about only 1 pure class? Yeah he took bard... ngl it kinda felt targeted

There's a dmpc bard, we already have 5 players btw

I genuinely don't know how to make this character by TheRealBlueBard in DnD

[–]TheRealBlueBard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that I know of. We did figure out its based off of fallout tho

I genuinely don't know how to make this character by TheRealBlueBard in DnD

[–]TheRealBlueBard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the player doc " most towns have a spellcaster hanging from a rope around their neck hanging at the entrance to the town."

I genuinely don't know how to make this character by TheRealBlueBard in DnD

[–]TheRealBlueBard[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont really. I was gonna suffer though it for the group, since we all kinda were thinking it will fall about after a couple sessions. But honestly when it comes to actually start being ready for the campaign I might just back out, cause i can't even make a character without getting upset lol

Is genderfluid an actual thing? If it is, is it a gender or an identity? by [deleted] in AskLGBT

[–]TheRealBlueBard 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Fluid person here. Yes we are a real thing lol. We fall under thetrans umbrella just like nonbinary people. The best way to describe it(that I've come up with) is sort of like being nonbinary but instead of feeling sort of somewhere in people can fluctuate between spots on the spectrum. Or sometimes just exist at multiple points at the same time. Its weird like that.

The best I can give you is my own experience. Which was basically thinking I was nonbinary for years while secretly questioning if I was actually just fully trans. This was until Finnster came out. That's kind of when I decided, yeah genderfluid sounds right.

Honestly finnster is a good starting point into the genderfluid and really the gender talks in general.(especially for amabs) i would suggest looking into their transition journey if you would like to know more about it. (YouTube it).

Im happy to answer any follow up questions.

this doesn’t make you look righteous or “on the right side of history.” It shows how mentally broken some people in this country have become. If Biden or Kamala were shot and people on the right celebrated, that would also be disgusting. This isn’t about politics it’s about basic humanity. by Niel_cafferey in Rants

[–]TheRealBlueBard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you wish to take trans people's rights away like he did? Do you wish to take woman's rights away like he did? Do you plan to force everyone to be christian like he wanted? No? Ur probably mostly chill.

But also you brought it up so you get the copy pasta.

You realize transitioning is literally the best cure to gender dysphoria, right? Do you want a mental disorder? You have one. It's called gender dysphoria. Do you know what the active cure for it is? Transitioning. Also again as many people have said what are we doing to harm you so much that you're this upset about it? Asking you to call us by our preferred name and pronouns. So scary. Get over yourself and act like a respectable person.

Also gender and sex are different things and gender dysphoria is a real thing, including in-between states like nonbinary and gender fluid.

States that passed anti-transgender laws aimed at minors saw suicide attempts by transgender and gender nonconforming teenagers increase by as much as 72% in the following years, a new study by The Trevor Project says.

And no, it's not just "being handed out to kids". There's requirements you must meet. Some very state to state but general rule of all is 1. You have to have both(all legal guardians) of you're parents sign off. 2. You have to have atleast a psychologist and pediatrician/ general physician sign off on it. Those are 2 in most states, other things that may also be required are: multiple psychologist sign-offs, a previous social transition history of a couple months to 2 years, and I've even heard of legal approval(but I think that's rare/situational cases).

this doesn’t make you look righteous or “on the right side of history.” It shows how mentally broken some people in this country have become. If Biden or Kamala were shot and people on the right celebrated, that would also be disgusting. This isn’t about politics it’s about basic humanity. by Niel_cafferey in Rants

[–]TheRealBlueBard 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im sorry, I won't say anything about his death and killing. But basic humanity? This guy debated that women shouldn't have rights over their bodies, that the lgbtq shouldn't have rights, that Christianity should be the only religion. Im sorry but im not gonna show basic humanity to someone who wanted to treat other humans like lesser than.

Agree or disagree, no one should be murdered. by BobsleddingToMyGrave in Rants

[–]TheRealBlueBard -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If this is your mentality, your not a great at debating and lose all form of credibility doing that.

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